Sabrina -- Well, that "almost" is definitely an "almost" no matter how you slice it. You mentioned going through the motions and yeilding no results...maybe if you shake things up it won't feel so blah and the results might be what you're looking for too. I don't know how much you want to dig into the numbers of it but we could if you want...but maybe you were mostly venting, looking for some positive vibes from us and now I'm jumping into that role of trying to "fix it" for you?

What I do KNOW is that the weight will come off but plans have to be adjusted overtime...maybe it's that time for you...or maybe it's just a down cycle with our ever inconsistent female emotions that you'll get over soon.

Either way...BIG and an even BIGGER

Oh yea, and I totally know what you mean about afternoon snacking at work. I just ate a Kirkland Chocolate Chunk Cookie from a package someone brought in this morning. 210 calories...Yikes!! But boy oh boy was it ever good!

Jami, I don't know if you have ever read my blog..but in my most recent post I wrote about how when it gets hard, I always want to lean on someone else to give me the answers. "Do this" and "Eat that" and put it in front of me so I don't have to think about it... On the one hand, I think I'm great at auto pilot. Someone tells me what needs doing, and I'm great at just doing it. But on the other hand.. how will I learn to do it on my own if I don't take the time to figure it out for myself. Everyone's different, you know, so it's not like what someone else says worked for them will necessarily work for me.

Except the general concept of eat right, get moving, drink water, get plenty of rest seems to be the right formula for the general population - if only needing a little personal tweaking of how much and when based on the person in question.

So is my lack of momentum my own fault for not figuring out the correct amounts to put together into this formula? Or am I following someone else's formula and that's why it isn't working? You see where my inner dialogue takes me?

Then I go back and read all that crap I write and realize how much of a whiner I sound like. Why can't I just shut up and do it? Right?

Currently I'm sucking on a tic tac so I won't shovel pretzels into my mouth.

Sometimes it's just a tic tac kind of day, right? LOL.

Sabrina - First, this is our SAFE spot, so whine away. Not only that I'd venture to say everyone here has had the same exact whines from time to time.

Next - you are eating likely below your BMR, which means that although you may not be losing 3 pounds a week, you shouldn't be gaining, and you are probably losing a little bit right now. Plus, you are going through some emtional turmoil with the recent nearby violence, and you need to face up to the fact that although you'd like everything to just "be normal" (including your weightloss and eating plan), it might not be for a while as you work through it. So long as you are aware, and not letting anything get out of control (and from what you've said, you certianly aren't), and each day is coming into a little clearer focus, you'll return to normal and be able to have more energy to spend on this part of your life. In the meantime, stay the course, resist the binges (if you are prone to them), and if things aren't getting better for you over time like they should worry about that when the time comes. [By the way, I'm the queen of telling people to do those "easier said than done" things!]

ilbnej - I looked into the BMR thing, just to see if I was even close, and if I did the calculation the way they said to do it, my BMR is 1982.35 (based on height, weight, age, gender). According to the chart, if you are lightly active (light exercise/sports 1-3 days/week): Calorie-Calculation = BMR x 1.375. I chose lightly active because most of the time I do an hour of exercise every day..but there are times I don't, and I have a sedentary job... so I'm being conservative.

so, 1982.35 x 1.375 = 2725.73

For losing fat, they suggest limiting your calories by 500 a day. That would put me at about 2225 calories. I've been eating at or just under 2,000. By their calculations, I should be losing pretty steady, without adding any calorie burning to the mix.

This is where individual situations come in and I wonder if I'm somehow calculating things wrong for myself or if there's something I don't get because I don't see what they're telling me I should see.

I snuck in a weigh in when I woke up tonight (night shift). I'm almost down to 266! Woohoo!

Hey Sabrina! Im sorry you were having a tough day yesterday, and i hope you woke up today feeling stronger. Youve already lost alot of weight, so it seems normal to have these little struggles. have you tried changing something up? even just buying a new food to mix into your diet (a new fruit/veggie/yogurt/cheese) that you can fit into your calories, but gives you something different. maybe walk around the ailes at Whole Foods and look for something that makes you feel incredibly healthy but still fits. alot of time change sends a breath of fresh air into a stale situation. hpoefully it will be enough to distract you from that 'stuck' feeling/ the 'stuck' feeling is 10x worse if you focus on it! it's like watching for water to boil

congrats devnet!

true to self, the day or so after my weigh in, the scale moved down even more. i weighed in at 263 on wednesday (down 1.5 from last week's weigh in) and then today, it's at 260 exactly

Down 0.9 this morning to 257.7! Another new low for me!! It's also ticker change day...woo hoo! I'm heading out this afternoon for a camping trip so I won't be back on line until Sunday evening and no WIs until Monday! ACK!! Wish me luck ladies!! I've never had an OP camping weekend...but for some reason, this trip feels VERY different... I'm finally going to head over to the 250's thread...SO EXCITED!!!

