Ammi -

6 pounds!!! That is fantastic! You are definitely on your way! Regarding Dr. Who, I watched some of the older stuff, but only casually. I am thinking I would like to go back and get some of the old stuff. The problem is that my BF isn’t all that interested because the effects aren’t good enough. He is such a scifi snob!
Maria Lucia – Your class sounded great! And I agree – this exercise thing? It is all Wyllen’s fault. Oh . . . maybe that means I owe her something, because it is one of the best things I have ever done!
Jill – The other thing that really got me when talking was his dismissal of certain things I said. He would say something like, “But that’s not what I meant, so you shouldn’t feel that way.” And I would say, “Well, maybe I shouldn’t feel that way, but that is how I felt.” Feelings can be somewhat irrational at times, but it is never ok to dismiss them.
Thanks everyone for your input about the money issues.
Xena – I don’t think you are being too harsh at all. You know what you can and can’t live with. I actually remember my dad broke up with one of his girlfriends because she was too flaky and irresponsible (and this was a SUPER intelligent woman, but she couldn’t balance a checkbook). I totally didn’t understand it at the time – doesn’t love transcend those things? But no – he knew he couldn’t build a relationship with someone he always had to worry about, so he broke it off.
SueMarie – He does pay the bills on time, he just doesn’t always have the money to buy the things he wants and the costs pile up on his credit cards. At least with debit cards you can only spend so much. With credit, you can just keep spending! He has at least one card that just keeps upping his limit.
Dogpal – I have thought about that – making him hand me over everything, but we aren’t married and so I don’t think it would work. I definitely think even when married each person should have some spending money free of the other person’s control.
My BF called me this morning and was talking about us taking several trips this summer. One of the things we have talked about is that we both want to get out and do more stuff, but all I could think of was the money. We definitely need to sit down and do a budget and write out his list of needs vs. wants. What we need to do is figure out how to get out there and have fun without spending loads of money. With gas prices as high as they will probably be, that will be tough.