No, it's a catchy name and is a site where you basically post profiles of men who you know that you wouldn't date, but you think is dateable. It looks kind of like it, though!

This is driving me nuts.

I met my fiance on Match.com. I loved it. I did the buy 6 months get 6 months free. It really isn't that expensive. They send you new e-mails every week with new matchs that you are compatable with.

I met my boyfriend on okcupid.com. It's only been a month, but things are going really really well. I'd only met one other guy before him from the site, and that guy was nice, but things didn't really 'click' with him. Luckily I didn't come across anyone really creepy, and the two guys I met were pretty much exactly like their profiles.

I'll second the suggestion about being completely honest and upfront in your profile. Also, watch how invested you get in someone just through talking to them online. It's easy to get attached to someone, only to have things not work out once you meet, and that kind of sucks.

Do you ladies initiate contact on these websites or do you wait for the men to contact you?

I met my boyfriend on a dating site called "Plenty of Fish"

I was scared and nervous at first, but we wrote to each other a lot, and finally decided to have our first date. It's like the date never ended.

Here we are a year later and he's the most wonderful person in my life. I can't get enough of him, we've had our ups and downs, as do any couple, but in the end he's the most amazing man I've ever met in my life. We've even talked about, one day, maybe getting married.

So, it's different for everyone, I've had bad experiences on-line as well. However, if I didn't bring up the courage to send my man that first e-mail, I would never be as happy as I am now. He's so supportive, strong, he's exactly what I need.

He gave me a hug after I dropped him off from work last night and he gasped and wrapped his arms around me and said "OH MY GOSH YOU'RE SO SKINNY!!" it made me feel really good. I've tried hard to loose weight and I couldn't of gotten this far on my own. He's everything.

So you may be scared and nervous, but you would be scared and nervous if you were dating in real life too!

I think the best way of filtering out the "fails" is by having a DETAILED profile. Don't include "I like TV, movies, and music" and nothing else, because you are just gonna get "I like your titties" responses. My profile on plentyoffish contained about 30 other hobbies, including some rather unusual ones, and a lot of stuff in the about me section, so it was really easy to filter out the trash when I got messages. The guys who specifically comment on items in your profile and give a reason are your best bets, since clearly they have a peresonal interest in you. Most people don't take the time to write a bunch of lies if they aren't really interested, at least in my experience. They just don't write at all.

Also, don't spend a long time with e-mail/chat. You are going to date someone, not email them forever. Chat or mail 2-3 times and then just decide to meet. That's what happens "out there". People just meet. Meet in a public place and just do it already! Chemistry happens in person, not on the phone. I'm horrible on the phone, even with my boyfriend, but in person, No Problem.


I met my first long term boyfriend on plentyoffish about 1 1/2 years ago. We were together about 8 months, though the chemistry wasn't there, but we are still friends. Neither of us had dated much, him since high school and me only a handful of dates, all starting after college, so we both REALLY needed that relationship. I reached my highest weight ever during that time (255) but it didn't bother him at all. I met a handful of other people of POF as well, none of which I met with again, but it was good to just go on a date, since I'd had so few.


The guy I saw long term also getting married this summer, to a girl he met while we were dating (no, no cheating or anything) and they both thanked me, because he met her indirectly through me, even though we didn't know each other, frm coming to one of my regular recreational activities.

So even if the chemistry just isn't there with the person(s) you meet, the dating itself is important, for your self esteem, and practice! And sharing each others activities and new ones you both may try introduce you to a greater range of people. I met my current bf (and likely future husband, as we have talked about frequently) at a weekly dance, introduced to me by friends. So, TRY NEW STUFF!