[beachgal]

Paula, does DH need to lose weight? Does he need to eat healthier? Why is he doing SBD? These are questions that need answers before you figure out what to do. If the answer to eithef of the first two is "yes" then he needs to figure out a way to "put on his big boy undies and deal with it." That doesn't mean that you can't find ways to make meals he likes that are OP. That's easy to do! But he also has to make a decision to eat healthy and not stick with snacks instead of good food. My DH is tiny, but he's got cholesterol issues, so he eats with me.

I think the chicks have given you lots of great ideas. Hope some of them help you out!

[SBD Sass]

Originally Posted by JerseyGyrl

Sorry for the thread-jack

Hey SBD Sass, nice avatar

GO STEELERS!!!

*waving her terrible towel*

[PhotoChick]

Paula, does DH need to lose weight? Does he need to eat healthier? Why is he doing SBD? These are questions that need answers before you figure out what to do. If the answer to eithef of the first two is "yes" then he needs to figure out a way to "put on his big boy undies and deal with it."

I have to say I disagree with this advice. (With all respect! )

Whether DH needs to lose weight or not is not, forcing him to "put on his big boy undies and deal" is not the answer. What if DH decided that Paula needed to be on a 1200 calorie diet and told her to put on her big girl panties and deal with it?

We'd all be rightfully ticked off, wouldn't we? Our advice would be that no one gets to decide what's healthy for Paula except Paula.

The same goes for her DH. It goes for *my* DH, for that matter. Unless and until HE decides that he wants to lose weight, then forcing him to be on a diet is not fair to him and not fair to Paula (or me, if we're talking about my DH. ).

Paula has every right to say "I'm going to eat healthy. You can come along for the ride or not." But I don't think being accommodating to him by throwing on a few potatoes or a pot of rice is asking for something unreasonable.

It's not unsupportive of him to decide that he doesn't want to lose weight via the SBD. It's not even unsupportive of him to decide that HE doesn't want to lose weight. As long as he's willing to support Paula in HER decision to do what works for her ... that's the important thing.

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[EofAZ]

Originally Posted by beachgal

My DH is tiny, but he's got cholesterol issues, so he eats with me.

Mine too, about once or twice a week I'll add in a carb to our meal, one serving that he will get bet that is the only change I make.

[SBD Sass]

Originally Posted by PhotoChick

Whether DH needs to lose weight or not is not, forcing him to "put on his big boy undies and deal" is not the answer.

I totally agree. He can eat whatever he wants. He shouldn't be forced to eat what she's eating, but that shouldn't stop her from eating the way she wants at the same time. Maybe he can get in and help out with the cooking if he wants to eat differently that way she won't feel like she's over cooking / cooking two meals.

[paula953]

Hey guys I am not forcing DH to do anything it was his idea to go on the SB diet in the first place not mine. He bought the book and he did a lot of the research before embarking on this.
Yes he needs to lose weight for his health and heart.
I say he is unsupportive as he will expects me to eat what he has and will make comments about me being 'a goody two shoes' if I stick to the diet. This makes me feel awkward and that is my problem not his.
We weigh ourselves today and will see how things are going if DH has lost again he will probably want to carry on with things.

My problem is I do have bouts of depression and I can be extra sensetive then, like now. So maybe I am being a little too sensetive and not seeing things clearly.
Sorry I should learn to keep things to myself when I am like this as I can be negative and no one needs that this is supposed to be a positve place so I apologise for the negative vibes.