Let me just say, I know how you all feel. I've been through it all before. But it doesn't really bother me anymore. Wanna know why?

I might sound like a dirty old man but here goes.

I can't tell you how many times I've looked at a fat woman and have thought..."Oh my god she is effin' gorgeous."

And I don't mean attractive like the old woman who bakes cookies is attractive. I mean I've seen some very large women who had an erotic air about them, which combined with their confidence and beauty, made me see them as complete knockouts. Sexy as can be.

So ladies...you may not be kidding yourselves as much as you think. I guarantee you all look fabulous. Some people may not be able to take their eyes off of you because they see exactly what I see!

Delusional, thy name is Jenna. I don’t feel as fat as I am, which can really be a bad thing, I feel like I look a lot thinner than I really do, and then I have a mini heart attack when I get a glimpse of myself in a mirror.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think I look like a size six or anything but I don’t feel like a size 22 so it’s a really rude awakening when I see myself looking exactly like a size 22 or larger

HEAR, HEAR!

I think a woman can very much be fat AND sexy (men too!) This is going to sound weird to some, but I usually feel quite attractive even being close to 240 pounds. Delusional? Maybe so, but like others have said, your own self-confidence (faked if needed) makes an incredible difference in how people perceive you.

I'm trying to lose weight more for the effects on my health than on my ability to hold my head up when I go out in public. I admit I am not a huge fan of my fat thighs or my upper arms, but I'm not rubbing ash on my face and wearing baggy black clothes either It's just fat, it's not a moral failing

Ladies, at the risk of sounding like a Dove commercial: I hope you can celebrate your bodies and see the beauty in them

This is very true. I have met some incredible looking "fat" women. One of the most beautiful, and sexiest women I ever met was wearing a size 32... My gawd she was stunning and her sister was slim... And didn't look half as good.

Still chuckling over the "dirty old man" part of your post though.

I took my 12YO to my TOPS meeting last night, and he commented on how pretty one of the women was. The ironic thing was that she was the largest woman in the room. (Most of the members in my chapter have only 20-30 pounds to lose.) He assured me that he didn't want to marry her - a 12YO can hardly give a female a compliment without adding in that caveat - but I thought his comment was very interesting. He was right, too. She is a beautiful woman who actually looks quite a bit like Sandi.