My boyfriend does for the most part. I KNOW that he supports me, and he always says I look beautiful. He's in Iraq though, and has been for the entire time I've been losing weight (I made it my project while he was gone), so he hasn't seen me since I've lost 30lbs. So I have his support, but I think he gets kind of tired of me talking about it because he thought I was fine the way I was, haha.
I'm not around my family, so most of them don't even know that I'm losing/have lost weight.
I've gotten much closer to two girls I work with now that we started talking about weight loss. They're at different stages in the process, but it's definitely something to share in common. It's really what made my friendships with each of them. It's amazing how long I can talk about calories and work outs and weigh ins when I have a friend who's just as excited about it as I am. And they don't give me grief for eating light, haha.
And 3FC, of course, has been an invaluable tool for me. Accountability, asking my whacky weight loss questions, having a huge group of great people with all different stories who are going through the same thing I am, and just all the experience, knowledge, and wisdom here. Even my ticker has been a helpful motivator in my weight loss.
My family is supportive, although because I currently live with my parents there tend to be temptations. My dad is notorious for trying to tempt with cheat weekends. He really means well, I don't look at it as being malicious. My mom made tons of baked goods that I hadn't had in FOREVER around Christmas and that was really hard. Again, I don't think it's malicious, probably subconscious.
I haven't really discussed it with friends so I don't have support from them.
My therapist is my "life style coach" so she's a HUGE support.
Why do you guys think it is so hard for people to be supportive? I had a ton of support when I first started...my husband, my friends, my family all jumped on board to support and encourage me. Now a year later my only real support is my husband( and 3FC of course) Everyone else is just plain uncomfortable wit me now... I don't understand why my leading a healthy lifestyle is such a burden to the people in my life. :-(
I think the obvious would be that for people that are overweight, they subconsciously sabatoge you because they want to be making changes and aren't for whatever reason.
For people who are already "healthy" I'm not sure if they feel threatened (i.e. you're the "fat" friend and you aren't going to be anymore so maybe there is "competition" of sorts).
No support. My DH is in "denial" (he just tells me over and over how hot I am, which I think he thinks is being supportive, but honestly, it's starting to make him seem delusional and to confuse me about what I may really look like). He also sabotages me (using junk foods as an "i love you" - other guys bring home flowers, he bring home cookies).
In the rest of my family, my being fat seems to be so abhorrent that it can't be talked about. Literally, the elephant in the room. Even when I used to try to bring it up, people just acted really awkward and uncomfortable, so I stopped.
Sorry to hear you don't have any IRL support, but of course we're always here whenever you need us!
My husband is my rock. He supports me with whatever I decide to do, so of course he's supportive with my weight loss. I can tell him the good and the bad things so it's nice. My mom is really sweet about it, she compliments me when we see each other (I don't see her often) and offers advice if I ask. She's got her own weight problems, so I feel a little uncomfortable really talking about it with her. But I lend her loads of encouragement and tell her I know what she's going through (since now I actually do). The rest of my family and the in-laws kind of ignore it. It's not talked about, but that's fine with me. I'd rather no attention for it, than bad attention.
My husband tries, bless his heart. He really does, but sometimes he doesn't know what to do to support me. He's trying to change 10 years of bad behavior (like bringing me any kind of food I ask for or being willing to go out at 1am to get fast food to satisfy my cravings or bringing home my favorite cookies as an "I love you") so I cut him some slack.
My mom thinks she's being supportive, but she has major issues with her own weight and food (which is where alot of my issues came from in the first place) so I usually just try to tune her out.
Other than that, it's just the girls here at 3FC.
Well you girls are probably my biggest support. My little sister is also pretty awesome. I don't see her often, but we talk all the time and whenever I go visit she makes sure she cooks "things I can eat." She also brags to her friends about me (in front of me) and that makes me feel kind of awesome.
When I lived with the boys, they were really supportive. They learned point values of some foods - one time I was whining that I was hungry and I only had 1 point left, and my one roommate was like oh, I can make air-popped popcorn, that's 1 point, right? I wanted to kiss him. I have one close friend who's also going through this journey, and we try to support each other, but its no where near what I get on 3FC. We tried to do WW together before, and we just allowed each other to cheat, so we learned.
My mom and sister are both very supportive. My Dad and I don't talk about my weight loss much (that's as much on my side as his, I've never been comfortable talking to him about it), but we do talk about C25K and he's trying it too! My friends are all really supportive, a few of them had lost weight before me and are my inspiration. My friend Liz is losing weight with me (although at a much faster rate as she's doing a more extreme program). Sometimes it's kind of hard losing weight with her going so much faster because no one comments on my progress anymore; it's not noticable compared to her looking drastically different every time we see her. But she's doing awesome, looks awesome, and deserves the attention. I'll keep chugging along at my snail's pace and get there evetually!
My Husband and this site is the only support i have.
I have been heavy my entire life and when i said in December come January 1st i was changing my life for good, everyone laughed, thats when my husband decided to join me.,. he supports me in everything i do and unfortunately he cant support me while im eating a salad and he is eatting burger king, so thank god he decided to change with me otherwise id have no one in my life.My family are the type that get together over food, celebrate with food etc, they dont understand why i cant just have one piece of cake( at over 350 calories) and everything is okay in moderation (like fried chicken ugh!)so its hard to explain it too them and they feel like im wasting my time because its "Written in our genes".
Sorry for the mini rant, i didn't mean to overtake your thread lol, but yeah just you guys and hubby!
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I'm lucky to have my mother, half-sister and boyfriend support me.
Other than that, beside you guys, know one knows i'm working out and toning up. (I just don't like talking about this stuff with others, even close friends. People may notice me changing but my safe-boat is "i've always been like this" - lol)
I really don't have any support except at 3fc. My mother and father keep buying candy and soda and saying (every single day) one won't hurt. My sister is a little better as she doesn't offer me her junk food and candy just eats it in front of me. They are also always saying I don't need to work out so much (20 min a day 5 days a week) I can take a day off (every single day). So yeah not much support there
I'm so happy that I found 3fc because it keeps me on track and the support here is fantastic and any question one might have someone around here knows the answer
Why do you guys think it is so hard for people to be supportive? I had a ton of support when I first started...my husband, my friends, my family all jumped on board to support and encourage me. Now a year later my only real support is my husband( and 3FC of course) Everyone else is just plain uncomfortable wit me now... I don't understand why my leading a healthy lifestyle is such a burden to the people in my life. :-(
It depends I think- if you are trying to push your lifestyle on others then I could understand why some people may shy away from you... But if you just say in passing things like you are watching your weight and exercising then it can be upsetting when your family isn't supportive.
I try to make sure I'm not preachy when people ask me about my weight loss. Not saying you are though! I know some people when they take on a new lifestyle they can get preachy about it- my friend who went on medifast kept insisting I do it and it annoyed me.
