Hi Sheila.
Sheila...If the probate Judge hasn't signed the papers, they're not filed yet. You need to take them to the courthouse. I had to take them, myself. They have a new machine, now. The judge doesn't even have to be there. Cool! Be sure to get his Dr. to document that he shouldn't be handling his own affairs........but, AFTER the papers are filed. See, he has to be competent to give you Power of Attorney. Maybe they were already filed, but you need to find out ASAP. This could be the most important move you make for the future. You may need to get an attorney to look at them, before you do anything, & let him/her advise you.
I know you're going through a lot. Wish I could take some pressure off. Just don't make the mistake of those papers not being filed. If he decides to change POA, he can. Unless, he's incompetent, (but, only after the filing) I hope I haven't mixed you up. I learned a lot this past week, & it wasn't easy to learn.
I hope you get some peace of mind, soon. Your husband sounds like a saint!
Thinking of you,
Charlotte

Good Evening,

I washed the walls and the ceiling in the laundry room because.....that is where the backdoor is, by the garage and that is where people come into our house. We don't use the front door very much, except in the summer, to go out and swing in the porch swing. In the country with these old homes it is a custom to come in the back door, around here anyway.

You don't want any of that snow Sheila? It is all melted right now anyway, Wednesday a big snow storm is suppose to move through southern Wisconsin, and the weather guy said we would be right on the northern edge of it, so I guess we will get more whether we want it or not. The weather map looked like Sunny was going to get more too.

I tried to do too many tasks today and wore myself out. Since I have to go back to my real job tomorrow, I had better get some rest. I was at work for a little while today, had to do some computer clean up so we can do business as usual tomorrow.

Charlotte and Sheila, I am glad you like my house, that made me smile, but I think it has a long way to go before it looks like one of Sunny's posts. Sheila, my heart is aching for you, hope you can find a solution soon. You did the right thing, and you won't have any regrets down the road someday. Sunny hope your are doing ok, get ready for more snow. Diane, hope you are ok and your nephew is recovering.

Good night everyone.

Bluet

P.S. I agree with Charlotte, your husband is a saint.

Bluet

This place is sure hopping! I found us on the second page.

Thanks for the info, Charlotte. I called the estate planner and asked him about filing and other stuff. Luckily, where I live the POA doesn't need to be filed with the court. It is notarized, and doesn't include a competency clause so, although he had to be competent to sign it, I don't have to get a doctor's certification. I had already asked for one prior to getting the information from the estate planner, though. Might as well have too much information rather than not enough. I also started keeping a journal of what's been going on with him. I won't bore you with today's incident, but I lost my cool, yelled "stop it!" and left the room.

Now it makes sense to me, Bluet. I'd heard about the back door custom, too. When I was a kid, we always went around to the back door of my aunt's house. You know, they really don't make back doors much anymore. None of the houses we ever bought had a back door, although they all had sliders. And they all had fenced yards so people wouldn't come that way anyway. In some areas, there are new developments that are trying to get people to use their front porches more and be more neighborly. Works well if you like your neighbors! It's sad to say, but after two years here, I know the first names of the people on the west side of us, the full name of the people on the northeast side (although I've never actually seen their now 18 month old baby), and the first name of the person on the east side who has lived in that house for probably 20 years now. I don't know the names of the people across the street except for the older couple who have lived their since I was in grade school, and who babysat me in third grade.

I'm glad that at least a few of your days off were spent relaxing, Bluet. You certainly needed some relaxing time. How was your first day back at work after four days off?

Tomorrow the realtor comes. I've already prepped her. She helped us with the sale of my Dad's property up north. Then my Dad asked me to visit the assisted living place tomorrow afternoon. He sounded pretty upbeat about it after visiting there today. While I'm glad, it kind of made me sad. I hate thinking of him there alone, but we can't afford to stay here if we don't stay in this house. Seattle is expensive! All I can do is write letters, which I actually enjoy doing. It's a lost art, I think.

Diane, thinking of you and hoping that your nephew is doing better. SunnyD, hope to see you here soon!

Have a great Wednesday, everyone!

Hello,

Sheila this all happening so fast, I am surprised you even got your Dad to agree to an assisted living place. Will you move again? Where will you go? I was reading an article this evening, that talked about behavior changes in the elderly, one thing the article mentioned was a thyroid deficiency and/or small strokes, causing memory lose and confusion. I am glad you got the POA figured out. My first day back to work was ok, I was tired, and really wanted to be at home, but I got the payroll done and the payables entered and solved a general ledger problem, so I feel successful.

We are in for several days of snow and snow showers, up to two or three inches. South of us is really going to get hit hard according to the weather guy. I hope it doesn't decide to swing higher and sock us in. This storm is coming all the way from California. The news is so grimm out of India and Iraq, I shouldn't be complaining about a little old snow storm.

Well, Sunny and Diane, we miss you and looking forward to when you will be back and posting again. Charlotte, hope you are feeling well and things are working out with your thumb. Fatpuss, miss you very much.

Good night everyone and have a good Wednesday.

Bluet