[MusicalJess]

Yeah. The babby is so used to me doing everything around the house that if he puts her to bed the odd time/plays with her/washes up...she gets really confused. She always asks when Jess is making the tea...shes just got used to it. And thats not fair. I think when my exams get closer I'm going to start tearing my hair out....I feel like I'm going to just explode one day.

[NEMom]

You are way to young to be this stressed out and I can tell you from 16 years of marriage, they do not change. I work full time, rasied two kids, did ALL the house work and have never received any real help. I spend at least 3 hours every weekend cleaning and have for the past 17 years of my life, do I resent it, YES I DO. Is it going to change now? Nope, it won't but it can for you. Don't let this guy and all this added stress steal your youth from you. I have a daughter your age and I see all the fun she has at college and with her friends, it makes me sad you are not having the same experiences.

Best of luck hun. Break ups are not easy but do not let this guy take over your life and your future for this comfort.

[nationalparker]

Maybe call a meeting of those who live in the house - and already have a list of the chores ready - go around and select 1/person so someone doesn't get all the "easy" chores Remind them that you're not the maid/mother of the crew. Prep yourself - run through it with a friend in advance so you feel confident to handle any way the conversation turns.

That's a lot to handle and I agree with other posters, he's never going to voluntarily take on any more - it's easier for him to get more and more comfortable and do even less.