Dance - thanks for the hug!

No, not even close. I know what your thinking...she might be jealous, right? My cousin came over yesterday and I had vented to her and she had suggested that. My mom is absolutely beautiful. She is skinny, very fit and eats quite healthy and exercises daily. She is 10x better than me when it comes to a healthy lifestyle, she even eats organic. I have tried to really think about what she said, if your going to say something mean, why did she pick that? Could it be true? I genuinely feel that I have not changed in that regard. Really. I also think that her comment goes hand in hand with me and my husband being separated. She did not want us to separate and keeps trying to talk me into taking him back (which is a possibility but one I will make on my own, not under the influence of anyone else). Anyway, Im sorry to focus so much on this subject, it has just really become a bigger issue than she realizes. Im at the point right now that even if she apologized, I still dont think I could be around her right away.

Hi Ladies!

Welcome back Burgund, it's great to see you on here again! That sucks about your scale. Mine plays that mean trick to on ocassion, and I haven't figured out why. I changed the battery, but there are days when I stand on it and get 3 different readings. Oh, and if I move the scale on the floor, I get another reading. Weird......

Lindy- Sorry about the Mom thing. I know that sucks and I too thought it might be a jealousy thing with weight (Like Tiff's Mom), but it doesn't sound like it. My Mom has 'tones' that can be hurtful. I hate it when she does that and I feel like she is judging me, because it just pisses me off and then I get depressed. I hate being on the 'the outs' with her because she is 85 and I know time is precious now. I hope things get better between you two soon, but I definitely understand where you are coming from and YES, your marriage should only be based on your feelings and not input from the field. LOL......hugs to you!

Dance - I agree with Lindy, you are awesome, supportive and wonderful for all of us. THANK YOU!!

Ok, yesterday I am NOT discussing. It was my husband birthday and man did I eat........ugh........I actually felt sick because my stomach was expanded so much...LOL. Today is my new day and I worked out for 50 minutes, and am on track. I do have a headache and body aches, but I know that is from the crap I ate yesterday and the chemicals from the caffiene and sugar. I wish my body didn't react that way.

Hope all of you are having a great Mondy. Lindy is it raining down there? The weather has just sucked the last two days....clouds, rain and just gross.

Sandy - yeah, rain..rain...rain...blah! Yesterday and today were lousy. I havent gone tanning and 2 weeks and it shows. I know, that is not important (and bad for you) but man do I love my sun kissed glow, lol. It makes me feel skinny. Dont ask me why, it just does. I will not ask you about yesterday but I will hold you accountable for anything else that you choose to consume Monday - Friday. Isnt it funny how bad we crave certain things and then we give in and we feel like complete crap after. I just dont get it.

Ok...gotta finish a project up.

mygrits - Okay, yesterday happened (I feel the same way myself : ) ) - now what? What's your plan this week? I know you want to make progress so I'm going to be a little bit pushy - how will it be different than yesterday and what's going to make you stick to it? Other than the assorted aches and pains from overeating : )

You guys are so great - if I screw up, I actually feel like I'm letting you down and it's really helping me keep to plan so HUGE GROUP HUG : ) I so wish we could all meet for cocktails.... low-cal, of course.

Lindy - So sorry you're hurting. Mom's are precious and I hate to see you guys on the outs. Interesting that there's no chance it's a jealousy thing. It sounds like you may be on to something in that she's worried you're dieting to make yourself 'ready to date again' (ie, someone other than your husband). If and when you're ready, it might be interesting to ask her for specific examples of why she had that opinion (or why she exaggerated if that's the case). I can't imagine you fitting the description she gave but I also can't imagine you being okay with not understanding more about why she said it. I got great advice from a boss years and years ago about perceptions vs reality. He said it's always powerful to understand what people's perceptions of you are, right or wrong. Just because they have a certain opinion of you, that doesn't mean that is the reality. But once you know they have a certain perception, you can start taking steps to change it. I guess what I like about it is that it's more productive than thinking 'they're wrong, I'm not like that'. It gives you something you can do - calmly try to understand the source of the mis-perception and start a program of actions that will change it. Does that make any sense? Hang in there kiddo!

Lindy and Dance-yeah, the scale giving false reads really sucks. It said 209 and I was like WHAT!!! I wish. But there was no way I had lost 12 lbs in a week. That would be awesome though.

Lindy-I hope things get better with your mom. My mom lost about 70 lbs like 9 years ago and knows I am trying to lose. She has made comments before like you would be so pretty if you would just lose that(and would pat my belly) How frustrating is that, she said the same thing to my twin sister once and Ashley said to her, What, I'm not pretty now?

