CEEJAY & SACTOLADY ~ yes, of course you can join us here; this is a pretty big group, but don't let that concern you. If you don't have time to do personals (answer or address each person), just say what you need/want to for now ...
SACTOLADY ~ while I haven't had WL surgery, I have lost weight & regained many times over my lifetime. I was a very successful dieter (just not maintainer). I have now learned that this must be a life-long healthy lifestyle change.
I was put on a diet when I was in my teens by my mother & her doctor; gained that all back with interest -- and that started my yo-yo history from there. I did lose weight many times and with many different plans: portion, calorie, low-carb more than once (ie high protein & Atkins), Fit for Life, Scarsdale, WW, Sandwich Diet (like Subway diet), and some others (not always good though), etc.
After all this, I became a bit jaded for awhile -- meaning very disappointed in the "dieting" process. So, I took a rest for some time while I reassessed and did research. When my weight was causing ill health effects, I knew I had to make some changes for myself. I decided that I would try to find out why I was over-eating in the first place, and work from there. I discovered that I was an emotional-repsonse eater, plus I needed a plan that I could stick with long-term becuz I wanted to end this yo-yo thing once and for all.
Now I am doing a Portion/Calorie based plan -- I love its simplicity and can enjoy foods I love. I have been on this longer than any other plan so far; and plan to eat this way for the rest of my life. It's a lot like the Diabetic plan which I had to follow to get my blood sugar levels in balance. I am watching my sugar & simple carb intake for that reason too.
When I was younger, I could get away with HP/LC plans, but now I have to eat more balanced as my blood sugar levels dip down too low if I don't eat enuff. So I focus on whole foods and complex carbs, but I do limit my fruit to 1-2 servings a day for now.
I think many of us here know exactly how you feel. I think the best thing about how I am eating/living now is that I can see myself eating this healthier way long-term. So, there's no beginning or ending, just one continuous healthier lifestyle now ...
