I think you shouldn't be allowed to prance about in skinny jeans unless you've earned 'em!

Argh men and weight loss. I remember years ago, my dad, mom and I went on a weight loss plan. He lost 9 pounds in 2 weeks. He didn't work out and he cheated! My mom and I on the other hand, followed the diet and worked out. Our result? I gained 2 pounds and my mom stayed the same.

how did I not see this thread before? I can't believe November is pretty much half way over...

Its fricken cold here. the faster these winter months sail by the better I guess.

Same thing with my dad. In the time it took me to lose 20 lbs, he lost 50 and rubbed it in my face. But while I haven't gained that weight back, he has plus another 15-20 lbs. I probably shouldn't be happy about that, since he's even more obese than I am, but he's losing it. Again. Faster than me.

and he'll probably lap you too!
This is the deal, guys lose more weight because they have more muscle which burns more calories. Wanna lose weight like a guy? Build muscle! strength training ain't just for the guys anymore.

Argh, I need to vent a little bit. OK, so there is a friend of mine who I've had a crush on for the longest time. Him and I would flirt, kiss and whatnot, but I lack the confidence to ask him out. That and I don't know how he truly feels about me. Well, recently, we haven't been hanging out as usual, which is no big deal since he works a lot. I just found out that he may be dating someone. Am I jealous? Sure, but what really peeved me was someone describing this woman he is dating to me. They said, "Oh, she's just like you, Theresa (me), but she's thin." That destroyed me a little bit. I mean, lately I've been working hard losing weight and then someone says something stupid like that and it burns. And then I thought about it, if my friend is dating a thin version of me, does this mean he didn't want to ask me out because of my weight? Ugg, I don't know. My friend is sweet, smart and overall a really great guy; I don't want to think that he wouldn't date a person because of their weight.

robot- i'm sorry. that's a crappy feeling-to have a crush on someone and find out they may be involved with another. i wouldn't think too much about it until you talk to him. to me, it sounds like you should be peeved that someone would say "she's just like you but thin". man, f that person. the dude you like is innocent until proven otherwise. what you know about his situation is from a third party, and a crappy schmappy third party at that.

What a nasty comment . I'd be angry about that too! It belongs in a line of nasty comments that should never be made:

-"She's just like you, only she's pretty
-"She's just like you, only she is nice"

Well, you get the picture. Especially if that person knew about you losing weight it's really insensitive and if you send them to me I'll smack them for you .

And your friend kissed you; I do not think your weight is an issue to him. Especially when you know people longer they just don't see stuff like that any more. You sound like a great person, just ask him on a date if you would like it to become something more than the occasional contact.

(Not that I really am allowed to say something about that; there are 2 guys I kind of like but I don't dare ask any of them on a date. One of them has had dinner with me some weeks ago but nothing happened... I guess I should just tell him I like him, but I don't even dare say it aloud when I'm alone!)

Thanks ladies. I won't be able to talk to my friend until next weekend, so I'll actually get to talk to him about it then. I cooled off and realized that he's still innocent, so we'll see how it goes. I also thought about it, I mean if he does have a girlfriend, then I should be happy for him. I would always tell him to do things to make himself happy, so I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't want him in a relationship with a person that made him smile.

i agree w/ladies..innocent until proven guilty! so-called frenz delivering catty hearsay should be second-guessed, though. good luck robot!
worst insult a crush ever delivered to me- "Wow! after hooking up w/you i noticed a whole new segment of women out there---FLESHY ones" i guess before big ole me, only skinny lil things actually even registered. sheesh.ick.

Ah, dating, wish I was doing it, lol. I would highly recommend not putting out a personal ad on craig's list. I got some of the weirdest emails ever! The decision has been made that I'm just not ready to date right now. Too much going on, too many dead languages to learn, lol.

robot- I agree with everyone, don't count anything as truth until he says it is.

A friend of mine put an ad on Craigslist. She got into a relationship with a total douche bag who lied from the beginning. The relationship didn't last. She then posted another ad and her friend's boyfriend responded! Her friend and the boyfriend broke up after she found out that wasn't the first time he did that. Moral of the story, Craigslist is not so great when it comes to relationships.

I found my partner on yahoo personals. I forked over a one month membership 9all I could afford) and spent a lot of time searching & emailing guys I thought were interesting. I think it was about a week before the end of my month (and three weeks of weeding & first but not second dates) I found my "Mr. Wonderful."
Though I'd love to have some great story about meeting at the opera or the local poetry slam competition, I can't fault that I found him and praise Yahoo for their service.
I'd never thought of craigslist-and I'm glad I didn't!

Argh, ok so my friend is indeed dating the "thin" version of me. Sigh, oh well. He's happy and apparently he makes her happy. I can't complain too much. But still, uggg....

oh robot. i empathize...and feel free to complain cuz sheesh and super arrgh! that does blow..