No Candice...you are NOT a horrible person! I love my kids better than my own life but I WOULD NOT want either of them moving back in with me!!! My advise: Nothing lasts forever. If you can get past the initial 'shock' of having him move in you'll get into a routine and it'll be ok for awhile. #1...start out like you want things to continue. If you don't want to have to cook a big dinner every night, don't start out doing it. Set your rules from the beginning about how things are going to be. Do it nicely and smile to pacify hubby. #2 FAKE being happy about the situation. I do a lot to keep the peace in my home and believe me, I've faked A LOT of attitudes!!! So...let's see how good an actress you are. Get through the 'finding room', get him settled (or better still...let him 'settle' himself!) and then just do what you HAVE TO to get along! Just one more thing...you know how you never were able to get that room for yourself??? Well...now you will be able to do that. Fix your son's room up and then when he moves out again, take it for yourself!!!!!!! I'm really happy he is out of that previous situation!

Mima...no water still...how on earth are you coping? I'd be looking for a hotel close by!

We are snowed in again. Hubby made it to work (took my van) but my daughter and her husband opted to stay home today. I'm glad...if they had worked, I'd have Ross! It's only 16 here and not supposed to get much higher today...the wind chill is in the single digits! It's supposed to get down to 5 below tonight and they just said on the local station that it's not supposed to get "livable" until next Tusday (whatever livable is!) Even the college is closed. I'm staying in and - hopefully - getting a nap this afternoon. I slept fitfully between 4 and 6 so I really need one.

Meme.....I'm not good at faking my feelings.............We will see....I get no help around here except for the little gal that comes to run the sweeper! DH is no help at all around here, says he works to hard makeing a living!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My son is too busy!

Let some of it go!!!!!!! That's what I do when I'm feeling really bad. I just go to bed and say...can't do anymore! Sometimes you just have to just call time out for awhile. Even Jesus took time to get away from everybody a few times!!! And...God Himself even rested after His six days of creation!

MATT. 8:18 & 24 "Now when Jesus saw great multitudes about him, he gave commandment to depart unto the other side. And, behold there arose a great tempest in the sea, insomuch that the ship was covered with the waves; but he was asleep."

MARK 6:31 & 32 "And he said unto them, "Come ye yourselves apart into a desert place, and rest a while": for there were many coming and going, and they had no leisure so much as to eat. And they departed into a desert place by ship privately."

http://www.design-max.net/2002Devotion35.html

I think you have your men folk spoiled!!!

I'm with both Meme and Candice. I dearly love my kids, of course, but would not really want them moving back in at this stage of my life (maybe I should move in with them?). However, if it came about, I'm sure I'd put on the happy face and try to enjoy the good things about it. I know it was great having ds here when dh was in the hospital. He did a lot of things that I could have done but also a lot that would have been difficult to impossible for me. Of course at this stage of their lives, it would take a real tragedy for them to come home and that would change how I'd feel about it as well.

So tired of this cold but so far we haven't had snow. My Mom and bro live an hour north and he just said they have an inch and a half so far this evening so maybe I'd best shut down this machine and check. And also check the water I have running and flush the commodes just to make sure all's still ok.

Spring, spring, spring!

Good news-the water is on and Brad's new truck came in-good timing for him.Meme-snow!!!!!we didn't come up through Tennessee.WE were fortunate-we had no weather problems coming home. I am on my second load of wash-it feels so good. Going to take a bath too. I made it through the day on the diet-I feel like I'm in control again. Also called a hotel nearby that you can pay to swim in their pool-said the temp was 88-that's good, Will try next week . Bye for now-Mima

Still eating well but why does it take twice as long to lose as gain! I am losing about a 1/2lb a month and in 4 weeks gained 6!!!!!!!!

I got a lot of work to do to get his room ready and no one is helping me so I may be away for awhile..just be too pooped to get here. He is gonna have snacks here too! Changes everything for DH and I..no more tricks on the ball in the livingroom!LOL

The real problem is is we have no storage space so I was using his room for that,my clothes and Christmas stuff now I have to find someplace elese to put them!!!!!!!!!!Gonna have to dig deep in the closets! My job was always to take care of these knuckle heads!

Meme..thanks for the Scripture verses! I will get done what I can on my own I have a week before he is coming here.

Yep...you got em spoiled alright! Just remember what I said about taking that room for yourself when he moves out! No more (not) sleeping in the recliner all night!!!

I guess I have mine all spoiled, too. I was going to paint my bathroom tomorrow. Had planned that all week! I even put off going to the Dr. about my ankle last Tues. because I was afraid he was going to put me in a cast and I wanted to get my bathroom finished first. Then my son called last night and asked if I would keep their kids Sat. DIL's grandfather is in the hospital in East TN and he's dying. They wanted to go see him. Of course, I said yes...so there goes my bathroom AGAIN!

I have Ross today...I was going to finish some shelves hubby built for me...he made me this neat unit I can put my Karaoke, CD recorder, Cable box, VCR and printer in. It's really great, each shelf is made just for a specific unit and he made it to sit right beside my desk yet I can use all the remotes from the bed (just in case I get put off my feet for awhile!) I bought finishing stain that matches my desk and I hope I can get that finished and everything put in it before I get the cast! I'm not positive he's going to do that but he was last time but I talked him out of it and it's not a lot better now...so he probably will! I dread it. Everytime I have to wear a cast or something it throws off my balance and the other side starts hurting!

When do you get your cast off, Anne? Bet you'll be glad!

Mima...I'm glad you got your water back on. I just couldn't do without water for that long...I'd be going somewhere else to live! (I USE A LOT OF WATER!!!)

