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Originally Posted by ap14
Welcome to the thread! Is there a way that you can find help for the boy or find another way to teach him? Sometimes, if you can find the right way to have him express himself, he'll be a little better. Is there a way though that you can talk with someone maybe higher up and find him the help he needs?
I have been talking to my boss and to my colleague who tutors him in Maths. My boss is aware of the problems and there has been talk about telling the mother to take him out of the group, but I think my boss likes him - she doesn't have to tutor him, though. The kid is 12 and his situation at home is bad. The dad got divorced from his mother and moved back to Turkey, the mother has a shop in the city centre and works a lot and he has an older sister with autism, so the boy doesn't get any attention at home. He is very overweight, I guess because he often gets money to buy his own lunches which are generally very unhealthy (junk food which he brings to the lessons). He is in a group of 5 kids and really disruptive: he hums, smacks his lips, waves his arms, interrupts me constantly and often does the exact opposite of what I tell him to do. He brings pens he can't write with and then refuses to use a normal pen, writing ugly on purpose to show me he can't write with a normal pen and also keeps distracting the other kids. I realise he is desperate for attention and has nobody to talk to, but he is so disruptive I feel extremely exhausted after every lesson. He is intelligent, but got a 6 in German in his report (6 means failed) because he hardly ever does any work. Usually, I like even the difficult kids and it makes me feel bad that I dislike him so much. And my boss seems think it's fine for him to stay for now, so I really don't know what to do. And I seriously don't get paid well enough to be willing to do that to myself every week.
As for the tea, thanks Coop27, what you wrote has helped me a bit. My boss likes to get dramatic about stuff sometimes, I think and because of my anxiety, if she says stuff like this, that does hit me quite hard. She smokes, btw, so if I were her I would worry less about tea and more about smoking.