Do any of you resent the compliments?

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  • Personally I don't think I could ever get sick of compliments! As a SAHM mom I don't get out much so I don't get the compliments from co-workers that you get. But obviously the backhanded ones that intimate you looked really awful before aren't nice - even if we DID look really awful!!

    Also since I started maintaining, there has been little to brag about - lol. I can't say "Oh I lost another two pounds this week" any more, so people tend to forget. But I do look forward to the times when I arrange to meet someone I haven't seen for a while just to watch their jaws drop when I walk in! Good times!

    It was nice realising I was in a smaller size than someone I had always admired at work as being really slim!!
  • Quote: People are funny. I have been maintaining in a 4 pound range since about the end of August. People I see all the time are saying "You need to stop losing weight. Have you lost more? You're too skinny."

    It's so funny how people can feel comfortable asking personal questions of someone who has lost weight. I think they mean it well for the most part, and some might even be looking for encouragement or a way to meet their own goals, but it's like all social rules go flying out the window.
    I could have written this, as I've had the same experience. While I do enjoy a simple compliment, it is tiresome when people feel that your weight loss makes you fair game for all sorts of personal questions that can go on and on and on and on -- particularly in group social situations. It becomes embarrassing and awkward in the extreme. I don't want to go into such an in-depth discussion of how fat I was at someone's wedding in front of 7 strangers who just happened to be seated at my table, you know?
  • When I walked into my aunt's house on Thanksgiving the first thing she said LOUDLY and with a room full of people, some of whom I did not know. "You have lost weight - keep working on it and you'll get there." Seriously W.T.F.? I had told her I had been running and was doing a 5k that morning and had talked to her on the phone about dropping off some of my “fat” clothes off at the Salvation Army but I don’t think that’s an invitation to call me out publicly. I would have sincerely appreciated her telling me quietly and privately that my work was paying off but I was totally flabbergasted by how she said it. I bit my tongue and did not reply with - "Oh the new moustache cream must be working, you're looking way less hairy"

    She's never been large in her life though so maybe she doesn't get it?

    ETA - no suggestions really other then take it with a grain of salt and come back here to gripe to people who understand
  • Someone today told me... "it's absolutely incredible how thin you are." She was just marveling at it, eyes wide open, mouth agape...

    I just laughed. There didn't really seem to be a better response. I DON'T KNOW IF SHE WAS PAYING ME A COMPLIMENT OR (sorry little boy standing next to keyboard) warning me about something.