CDNWEBGURL1 ~ I'm sorry for all the troubles you are having right now; but you are NOT ALONE in them, trust me. Only a few in my family socialize or keep in contact as they should and could in our family. On top of that, we live very far apart, and that doesn't help matters any. I sent out cards to them all and some friends as well; I do my part to keep in touch, but it isn't always returned, so we have developed our own family of friends network instead.
I am so grateful for the few that I am close to, esp the friends that I feel comfortable around: we had them here for dinner at Christmas and had a nice, simple dinner. This year, I downsized and bought only a few small, quality gifts; I think the company was worth far more than any gifts for us ...
We sent a small grab bag home with our guests, which they loved: with just things that cost $1 or $2 each at the local bargain, department store. I picked up a lovely gift basket for only $5.00 (spa gifts and all new) at a local Christmas sale and the recipient loved it! It was full of lavender bath stuff in a lovely new basket with fancy clear wrap and all. There are bargains to be had out there; we picked up many sale items and saved big; and these small things were just as appreciated as any others.
I know what you mean about the scary return to work; my sister was very ill and went through that same situation. They started her at 2 hours a day, and she has worked her way back up to four x 10 hour days and is doing very well now, although I'm sure it wasn't always easy for her either. I have been there in the past too, as in the eighties and nineties, there were lots of layoffs.
I found myself a couple of nice outfits and started with that. Go through your closet and make up the best two or three outfits you can and rotate them each day. My mother always taught me to pick pieces that would mix and match in the same color scheme to make more outfits ie colorful tops, long vests and skirts, matching slacks, and so forth.
You know there are lots of people here that have been through what you are going through, but now are doing better. We have all been through lean years, and illness, and working and not working and working again. There are ways to be thriftier, until things return to normal again.
If you want to PM me, I would be glad to share some ideas with you that have gotten us thru some tough times in the past. I'd be more than glad to share; and actually did in another thread over the holidays with a lady whose hours were cut back at work recently. EZMONEY even suggested that I write a book about it ... heck, maybe I should.
Anyways, you can do this; I know you can ... one step-at-a-time; one day-at-a-time!!!
We woke up to a wild blizzard this morning and it has just started to slow down in the last hour. Snow with howling north-easterly winds and that will create a lot of jobs over the next day or so. Hope you all have better weather than us; take good care
ROSEBUD