I'll vent with you! It's sooooooo frustrating to own a closet full of clothing you can’t fit into. Those cute jeans, the expensive pairs… You can only remember how you looked in them from the old pictures. *sigh* Being stuck wearing a size you never thought you’d be wearing while occasionally taking out the nicer pairs, the smaller pairs… wishing and hoping they just. might. fit. It’s so flipping hard!!! But I just keep going, because I will eventually get there. It WILL happen. I just have to keep reminding myself, just like so many of us; I didn’t gain the weight overnight and it’s not going to come off overnight. But it WILL come off if we just keep working hard!!! And the day I fit back into my skinny jeans will be worth every bit of effort, sweat, frustration, skipped desserts and all the hurdles I’ve encountered along the way.

The day will come!!!

Just to give you a data point, I'm in a size 12 right now and I'm 2 inches taller than you and probably at least 20lbs lighter. It sounds like your setting yourself up for disappointment by using clothes that are just not realistic right now (But will be SOON if you keep up the good work!!!!).

I totally agree with what 98DaysOfSummer said. This is precisely WHY I weigh myself daily AND take my measurements. I get to see my progress first hand even if it is slow, I know it's happening. Going by clothes can be really tricky because they can stretch or you can be bloated the day you try them on. Also, if you're putting on ones that won't be able to fit yet you'll be setting yourself up for disappointment.

I'd suggest stepping on that scale or at the very least start taking measurements. It can really, really help to see your progress!

I am the same i bought a load of t-shirts a few sizes smaller than i am and every so often i try them on and then they go back in the closet lol but slowly so slowly there starting to look a bit better each time.

I also bought two pairs of jeans which are 1 size to small for me as motivation to lose weight! so i have to lose weight or i wont be able to wear them in autum/winter lol

So just keep going you will get there! and you will be mega proud once they fit!

I have totally been where you are! Around 170ish pounds I bought a pair of size 6 old navy (helllllooooo vanity sizing!) capris. I stupidly tried them on (knowing they wouldnt fit). They hardly went half way up my thighs! I'm thigh/booty heavy as it is so even buying those 6's in my mind I was laughing at myself.

A week ago I tried those suckers on again and they freakin fit. Im now doing the same thing with a pair of size 5 hollister skinny jeans (hellloooo non vanity sizing!!!). They go about half way up my butt. I knew trying them on they wouldn't fit but seriously... When youtry those jeans on again after sticking with losing weight, and they fit, you will feel like a million bucks. You don't think it's great now, but when they fit you'll be soooo happy you tried them on at a higher weight because you'll REALLY see the progress!

As fr as being bottom heavy goes... My butt and thighs have been the last to start going but they're going lol. I'll probably always be unproportionate but now it's fine with me.

Yes, this exactly! If you think you've lost 20-30 pounds, you're still at about 200. When I'm 200 at 5'7, I can't fit one leg into a pair of size 10's (or 12 or 14 for that matter!,) it's just not realistic.

Why do you refuse to weigh yourself? Maybe if you weigh yourself you'll either be VERY pleasantly surprised and motivated all over again, or maybe you're not making quite as much progress as you think you may be and it will force you to buckle down all over again. Surely you've made some progress, possibly even more than you're guessing at! I say hop on the scale and try your pants on again, starting at the top- what falls off, what fits and what's close? Be kind to yourself, after all this hard work especially, you deserve it!

I'm 5'9.5"... 208 lbs... and I am at 12/14. Every 16 I've tried on has been huge on me. Some 14s are huge on me... while I can barely put some 12s on my legs.

My next pair of goal jeans are a pair of 10s that my mom's cousin was giving away. I'm not expecting to fit in them until the end of the summer (hopefully up to 20-40 lbs down).

Dress-wise... I am a solid size 12... could probably squeeze into several 10s... am a medium on most of them... but not all. And this isn't to where I look like a stuffed sausage... but actually look just fine.

My guess as to why I can fit into these jeans now is because I have longer legs (I need at least a 33 inch inseam... 34-36 are preferable)... other than that... no clue.

Don't rush it. Don't try on a million things that are several sizes smaller than what you wear currently. If you want to try it on... if you have a couple sizes bigger... try those first.

You have made AWESOME progress girl. Good luck!

Oh, how very true this is! I think this applies to many of us who have been yo-yo dieters (I know it applies to me). Thank you for posting that.

To the OP, I know just what you mean. I, too, have gained at least 10 (maybe 15) lbs. since last summer, and I wanted to lose, not gain! I have some really pretty skirts in my closet that I would love to be able to get into this summer, but realistically, I know that isn't going to happen. I just won't be able to lose that much weight that fast without going on some diet that I will feel deprived about. I'm trying to decide now what to do, but one thing I can't do is focus on the past. Learn from it but don't focus on it. Bemoaning what you used to be will only set you back, mentally. Think of how far you've come during the past few months and how great you will look in a few months.

Aww, you sure are being hard on yourself. If you lost 20 or 30lbs in 3 mnths you are doing a phenomenal job! I say go try on some pants that fit you kind of tight when you first started.
I lost 20 and only went down 1 size! But hey 18 is still better than 20!!!
And those 20's sure are baggy in the butt lol.

to everyone who asks why i don;t get on the scale it's a big thing for me, i get very upset weighing in because it is never enough. so even if i get on it and see ok i lost 30 i will still mentally be like big deal 30 and still can't get anything on.

i was hoping the 12's would be a little less tight, i really wanted them to fit by the end of school... i tried them on to get a gage of where i was, i hadn't attempted to try them on in 3 months and thought well lets see...

i'm guessing i must be a 14 right now...

i know i am hard on myself but i have to be.... i gained 100 lbs........... i'm so embarrassed and until most of that is gone i really can't be happy with losing 30... i'm trying to tell myself well at least i am making progress but it's hard to know i still have such a far, far way to go

i wouldn't even go out of the house last weekend and had a 4 day weekend for memorial day, because the last time those 12 jeans fit i was too ashamed to be seen and now that they still don't even go on was feeling very bummed

trying to stay calm, thanks for all the replies/encouragement.... just very frustrating when i've done this so many times before and am worried i'm not losing in hips/thighs since i can't pull the jeans up past them. every time they got tight in the past could at least get them past there just couldn't button...

giving it time though