Sandy-I get different readings with my scale too, but never that far off. I will get a battery before Sunday. Tomorrow is done, so get back to eating healthy and exercising and everything will work out.

I went to the grocery store today and got lots of healthy stuff. My husband wants to go fishing all over tomorrow and stop for pizza. I am going to skip the pizza and pack a chicken salad to eat while he fishes. We are taking the pups so that means I will be doing a lot of walking and running with them. Everyone will be happy to know(especially Sandy) that when I am done typing this I am getting up and doing 30DS for the first time in a LONG time. Hope everyone has a great night. I will try to check in tomorrow.

Wow, burgundy - you are a woman with a plan! Sounds like you will have a great (and super healthy) day tomorrow!

Lindy: Sorry things are so rough with your mom. I would take Dancer's advice and just have a talk with her and let her know what she is saying is hurtful, and if it stems from your separation with your hubby (which is not of her business), then she needs to stop. Sounds like she is making comments similar to your hubby...very strange.

Burgundy: welcome back. Planning is half the battle, good luck tomorrow with fishing...and the 30DS tonight!

Well, I'm kinda bummed with the scale lately, don't get me wrong, I know the scale is going down, but not fast enough (it takes time, I know). So, when I started my journey, I took down my measurements. Being bummed with my eating / working out lately, I decided to retake my measurements. Boy was I surprised!! (Pleasantly surprised, that is). Here we go:

Legs: lost 2-1/4 inches each
Arms: 1 inch each
Waist: 4-1/2 inches (WOW!)
Hips: 3 inches
Bust: 0 - which I'm sure the hubby will be thrilled about! LOL

This makes me feel better. At least if the scale isn't going down, at least I know my waist is. Do any of you do something similar to this? I guess I just need to keep motivated.

Forgot to mention to you all...I am now a size smaller in jeans as well. I had to go shopping last weekend for new pants because mine were too baggy. They are still a little big now, but will deal with them until they are too baggy to stand anymore.

Have a great night ladies!

Maddiesmom - woohoo! those are great NSVs - so fun to wear smaller jeans!

Lindy - love the new photo on facebook - you are SO pretty! BTW, hope my comments yesterday didn't annoy you - I just hate to see you sad.

So, I screwed up last night again after a day of being right on plan. Any advice for avoiding the late night munchies? I know some will power would be helpful but in the absence of that (apparently), anything else you guys would recommend? I almost never hear that you guys do late night snacking and I need to stop doing this now!

It rained really hard here last night so it's much cooler this morning and I think I'm going to give running a try and see how it goes.

Have a good one!

Morning ladies -

Burgundy - thanks for adding me to FB. I love your plan to bring an alternative meal while your hubby munches on pizza, I dont know how you can do it. Pizza is definately a down fall of mine and anyone who eats it around me, I cannot say no, no matter how much will power I have (or lack of-lol).

Vicky - woo-hoo for the inches lost! I keep telling myself that I need to take my measurements. Maybe Ill do that tonight, especially since I have another 60+ pounds to go. It sucks to see the scale not go down faster but you just have to keep repeating...slow and steady wins the race.

Dance - thanks for the compliment, thats so nice of you. No, comments on FB dont bother me at all, I appreciate your support here and on FB. Im not too good on the FB thing yet. I mean, I do my farm everyday, lol, but replying to comments...sometimes I slack. Especially since I spend more time here in the 3FC forum, lol. Late night munchies...hmmm...yeah, I dont have that issue too often but when I do, I usually try to drink so much water that I want to puke, lol, I know...gross. At times I have actually became desperate enough to force myself to go to bed early to "sleep off" my hunger. It sounds stupid but it usually works. I have created a rule and it is one that I actually stick to most of the time, no eating after 7. It will just sit in my tummy like a log and I dont want that. If I am super hungry, I go to bed...wake up and have a HUGE breakfast. It gives me something to look forward to. How did your run go?

I just wanted to thank everyone for their support with the issue with my mom. We are still on non-speaking terms but I know it will surpass in time. Im not going to bring it up again because I still have quite a bit of ill will and am trying to brush it under the carpet. It time, it will pass. Anyway, I did SOOOO good on my food and exercise yesterday and I discovered something very exciting. I LOVE - seriously, L-O-V-E Chick Fil A lemonade and it is MAJOR calories so I havent been having it. Well, someone at work called to my attention that they make Diet Lemonade, I looked it up online and it is only 30 calories for a large...woo-hoo! I had one this morning and it was sooooo good. :<happy dance> Ok, gotta get back to work.