Anagram...hope your cold is better...so far I've been lucky and not gotten anything this winter. I usually have something all winter long...grandkids bring me colds/flu and piano students do, too. I told them at the beginning of the winter if they even THINK they are getting sick...don't come here. Some of my students just looked at me funny. But I told them I was dead serious...my blood count is so low I catch everthing! They call me now and say they don't feel good, one called and said she just FELT like throwing-up and asked if she should come on and I said NO...stay home, please!!!

I haven't been sleeping. Night before last I only got 2 hrs. and last night I only got 4. I took a 2 hr. nap yesterday afternoon so that makes 8 hrs. in the last 2 days!

Here's an interesting question for discussion! Do you all think Satan, aka the devil, Lucifer, demons...what ever you want to call the evil spirits...can invade your thoughts? Do you think they know what you are thinking? Anybody ever read any Frank Peretti books? My pastor said something very interesting the other night in his sermon...got me to thinking! Read the devotion I wrote on it if you're interested.

http://www.design-max.net/2003Devotion4.html

Candice - If for some reason you don't want your son to move home, tell him. My son asked if he could move home, when he was 23. He moved in with friends when he was 19. If I had still been living in my house, things would have been great, but by this time we had moved to a 2 bedroom condo. He did move home and things were fine. I loved having him around. He is a good kid. We then moved to a three bedroom house, and then he had his own room, but only for a short time. He was an apprentice electrician at the time, and was laid off, and he didn't like the way his friends were living and had wanted out. We have ALWAYS told our kids, that they can always come home. As soon as he got back on his feet, he moved out and has been doing great. He moves into his own house on the 16 February. It is just about finished now. I talked to him last night, and he is just like a little kid all excited about Christmas He is now 27. If I hadn't let him move back home, I don't know how things would have turned out for him, but I am thankful that he turned things to the better for him.

Both my kids live 100 miles from home. Both in the same city at least.

Meme, your kids never left home, just moved to a different house They still rely on you for lots of things.

Candice - I hope you won't find it to stressful. Get that hubby of yours to help! I can't believe that he says he works all day and doesn't want to help. So does my hubby, but he still helps me.

Anagram - Glad he is getting out and feeling a little better. Hopefully, your life will return to normal soon.

Mima - Yahoo!!! Water again. I don't know what I would do without water. I hate it if they even shut it off for a couple of hours, which doesn't happen often - only if they are digging near the water main. Swimming in a nice warm pool sounds good.

Did you start on the Atkins Diet? My Dr. just told me yesterday, EVERYONE should be on it, as it is just a plain healthy diet. He went on it 3 years ago, and still eats that way. He feels great and he is well over 65 now. I hate that one day he will retire.

All my blood work came back perfect. Nothing out of line at all. Told me I was not a good candidate for heart problems. That is always reassuring.

Well, Candice, if hubby won't help, get your son to help move the stuff. DON'T DO IT YOURSELF!!! You know, it really won't kill him to sleep on an airmattress for a few days, until HE gets the room ready.

Everyone have a great day.

I hope that all of you good people are doing better.
Memi- Hope Brad is coping well with the loss of his mother. I think he has a sence of relief along with his feelings of loss.
My daughter is at home and doing well. She had a fiboid as large as a baby's head and many more inside the womb. She has done well with the surgery. She has had migrains since. Otherwise I am sitting on her to keep her from doing too much. She was in very good physical condition,so, I think that is what made it so easy for her.I stayed all three days in the hospital with her.She felt more comfortable with me there. My sil took care of my hubby and everything else. Great guy.
Candice- I gather you have a son moving back in. Honey, I have been there several times..True it is not easy. I did, as always, everyting by myself.But, I always feel we have to do it .It won't last forever. And my son has a 100 lb. black lab. Do you know how they shed hair ?
It was 15 degrees here in Madison ,Fl. last night. That is cold for Florida. Happy- I know that it is colder where you are.
Hello Anagram, Meme.Ally- I will be glad to get home within the next week and in my own bed. Never-the-less I will be here till my girl is good on her own. Bye You All..Joanne

Joanne, so nice to hear from you. I sure am glad that your daughter is doing good. I remember when my daughter had to have an ovarian cyst removed. I stayed with her as well, until she was able to manage. That was a couple of years ago, already.

Yes, Joanne, is it MUCH colder here. We have had lows of 38.5 below zero - that was on Wednesday. I just stayed in that day, but did go out yesterday -30 below. I just make sure I dress warm. Went to the mall and did some shopping. Bought a pair of pants and a couple of sweaters. Some really good buys out there right now. Also got some socks. Now, I will be set for a little while.

Hi All......still cold in NY but today was a heat wave with a high of 15. All that did was make slush on the roads.
Candice...I still have kids at home and just sometimes dream of the day when they are outta here. So I understand what it must feel like to have one coming home. I guess you have to do what you have to do...but don't feel guilty about feeling bad. Come here and we will make you feel better.
I'm just hoping my son doesn't want a girlfriend to move in.....

Now...to a girlfriend/boyfriend moving in...that would be real easy to say NO to!!!

I AGREE - THAT ONE WOULD BE A NOBRAINER FOR ME!! JUST A VERY EMPHATIC NO!!!!!

I'll chime in on that one. I can discombobulate for a kid, a kid and a spouse, a kid and grandkids. But not for a bf or gf. My sister did that once when her 15 year old was pregnant, allowed the father to move in to "give support" and with supposedly separate quarters. I didn't buy that part for a moment. Maybe they had separate rooms but I'm sure that didn't matter a whit. Of course, they never married, split up soon after the birth and it's been a long battle ever since, custody, support, etc. His momma's been supporting his efforts in all the battles but didn't seem to be around to support him when he did the "moving in". He was 19 then, I think.

But basically it would just be because it's not "house rules" here. And dh has always had this thing about "the tail not wagging the dog".