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Originally Posted by MissKelly
I think a lot of the distortion of the word "curvy" today VS the yesterdays meaning comes from online dating. Prior to the online dating boom....curvy just meant a "non-stick" shape, more buxom...nice, gentle feminine curves. In online dating, there are so many heavy women that are in denial of their shape...instead of selecting.."a few extra pounds"...or "BBW"....they choose curvy. (and remember...many of us never saw ourselves as BIG as we really are/were...same goes for them) Well...I think this is whats putting the "big" mindset in the word "curvy" into the public eye. I think we all know a man or 2 who've met women online who were unsuspectingly quite overweight who misrepresented themselves with "curvy." If I were a man & I wanted a curvy woman...& she showed up to a date at 5'5 & 240lbs...sorry... but that's not exactly "curvy." It would screw up my mindset on the whole "curvy" meaning. Word of mouth is the best form of advertising & I seriously believe that's how "curvy" has started to get a bad rap....from those who misuse it. Just like when people put "about average,"...average what...average fat?! No...about "an average denial." I know guys who avoid "curvy" & "about average" on dating sites for this very reason & will only seek out thin and athletic to avoid those who totally misrepresent themselves.
This hit really close to home. I've done this exact thing. At 5'8" 230 lbs (or whatever weight I was then), I always selected "curvy" or "about average" on those dating sites. Sadly, I severely misrepresented myself.
Hence, I don't ever describe myself as "curvy" on dating sites now. I chose "slender".