I've been called a beached whale more times then I can count. I try my best to ignore them, people are very cruel. One day they will be jealous of how I look.

What is it with relatives? Why do they feel as if they have the right to comment on weight gain or loss, what we eat, what we wear, etc.??

It's definitely manners, but I think it's even more than that: It's empathy. It's putting yourself in someone else's shoes and realizing how that person might feel if you were to say that to him/her.

Lin43: right? My mom got this thing and it was completely pointless for her to have it and I said "You know, it doesn't really work if you weigh more than a hundred pounds" and she got all upset, as if ANYONE would not know she weighed over 100 lbs (she's about 350-380 lbs right now, not sure).. and then I apologized because I realized I wouldn't like it if someone said that to me but it seems like she tries to make me feel like total sh!t every time I see her and she NEVER apologizes, even when she makes me cry. (She's about the only person I know who can make me cry.. but mostly it's because I'm so mad there's nothing else I can do short of hitting something)

They know how to hit where it hurts, don't they? My mother has draconian ideas about dieting. So, for example, I was on the phone with her today, and now that it's starting to get cooler where I live, I thought it would be nice to start baking some "fall" things (I like to bake, but only do it once in a while). I calorie count, so if I have a treat, I make sure it fits into my plan. I told my mother I was thinking about baking an apple pie from scratch. Her response: "You don't need an apple pie! You'll just eat it and gain weight!" to my mother--4 ft 11, 115 lbs.---eating anything but plain oatmeal, salad, and broiled fish is indulging.

I've learned to let it go in one ear and out the other.


I must say, though, that it pains me to read the cruel remarks people have to put up with from complete strangers. Why on earth would anyone just want to ruin another person's day? It baffles me.

lin- I'm a baking and pastry student, and I have to bake a lot.. which I love! and I'm trying to learn how to make more healthy things, and even when I don't make super healthy things I usually keep a tiny bit for my household and give the rest away, but my mom always criticizes me for baking so much and tells me that it's going to make me fatter. Hah! I've been baking all week and have lost 8 lbs! Take THAT! They really do know exactly what to say to knock you flat on your butt, though. What's worse is that since they're our parents we can't really do it back to them.. at least, we're not supposed to.

I know this is an old thread, but I wanted to share...


I'll never forget the time I was utterly humiliated by a crude, heartless remark. I stopped at McDonald's one day for lunch a few years ago and the girl at the counter saw me, turned to the crew behind her and said loudly, "I'm going to need some help up here!" as if implying I was about to order everything from the menu. Her co-workers, including someone who appeared to be the "manager" all laughed as if it were the funniest thing they'd ever heard. I never felt as low as I did in that moment. People can definitely be cruel!

I would have reported that sh*t and got them all in trouble with corporate. Or at least threatened to just to get free food. lol

You know my opinion on that one: everyone who laughed at that joke, Becky, WORKS AT MCDONALDS. Nuff said.

Total scumbags but as I said somewhere before it's not just that they're going around picking on overweight people. If they see anybody different at all they'll make a comment. When I was younger I was walking around in a pair of platform Mary Jane shoes with studs on them. I was wearing pretty normal clothes other than that but then comes along a car full of young guys who felt the need to shout "look at your shoes, you freak" etc. They even seemed angry by it, offended even. Some other guys shouted at me from a house. They're just looking for something because they're pathetic little losers.

When I was heavier when I was younger (maybe 190?) I overheard a few remarks from young people and when I was at school I definitely experienced some bullying for my weight. I'm actually finding it hard to remember specifics for some reason.

It always baffles me that people who are not big cannot comprehend that these things do actually happen to us, quite regularly in fact. Sometimes it's not even overt; but we are treated like second-class citizens.

Lucky them that they've never known what it's like to have people smirk and laugh at you as you walk past; or to have dumba**, fugly guys scream abuse at you from a moving car -- seriously, I cannot count the number of times this has happened to me. I almost expect it now when I leave the house for a walk because it happens that often.

I've been insulted by cab drivers (I was with a friend, who is also overweight, and we had some food. When he dropped us home he said, "You two aren't gonna go in there and scoff all that food, are you? Tsk, tsk, tsk..."). I've been called a fat b*tch and all variations of the term more times than I can count.

I'm tired of it. So, so tired. I'm getting the weight off, so hopefully I won't have to deal with it for much longer, but honestly? I have lost so much respect for men my age and people in general. I think most people are a*sholes, tbh. I have no faith in humanity.

I've had the same incidents. I really can't do anything about those. I recall even being maybe 160lbs at the time for some of them, so what can you do.

What I CAN do is maybe change 1 person's mind for tolerance. I tend to like watching those new shows that are on, like "My 600lb life." Sometimes my 10 year old son will watch them with me and we talk about them. Hopefully someday he'll never be hanging out a car window mooing at someone...

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