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Originally Posted by jacaline
A little background info: at the end of last June I started Ideal Protein, between then and (let's face it) probably Thanksgiving I lost 36 pounds (starting weight 204, lowest at 168). Admittedly I wasn't super strict with myself, but being young (22), I had age on my side. I decided to take a weeklong "break" during Christmas, with the intentions of getting back on come January
...Unfortunately I haven't been able to since then. In eight months, I've probably had a combined week of clean eating. I'm too scared to check the scale, but last time I did (two weeks ago, maybe) I was clocking in at about 191. I'm just beside myself. I was looking and feeling great last year and I've slid right back into bad habits. Not only am I ashamed of myself and my lack of self control, I'm also embarrassed because everyone I had come in contact with could tell I lost weight and would compliment me endlessly, and now they can all see I'm gaining most of it back.
Every day I say to myself "I'll start again tomorrow" and then, of course, something comes up; drinks, dinner, family gatherings, pizza.... I know I obviously didn't get off the program in the proper manner, so that isn't helping me. I also don't want to see my "coach" because he did absolutely nothing, I haven't spoken to him since last year; he was just there for me to buy the food and check my progress, but otherwise I was on my own. My father still goes to him every week, so I have him buy me things, but I never end up eating any of it.
I don't know what to do. That's not true, actually. I know exactly what I need (and want) to do, but I am having such a hard time doing it. Has anyone had similar experiences?
Coming back here to 3FC is a huge first step -- the other key step is getting on program 100 percent.
I have done every diet program there is over the past 45 years - I was originally 20 lbs overweight, and now I am 90 lbs overweight -- every yo-yo down was followed by regain, plus a few more lbs, until I have almost quadrupled the extra weight I need to lose.
Every time I have'restarted' it has taken an enormous level of commitment to get back on an effective path to weight loss. Taking those first steps each time is very hard. I lost the same 20 lbs 3 times in 2013, and became so depressed about it that it took me until July to get my act together and begin IP. Now I am in week 8, and it's almost like auto-pilot. Once you get a rhythm going, the losses become consistent, and you can kind of ride the wave.
After taking the first steps to get started with your program, the next big question is
what are you going to do differently this time?
Every time in the past, as I have reached goal, or decided to cease the active pursuit of weight loss, I have tried to deal with maintenance by making it up day by day. Each time I have promised myself I will not let myself become obese again, but I am living proof that this is not a successful approach.
This time, I am finally accepting that the transition to maintenance, and then effectively executing the maintenance protocol, requires the same level of meal by meal commitment as the Phase 1 protocol for weight loss.
I am putting in time checking out the 3FC IP maintenance threads now, lurking with those who are making the transition, and trying to understand how it is supposed to work and what its challenges are. Based on suggestions here on 3FC, I have picked up The Beck Solution and am reading it and working with its recommendations to try to get a successful mindset developed so that I can succeed in maintenance. And I signed up for group fitness training classes with my IP Coach that begin this week -- this will help me to begin to build some exercise habits that will contribute to both weight loss and maintenance. My coach will help me regulate intensity to stay with the IP protocol guidelines for exercise.
I am not sure what else I can do at this point, other than staying not only on program, but on purpose.
The thing is -- Each of us can lose the pounds, and each of us can keep it off. But the likelihood of success by just 'winging it' is pretty close to zero, no matter how young and resilient you might be. Youth is helpful, and I can say from experience that with each passing year, it gets harder and harder to make any weight loss program work. You are lucky -- because you are young you have the ability to make the commitment now and avoid a lifetime of restarts. Do it!!!