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Originally Posted by kaplods
We've been together 5 years and have a great marriage, but even with that being said, my suspicions were not without warrant. I do not fear infidelity from my husband, but he is a giant PAIN IN THE BUTT, when it comes to being helpful. He's the kind of guy that will walk into a room, take a pickle jar out of your hand and open it, looking all pleased with himself and expecting praise, when you tell him you were actually CLOSING the jar when he came in. His need to be helpful and nurturing is both his greatest strenght and greatest weakness. My husband likewise, was not quite prepared for a woman so independent that asking if I needed help was likely to instigate an argument.
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Colleen - I have to say, first, that I always enjoy reading your posts, because they are incredibly well thought-out and composed.
Secondly, I laughed quite out loud at this. My fiance is quite similar (btw, we met online, quite accidentally, while playing an MMORPG Final Fantasy XI). I know he loves to help, but I'm so used to just doing things on my own.
Just made me smile.
About meeting people online in general: I cannot stress safety enough. I was a little paranoid, but I met my fiance in a public place, and told a few friends and even had one of them call me every two hours (we were hanging out for the entire afternoon/evening). I called my friend when I arrived, and when I left. One of the reasons why I knew I was going to be okay was that I told him outright what I had done (a little embarrassed) and he just laughed and said he'd keep an eye out for two hours to remind me that my friend would be calling soon!
Also, why not be as honest as possible about how you truly are IRL? If I had met someone on the street, they're going to know right away what I look like, generally how big I am, and how tall I am. If they don't like me for that, fine, the sooner I can move onto better things. It's important to meet someone who is going to like you for you, so I feel that posting a nice face picture, and a nice full-body shot is essential. Before meeting my fiance in person, we talked often online, and while I didn't give a number I was pretty upfront about being a larger woman and sent a few pictures. Besides, there's
nothing shameful in saying "This is how I am."