Hi Ladies,

Hey Dance, yesterday I got my exercise in and was more focused with food than I have been in a couple of weeks. This time is different because when I 'act' unhealthy is also feeds to other members of the family. I can't do that to myself or them anymore. When I eat healthy and take care of myself, it seems to cause my husband to do the same (or atleast do better). Also, at my age, being overweight has risk factors climb even higher. SO, today I was down a pound from yesterday. I have my healthy foods ready and will do some exercise upstairs later. I rotate outside and inside from day to day - it's HOT here in Florida, so can't workout outside everyday! LOL.... Thanks for making be accountable Dance! Oh, for late night munchies I chew gum and sometimes have hot tea. I have found that for a long time I associate TV with food. So, now when I eat, I am not in front of the TV, which makes it easier with late night TV watching. The association isn't as strong. Gum though is usually my saving grace!

Maddie - WOO HOO! Wow, now that is impressive!!!! You have lost ALOT of inches. I don't measure, but now think I might start doing that. I know it can really show toning and weight loss. You are doing fantastic.

mygrits - happy one pound down dance!!! congrats! Sounds like you have a great plan! And thanks for the snack avoidance ideas - I'll give tea a try although it's not as appealing when it's hot out. TV and eating go together for me too so I've totally stopped watching except for while I elliptical but now I'm associating eating with late night reading which I have to seriously work on or I'm not going to make any more progress.

Lindy - I really admire your discipline with the late night stuff!! I'll give the 'must drink 3 giant glasses of water first' approach a try. And no eating after dinner is clearly the right approach. Being physically exhausted is definitely the best way to avoid it so that may help. Had a work call come in early so my run has been delayed but heading out now.

Im SOOOOOO hungry today and I think I know why - TOM!!! Yup, I dont have a real visitor each month, just the symptoms and some spotting but sure enough, I noticed this morning. I really screwed up on something with calories. I thought I could have 24 shrimp for 90 calories but I looked it up again (after I ate) and 10 medium shrimp from Publix is actually 120 calories and I had 20. On top of that, I had 2 slices of bread and a snack size bag of Cheez Its (never seems to fail). I am at 100 calories right now, starving beyond belief and still have a whole day ahead of me with only 400 calories left on my plate...grrrrr. I am trying to drink a TON of water, but its going right through me.

Im happy to read that it looks like everyone else is on track. I dont even bother asking where anyone is anymore because the bottom line is, if you want to lose weight and want to be here, you'll be here. I just made plans on Friday to have lunch with an old friend and then Friday night I am going to happy hour with the girls so I BETTER stay focused the rest of this week.

Lindy - it's funny how weight loss efforts affect your social plans, don't you think? I actually get nervous about eating out now - craziness. I'm having a bunch of the girls over for dinner and drinks on Friday night and am going to do rotisserie chicken, grilled veggies, rice or maybe couscous, and fruit for dessert. That way I know I can't get too far off plan. They were suggesting going out and I convinced them that the kids could run around in the backyard, etc. better at my house than at a restaurant. Too funny... Sorry about TOM - hope the salt and chocolate cravings don't get too bad!

Run was okay - just 30 min but my knee survived and I swear it's easier with just a few pounds less of me since the last time I ran, which is kind of a cool NSV. Will try to row this evening...

So we did go fishing this morning, ran around with the dogs. They absolutely loved the water. We decided to skip the pizza all together. I am not a fan of pizza(lucky me, and weird, I know). So I made us turkey sandwiches and cut up fruit to take. It was yummy. I have to work tonight and tomorrow, chasing 2 boys around tomorrow. I bought a rotisserie chicken to cut up and make salads and other yummy healthy stuff.

Dance-thanks for the encouraging words, Just knowing you girls are here and we want to see each other succeed is really helping me get back on track. I try not to eat after 7 or 8 and like Sandy I have gum in the house all the time. I am so used to not eating after dinner now, most of the time its not even an issue anymore.

Maddiesmom-yay on inches lost. Its always great to see some kind of loss.
Thanks for the fishing luck, he caught 5 bass.

Lindy-that is what we are here for, support, not just weight loss support. Oh and I love the diet lemonade too!!! TOM is evil, I am like you, I dont have one every month but I do sometimes get the symptoms and they are evil too. Mine was a week ago and man did I eat.

Sandy-great to hear you are focused and it helps your family too. WOOHOO for being down one more lb!!!!!!!!

Ok off to clean the house, have a great afternoon everyone.