Sabrina -- Yay for checking about the BMR stuff. I find all of that information so interesting. What I focus on for calories is my net calories each day which is Calorie Intake - BMR - Exercise. "They" say that 1lbs of fat equals 3500 calories so I try to keep my net calories at -1000 each day which should equal about 2lbs lost per week. So for me, my BMR is about 2600, and I get in anywhere from 540 - 700 cal burned each day which is a range of 3140 - 3300 so in order to lose 2lbs/week, I need to keep my calorie intake under 2100 to 2300 or so.

devnet -- woo hoo!!!

DCchick -- Congrats on hitting 260!! You'll be joining the next decade in NO TIME!!!

bye Jamisue!!! CONGRATS! we'll see you in the 250's thread soon!!

So glad to see that I am not the only one wanting to get out of the awful 260s. I can't wait to see 259.9 lol! We can all do this together. It's hard on me where I am restarting the weight loss once again but I'm looking toward that bright light at the end of the long tunnel. I want to be active with my daughter and not feel so tired and sluggish all the time because of my weight. I think she is my main motivation! This website is such a big help for me I love reading everyone's progress and knowing I have felt the same as most on here have. GOOD LUCK TO ALL ON GETTING TO THE 250s!!

Friday's my "official" weigh in day, and this morning I was 262.4 lbs. It's down 0.2 but it moved, right? And technically, it's down 2.2 lbs from last Friday's "official" weigh in, albeit I'm re-losing the pounds gained that TOM brought with it.

I think water weight and stress both are holding me where I am. My goal today is to just forget the number and do the right things anyway. And I need to refocus my attentions and be more productive today. I have spent the whole week at work basically just holding down my chair and I hate feeling like there's no reason for me to be in the office. I don't feel like I did anything productive this week and I know there's things I can be doing, even if I don't feel like it. Perhaps focusing on those things will get me back on track and keep me busy enough that I won't think about this stuff so much today. I'm slightly OCD and when I feel unorganized or out of step, it ruins basically everything I touch until I get it back in order. So I'm going to focus on getting things back in order today and perhaps that will reboot my mood and create a productive attitude for the weekend.

devnet - congratulations on the loss! You're moving right along and will be through the 260's in no time!

DCchick - that's awesome, girl! You're so close!!! You'll be right behind Jami!

Jami - Have a great time on your camping trip! Don't gain back those pounds this weekend.. because as much as we'll miss you in this thread, you need to get your butt over to that 250's thread and dominate, girl! Don't go too far, because I definitely plan to keep in touch with you.. and want to keep picking your brain so I can join you in the 250's soon!

Devnet and DCChick - awesome news on both of your losses!

Jami - we'll miss you here, but I can't wait to catch up with you in the 250s - if you don't make it out of there before I get there - even if you do, there are other threads - don't worry, I'll find you. (ok, so that sounded creepier than I meant it to!) In the meantime, have a great trip!

Mommy1028 - Welcome!

Sabrina - hope you were able to successfully "reboot" (love that term) today. I totally know what you mean about getting so overwhelmed it is hard to focus on anything.

HI all fellow 260 lb women! I'm new to the site..weighed in at 267 at my first meeting with WW., this past Wednesday..
This is the heaviest I have ever been in my life.. I really noticed the last ten pound gain, I felt it all over my body. Sleeping was hard, moving around is getting harder, feeling non-graceful in every way..

I also need to fall in love with exercise..something I haven't been doing..I feel so lazy..then again 100 lbs overweight is a pretty big drag on the system..

My first goal is 5% which is 13 lbs. That would bring my weight down to 254.. I wonder if I will feel any different?
then my next goal is to get to 10 %..
my bigger goal is to get to onederland (also no longer obese)... eeeek 68 lbs away..holy cow..
then the biggest goal is to get to 161lbs healthy BMI..

I really want to do this..need all the support I can get.. thanks

That was my start weight also but now I am down to 261 this morning! So excited to the see the 260s slowly creeping away! Keep your head up you can do it!!

ilbnej - Thanks, hon. I think I did the trick yesterday. I started working on something that I really didn't want to deal with, but by the time I had started, I needed to finish it. It successfully distracted me the rest of the afternoon and I didn't have any time to think about anything else. When I got home, it was "leftover night" and I threw a ton of veggies and some chicken into a huge bowl and had a giant salad for dinner. Went to bed at a decent hour and got a full night of sleep last night (so rare for me!).

Weight this a.m. was 261.6 lbs. It's going back down. TOM is gone. My back isn't hurting nearly as much as it was a couple days ago. Overall, I feel pretty good this morning. Hopefully it gives me willpower to get through the birthday party we're supposed to go to today. I forgot that as kids get older, they get invited to more parties. Will be glad when they start getting invited and are old enough that I don't need to be there too. So. Much. Cake.

SLIMplicity - to the club! This is a great group of supportive ladies. Believe me when I say that I know how you feel about that extra weight making you feel sluggish. It was like I woke up one day and suddenly everything hurt all the time and I realized how big I had gotten and getting started on losing the weight was suddenly very important to me. If you work on it every day, do something positive every day for your health.. it will add up to success. And if you're anything like me, then yes, you will feel the difference with even a 13 pound loss. If you're not physically feeling better, you'll mentally feel better having that kind of success, making that kind of progress. It will give you drive to keep going. Stick with us, girl! We're here to cheer you on!