Hi CD: Just wanted to comment on something you said. "I really feel uncomfortable involving almost anyone that I'm very close to into my weightloss. Its easy for me to discuss here with all of you, but I feel so overprotective with family and friends. Whether its how I'm eating, when or how I workout, or how much I've lost." It's funny but I was just talking about this same issue yesterday with a friend. We were talking about how I turned 50 on my last birthday and how that made me feel. I told her it didn't really affect me other than I have been more willing to talk about my weight issues with my friends.
My mother had wanted to take one of the bus trips to the casino and for me to go with her. I prefer to drive because obviously, I fit better in my own van seats that I do in a bus. After she pushed the issue a bit I told her, "mom, I really don't fit well in the bus seats." She said, "oh, ok honey, I'm sorry. Let's take your van." She had no clue.
I went to dinner with an aunt and uncle. At the restaurant, I asked for a table. My uncle said he really preferred a booth. We sat in the booth and he was squished and uncomfortable and then it dawned on him why I had asked for a table. Then he wanted to move to a table. He had no clue.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I think the people we are close to don't really see us as fat or having issues when we've been around them awhile. To them we're just us and that's all that really matters.
My Honey has never made comments one way or the other about my weight climbing through the years. Going to Vegas (our first real vacation in years) scared the he!! out of me. I told him I was afraid that I would ruin his vacation for him. I had to tell him that I really didn't think I would fit in the airplane seat. To my surprise (and I'm not sure why it was a surprise) he said "ya know, the last time I flew on business, I was pretty cramped in the seat and it was a good thing there was a skinny guy sitting next to me." I told him I thought we should get a third seat and he agreed. Then when we got to Vegas, I was embarassed because I found that Vegas shows weren't the intimate settings with tables and chairs like they used to be, everything is in theatres. Well again I was worried that I would ruin his vacation by not being able to go to anything. I called one box office and hung up the phone saying "I guess we just can't go". He looked at me and asked me why I didn't ask more questions like "do you have a space in the handicapped section where maybe a folding chair could be put." He said, "tell him I'm the one that won't fit. I don't mind sitting there with you." What a sweetie. So of course, I called back and we were accommodated. Of course this made me come clean with the other couple that we traveled with as well.
I know this is getting long winded, but I'm hear to tell you, don't let it take you until you're 50 to talk plainly to your friends about your needs, wants and fears. The people who are your friends, will love you no matter what. And those that don't, really weren't your friends to begin with.
I hope this whole thing wasn't from way out in left field, but I just feel so much more empowered by being myself rather than trying to pretend that if I don't say anything about my weight maybe they won't notice, or whatever I thought they thought.
Heading for bed. Nitey nite.
thinthinker , 01-07-2005 01:21 PM
cdtobehealthy , 01-07-2005 06:19 PM
it puts things into a bit more perspective. I always wondered how much of a difference height makes in the ability to workout or handle weight etc.
therubyslippers!! , 01-07-2005 06:32 PM
Roziesgirl , 01-07-2005 09:33 PM
) I conjure all these wedding plans in my head and how beatufiul it would all be.
Ocean Girl , 01-08-2005 08:14 AM
WOOHOOOO 
Terri in MO , 01-08-2005 10:02 AM
