[BerkshireGrl]

If you ask a public forum for advice, don't rake 'em over the coals when they're brutally honest. Personally, I think WhitWhit gave you some good advice (though admittedly you have met guy #2 in person and he lived with you.) If your friends are telling you this is a normal healthy relationship going through a brief rocky spell, I don't think they are really being helpful.

No offense, tweety, but you have LOTS OF DANGER SIGNS here. The guy is "about to be homeless" so you invite him to live with you. He needs to come down to your town but is broke, so you pay for his ticket down. Plus the drama is about chest-high in this whole saga...

And the clincher is that he IM'ed you to break up with you?

Classy.

Perhaps you got a IM meant for another girl he's "in love with." And that's why he freaked and "didn't remember."

I say run too. But sometimes experience is the best teacher. Best of luck.

[freethetoys]

it seems everything i i would have said as advice or help has been said. But i think you need to open your eyes to the honesty online. No one here knows you apart from all the facts that you have told us about your realationship. You and your friends may see it different to us because they will see and interact with your emotions and so tred lighter around you.
But if you want the cold harsh truth, about the story you told us then that is it.
Stop rejecting what people are saying just because you dont like it, somtimnes the truth can hurt, but one day it will set you free. (cheesy but truthful)

[Soulmia]

If your story wasn't so sad, I would have laughed! Are you kidding me gurl?? Listen to the forumers... they ALL can not be wrong!
If I were you...I'd run for my life!

[nelie]

If you want someone to coddle you, that is one thing but your post sounded like you needed some real help and that is what you got. I don't know how much nicer it can be said that this guy is using you and you need to get away from him and find someone that truly loves you.

[kateful]

Originally Posted by tweetyandme

Well i would just like to thank all of yall for your advise. It sure helped. You know i do thank all of yall for your honesty, because well that was basically the one thing i was asking for, but damn, ya'll could have been a little nicer. Man! Wow i dont care at this point if i am banned from 3 fat chicks, but some of ya'll are true *****es espicially WhitWhit. DAMN! I understand that some of yall have gone through what i am going through, and i'm not mad because its that i didnt hear what i wanted to hear, i'm mad at the way some of yall delivered the information to me! Yeah, thanks a lot. I'll stick with what my friends say from now on.

Are your friends the ones telling you to:

1. Believe some really lame stories
2. Send money to strangers
3. Allow strangers to move in with you
4. "Fall in love" and begin (probably) sexual relationships without getting to know the person enough to be able to distinguish when they are taking you for a ride?

I know I tried to provide you with the advice you requested. I said you shouldn't let strangers move in with you and that you shouldn't believe most of what people on the internet tell you. Since you aren't sending me any money, you can assume that I am telling you the truth. However, if you are willing to send me some money to tell you what you want to hear, I'll send you my PO Box number.

It's clear you don't really want advise from disinterested third parties. You should definitely stick with your friends whose advice you like better.

[lilybelle]

Wow, from asking for "help please" to calling us "*****es" for trying to be honest. How MATURE. Almost as much so as this fantasy that you call a "relationship".

[ValRock]

Originally Posted by tweetyandme

Well i would just like to thank all of yall for your advise. It sure helped. You know i do thank all of yall for your honesty, because well that was basically the one thing i was asking for, but damn, ya'll could have been a little nicer. Man! Wow i dont care at this point if i am banned from 3 fat chicks, but some of ya'll are true *****es espicially WhitWhit. DAMN! I understand that some of yall have gone through what i am going through, and i'm not mad because its that i didnt hear what i wanted to hear, i'm mad at the way some of yall delivered the information to me! Yeah, thanks a lot. I'll stick with what my friends say from now on.

Totally totally totally uncalled for! You came here begging for advice and the kind women here gave it to you! Whitwhits advice was right ON. I can see why your friends coddle you if you get this way when they don't give you the 'right' answers... For the record, I met my husband on the internet but we dated in person before we decided our relationship was on the level to move in together or be "in love"... Too far too fast isn't going to get you anywhere but hurt. If he really REALLY wants to be with you he'll find a way to be near you and support himself at the same time. You're not this guys momma! Grow some balls.

Tweety... can I ask how old you are?

[Ruthxxx]

Well, I guess it's time to close this thread as folks have made their opinions known. Let's not get our feathers ruffled!