Popping in to say hello and

I have been doing really pretty well making better choices in eating. I need to get back to writing everything down and tracking my calories. That was definitely one of the things that a major factor in my previous success. In general I am feeling pretty good about getting back into the groove of things, albeit slowly (which I am fine with).

Went to the pool again today. That's the first time we have gone more than once a week in awhile. I used to be such a slog to get there on the bus. I was even able to go to the store on the way home. I feel like the energizer bunny is starting to kick in again. I hope so, because I'm really tired of just maintaining.

What a night....

Staged an intervention with my sister for my alcoholic father tonight. He's gotten to an extremely bad/dangerous place and I've actually been receiving calls from his co-workers over the past two days (who have known him for many years) about how he is now in danger of losing his job. He's already lost a lot of his mind.... it's incredibly sad and scary to witness your Dad deteriorate this way. Esp. when he's only 53. So, tonight it finally came to ahead. Went to him out of love and expressed our feelings and wanted to take him to a rehab facility so that he can get the help he needs (and save his job, house, life, etc.) and he refused. Laughed in our faces even. I don't think he really comprehends everything that's happening. His mental state is sometimes questionable and he has not taken the meds that were prescribed to him over a year ago. The extreme drinking on top of that (we're talking while driving, while at work, etc.) I think he's killing himself. It's bad. I'm at a loss... it's just me and my younger (22 y.o.) sister in the area to help him, and he has refused our help. Has anyone ever dealt with a similar situation with a family member? I spoke to many people on the phone tonight both local and national and heard a lot of good advice but when it comes down to it, he is his own person and we cannot force him into rehab. Until he proves himself to be a danger by actually getting caught breaking the law or god forbid, hurting someone....

Grrrrrrrrrr. What a mess.

I am channeling my stress and anxiety and transforming it into high intensity aggression while I work out. lol. Wish I had a punching bag!

Hippiemama...im soo sorry to hear about what you are going thru and i wish i had some advice for you but unfortunately i dont..my dad is a recovering alcohol and he has been sober since 1980 and my mom left my dad when i was 4 so i didnt really have to deal with it but here is a big hug from me and i hope you will be able to help your dad somehow and figure out a way to get him to go to rehab

a big hug from me to you..

Im glad to hear that you are getting out your frustration and aggression with exercise which is great cause a situation like that could cause a person to get off track with their diet so keep it up and i hope things get better for you soon and im sorry that i didnt have better advice for you..sorry but im hear if you want to talk to me ok?

Twighlight: HUGS sweetie sounds like you are going through alot!

Nancy: I am with you on writing everything down..that is what I need to start doing again

Hippie: I am soo sorry for what is going on with your father. That has to be a hard situation. I know alcoholism is a hard thing from some to get over. HUGS to you

As for me: Last night I came home..we watched a movie..about 10 min before it was over..my youngest son was complaining about his stomach hurting. I asked if he drank milk..he said yes. I had asked him to leave the milk alone because a few days he had cereal for breakfast and had instant diarhea. He ended up vomiting and running a temp of 101. I ofcourse immediatley thought he has the swine flu..and I swear I started having an anxiety attack. Hubby was mad telling me its not swine calm down. I checked on him through the night and he slept well. This morning his fever is gone. I know when I have "food allergy attacks" the same thing happens to me. So I am wondering if he is no allergic to milk ..just milk not milk products cause he eats cheese and ice cream. As a mom..I have got to learn to be a little more calm. But those of you that are moms out there..we just worry about our kiddos no matter what their age is. I am keeping him home from school today...and I will check on him from work. My brother and oldest son are home.

Hey guys, I have decided to drop my Phil of Religion class. I feel like a failure, but it's the best thing right now. I am weighing todday, I am pretty sure I have lost. I have a swimming lesson at 7:45. Wish me luck!

Amanda

Oh I also forgot to mention that I have a personal trainer! His name is Alex! He's a sweetie. We start on Saturday.

xoxo

So in general I am not a fan of the "I'll start dieting on Monday or {insert date}", but the fact that November starts on Sunday has me thinking that it is a great time to get back to being serious about things. My job for the next couple of days is to decide exactly what that means for me (within reasonability) and form an action plan, while not using setting a date as an excuse to go crazy and eat a bunch of junk until then.

With Halloween coming up I'm a bit blech....I love Halloween, but it brings back memories from my past and I miss my Mother a lot right now. So, I've been a bit quiet and well not feeling well on top of that....feeling better now, hasn't improved my mood.

I did step on the scale today and my weight is, apparently, jumping between 265 and 268, so I'm bouncing around a lot. I do that when I hit a plateau and I believe I have...I basically lose the same weight, then bounce back up a bit, however, I'm making some adjustments and changes for next week and will stick to them. Learning that balance is key. I can do this, no doubt about that, just a bit frustrated with myself not being able to "do it all perfectly at once" lol. Ya'll know how it is I'm sure. Baby steps as Heather says...

I have a few goals for the weekend

- EAT, do NOT skip meals, do NOT rely on cooked foods
- EXERCISE, you're well now so get back to exercising
- FRESH RAW FOODS, eat fresh raw foods for 90% of your food intake
- COOKED HEALTHY TREATS, at dinner I can have some roasted veggies, something I like that is healthy, but not overdoing it.
- GET RID OF DA CARBS, no more potatoes!...and fries...

Good morning ladies...i did my 1 hr circuit training today so im very proud of myself cause the weather is rainy, chilly and gloomy today the kind of weather you want to just cuddle up under a blanket for awhile which i might do later after i clean up my house a little bit so just thought i would come on here and say a quick hi to everyone and have a good friday...i will be back later!

Heather

Hello my peeps!

Just FYI, I am still taking my guitar lessons. It has been wonderful and challenging and I'm learning so much. My guitar teacher is so patient.

My head cold went into a sinus infection, but I think the antibiotics are finally starting to kick in (crosses fingers and toes).

Hippie, my sister was sober for 13 years and got into a relationship that ended that.. badly. She's still drinking. There's nothing I can say that she hasn't already heard. I've been told you can't "12 step" your family (sorta like an intervention with another AA member). I just try to remember that she has a Higher Power (G*d, w/e) just like I do.. Someone who wants her to succeed and be her best. I forget I need not only to trust in the one I pray to, but to trust the plan her's has for her as well. I hope that makes sense.

Hugs to all, especially my sweet lurkers!!

Luv,
Ratkity

Good morning ladies...happy halloween! I decided to change my weigh-in day to saturdays i guess cause i really liked when i had it on fridays and then i changed it to monday but im going to make saturday mornings my weigh-in days so as of this morning i am down 2 lbs! Im happy about that but i wish it would have been more but i have been doing more circuit training this week with weights so that may be why i didnt lose as much cause im building muscle and that weighs more but anyway slow and steady wins the race right so i am very happy with my weigh-in today..be back later!

Heather

Welcome to the group Learn..all the ladies here are really nice and helpful so pull up and chair and get comfy and enjoy your stay!
Heather