I know how all of this is!
I feel bad for my boyfriend because I do ask for his help, but then when something comes up I get mad at him. I have a problem with food... a big problem. I know I want his help, but times come up where I "know" I want _____ treat that I don't need anyway.
*sigh*
Areia , 03-02-2009 02:37 PM
I find it takes a lot of communication to make sure that the people I want support from know how to support me.
My husband knows not to tell me I shouldn't have something, but instead to suggest better options when he thinks I'm about to eat something I probably shouldn't. He'll ask if I want to split a dessert at a restaurant, or offer to get me a diet soda-based drink at a bar so friends won't tempt me with high-calorie cocktails. I found that it reminds me to think about what I'm about to have, but still gives me the option to go ahead and get it.
Thank you everyone for posting! I know exactly how you all feel and I really appreciate you sharing your stories and ways to handle this situation with me! I actually asked him to help me keep on track and I guess I wasnt clear with him that I had planned it into my day. I think what set me off was him saying "I just dont know how to handle all this. You want me to help you but when I try, you get mad at me." I guess I just have to keep telling myself that he cant read my mind and to talk to him about when and how he should talk to me about food. I have such a problem controling it on my own but I also cant control my temper...I guess I'll try harder next time to just make the decision on my own and let him know what I am thinking before I get mad! Thanks again everyone :-D