amen sisters, I have some responses.
I hear you about 1000 not being enough. I had originally thought to bump it up, but then I was met with 'eat less' from lots of places. I'm moving it to 1400 because I DO want to have an easy segway into maintaince.
I talked to my dad, who has lost a lot of weight, and he said also to add in some beneficial fats like pistachios and avocado. i had been avoiding them because they are high cal, but I've just started adding them in (I have an avocado sandwich at my desk

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I think that I am at one of my 'set points' my body likes 185 and I don't blame it! I kinda like 185, beats the crap outta 230! I was ranting at my mom about "whats wrong with maintaining at 185 for a while?! I've lost 20% of my body!!" she agreed. I just can't give in to maintenance because DH and I are going to TTC when I get to goal. I really really really want children. That and I'm so close!!
I wish that I would have started measuring. I didn't do it at the start, I guess I could start now. I have noticed that things are shifting. my arms are smaller, my legs and face are smaller. I am grateful for that!
I will admit that I have been taking bitefuls where I shouldn't have. I will make DH give me 1 of whatever he has as a snack (one being one M&M or one cornchip) I know that these add up and I should cut them out.
Most of all I want you ladies to know that you are a wealth of knowledge! Thank you so much for your support. I know that you know how un motivating it can be when you don't see a single budge for 3 weeks. Especially with the losses that I had been seeing. Talking it out really helps!!