Sorry to say I am not joking...don't know any other way...
I am queen of all diets imagined since 1968...
Sorry but true.

Well, I hope you'll let us all help you learn some more sustainable ways...

How about taking on a sensible approach and eat healthy foods, count calories and exercise.

I just read your quote that you lost 148 lbs!!!! That is so remarkable and fantastic!!!! Congrats and thank you for caring!

My hubby would love you, Heather. You are a gorgeous brunette! So wonderful for what you have accomplished...
Thank you for sharing and caring....

I understand you are hurting. Trust me when I say you are not the only one here who is or has dealt with terrible situations. My husband of 10 years passed away in 1999, in 2005 I found my momma dead and in 2006 my daddy passed away. I didn't starve myself but I ate myself into morbid obesity so a reversal there but my point is, I only harmed myself. Eating the crap I was eating did not make my hurt and pain go away or bring back my loved ones. You need to make this the time to truly love yourself and take care of yourself and show him and yourself that you can get on with a better life..a healthier life. When I first started losing weight, I believed less was best when it came to calories so I was eating about 900 a day. I lost a chunk of weight rather quickly but in a couple months my weight loss stalled so I found 3FC and they opened my eyes to knowing that I must fuel my body each and every day so I can lose weight and be healthy. I urge you to read back over your own posts here with objective eyes, imagine if it were your closest friends saying these things to you..what would you tell her? Don't let someone else keep you down and cause you to do more harm than good to your own body.

Very nice post Onederchick...

Lizzie, maybe it's time to cut him loose...sure way to lose a bunch of dead(beat) weight quickly. Please take care of yourself.

Oh, Lizzie, this is soooo sad. You only have to be thin and good enough for YOU. If he's happier in front of the computer, or looking for his 'true love', then it sounds like you have a sure fire way to drop about 200lbs or so in one fell swoop.

You're strong - you can lose all that weight, you can do ANYTHING. And your husband has no idea what he's losing.

Hang in there!!!

The problem is NOT WITH YOU. The problem IS HIM. Any man who would withhold sex and affection and love from his wife in favor of the computer and searching for old girlfriends IS NOT A MAN he is a bum. Please don't starve yourself hoping it will change your husband.

What would you tell your mother or your sister if she had made these posts? Do that.

Ditto...a big big DITTO here.

Personally, my added thoughts, forget about the weight as it isn't about that at all. You can be more blond, you can be more skinny, and you can fly and be able to turn snap your fingers and turn the world into gold...BUT NONE of that makes a man love or want you. The problems are with HIM, not YOU and that is the truth. 100% blunt truth.

There is somewhere right now a woman and a man who are "perfect." A 10, perfect breasts, flawless skin, in shape, yadda yadda and those two people are hurting, unhappy, and killing themselves trying to get someone to see, appreciate, CELEBRATE, and love them. They give and give and give and get nothing back. Being thin has NOTHING to do with it and starving yourself, sure you can lose weight starving. You can do that with a variety of eating disorders, but at the end of the day you're not going to be happy. Things won't magically be better or perfect. You KNOW that.

You're hurting, angry, desperate...but you know you are a BEAUTIFUL person. Someone who deserves love and to be happy. That may mean finding that strength to move on...believe me when I say that I'm learning that those lessons too. I'm learning about how beautiful I am, inside and out. It is something I struggle with, but no amount of weight loss is going to make things perfect for me. My journey, as with most of us, isn't just about weight loss. I could be 140 pounds and STILL unhappy and STILL finding ways to hurt myself. Heal yourself from the inside out, not starving yourself from the inside out and that will take time.

His problems are his own. You can't change him, he has to change himself.

P.S. Starving yourself physically is not a "HA I DID IT" moment. Not only is it unhealthy, you WILL regain a large portion if not all of your weight back once you start eating again. Why? Because you probably haven't lost fat. You lost water and solid foods. Once you start eating, and believe me I know as I did a juice feast to jump start my weight loss only I drank my calorie intake in freshly made juices (that is a lot of green juices every day), you WILL see your weight go up. I fluctuate about 2-4 pounds a day and I'm always carrying around water and obviously solid food. So, let's say I starve myself for a week and then I'm down 7 or 8 pounds. Well the truth is I probably lost less than a pound of fat, the rest is all the water and lack of solids in my system. If I were to eat and drink my weight would probably go up, from my own experience, about 7-8 pounds. So you see, I did MORE damage to my body. Had I just chosen a healthier method, I could have a loss of 1 or more pounds of fat depending on my body. That means I ate healthy, I exercised, I worked on myself physically and emotionally in that week. Seems a lot more positive to me.