Good morning

Where the heck is everyone?
DD has a doctor appointment this afternoon, and I am so curious to see how it goes. She is really feelling the pains of pregnacy......so I hope it it not much longer.
EMIL called last night and asked DH to come to florida to help close up his grandma's condo and get this mom and grandma off to the airport to Wisconsin. His Grandma has not been well and has been in and out of the hospital and a rehab center. She will be going to a rehab center in Wisconsin for a short time, and then to EMIL's house to live. I encouraged DH to go help his grandma......but I am trying sooo hard not to be mad at EMIL. How could she possibly ask HIM of all people (there are other family members) to come help at a time like this. His first grandchild could easily be born while he is away.......and you just can't repeat that. DD is going to feel bad.....no matter what the reason. She will understand.....but she will still really miss DH if she has the baby while he is gone. Also.....how the **** am I going to manage everything if she goes into labor? I know I will be fine......but WTF? I don't have ANY family here, and I have very few friends who can help out........and one of them is starting chemotherapy on Monday.......so I can't ask her to be around my sick kids. My only resource is my across the street neighbor. I am going to go talk to her today to see if she is going to be around sunday through tuesday.
Also....it is always OUR family that is expected to make sacrifices, because everyone else has to, "work." Don't EVEN get me started on that one. Apparently because I am a stay at home mom, and because DH is in management......we are more able than anyone else in the family to drop everything at any time to help. His brother is single, no kids......but he just can't help with anything because he has to work. He is a police officer, and apparently has no say in any days off and has no vacation days at all. Whatever. It just makes me so mad, cuz when DH takes days off, for whatever reason.....he then works 14-16 hour days for days or even weeks to catch up......cuz noone does his job (for the most part) while he is gone. What that boils down to is I become a single parent not only for the time he is gone, but how ever long it takes him to get caught up......and he gets stressed, cuz he wants to be in both places. Don't get me wrong.....he is still around for our kids and such....but it is a vicious cycle......and ultimately, it affects our kids.
It's not that DH even minds helping his family.......it's just the fact that they somehow think our obligations are less than other family members..................You know.....DH and I have been talking aboutgoing to see his Grandma for weeks........I think it is important.....and I was all for him going....until I found out grandma was going back to wisconsin on Tuesday. As soon as the baby is born, we can so easily go visit her in wisconsin.....our whole family. she lives in the same town as my parents and his mother. DH can go spend as much time with her as she likes and I can keep the kids busy with friends and family. I don't know what it is like to "close up a condo," but really, only EMIL has been there over the last three months......how difficult can it be? I would never ask my child to leave his/her child at a time liike this. If grandma was getting worse instead of better, it would be a different story........ I am just sooo perplexed over this situation........
Anyway.......I forgot to mention yesterday...Paula.....I am glad DH is doing ok. What a long couple of weeks for you both. Did everything go ok yesterday? I sure have been thinking of you.....
Big hellos to everyone, and welcome to all of the newbies!!!! Keep fighting the fight..........one day at a time. Together.....WE CAN DO THIS!!!
XOXO