Jodi, my heart absolutely goes out to you. Ever since I first heard about your husband, I have prayed everyday that he will find a job. I know it's hard, but things happen for a reason and everything happens when it's supposed to. All you can do is take it one day at a time and believe that things are going to get better. You have to believe, not hope, not wish, but believe that things will work out for the best. I'm so glad you are reading the Bible. It's true that no amount of worry will change tomorrow. And your husband and you, don't let this hurt your relationship. He needs you and you need him and Breawna needs you both. Support him as best you can. I know that there is probably more to it, things that are driving you crazy, but do your best to remember each other as you really are, in the best of times. I so feel for you. Just knowing that you cry about this brings tears to my eyes. I understand your depression. Do anything you can to surround yourself with happy things, things that you love, and to immerse your mind in joyful thoughts, so that you won't fall any deeper. You need to think as positively as you can. "This too will pass." You and your family are in my prayers. And you are not alone.

No time for personals so congrats to everyone that met goal...have a great week....and a great month!!!

Jodi~ Delphi & Jacqui have both given you wonderful advice and encouragement I am here to offer a little more. Hun, first of all, let me say that I feel so bad that you're hurting so much right now. I can't imagine how hard and stressful things must be for you and your husband. I wished we lived closer, I'd head over and give you a big giant ! Then, I'd ask my hubby if he could get your hubby a job where he works...

I've suffered from depression for a long time. Sometimes I'm fine and things just plug right along without much of an issue. Then there are the other times where my moods are all over the place, I feel hopeless, I'm eating everything under the sun and nothing seems to go right--my life falls apart. This affects everything--intimacy included. It's hard enough to get through those tough times feeling okay about facing another day, add maintaining a healthy intimate relationship into the mix and well, things start to really suffer.

Now, meds aren't for everyone, but I have to tell you that after years of denying that I needed to go back on meds, telling myself to just 'snap out of it', trying again and again to get into a positive frame of mind only to fall back down into depression...I finally made a call to my dr. I had never met the man and thankfully I lucked out big time! He is fantastic! Anyway, I told him everything I was going through and I walked out with a Rx in my hand. There I was again, in that place I swore I'd never be--on meds. Sigh...but ya know what? Within 3 days I had stopped binging (did you know that craving carbs can actually be a sign of seratonin imbalance?! I didn't!), I started feeling somewhat 'normal' after a couple of weeks and now, well, people have actually used the words 'positive attitude' when describing me! If you had seen me prior to seeing my dr. 'positive attitude' wouldn't have entered your mind when describing me.

Anyway, just thought I'd share my experience with depression--sometimes no matter how much you will yourself to be happy and have a positive attitude, it's just beyond your control and you need help. I find people who have the ability to turn their depression around on their own (like Delphi) amazing! I tried and tried and just never could do it. I hated asking for meds, but ya know, if I were a diabetic, I wouldn't be able to will myself better so it is with my depression.

Now, as far as personals go--hun, don't you fret! It doesn't matter if you're here posting 10 times a day writing replies to everyone or if you're here once a week or month for that matter. We're all in this boat together! If you need us--we're here! If you want to come and brag on exercise or losing a pound--we're here! If you want to gripe, whine, complain and cry--for whatever reason--we're here! Don't worry about it for a second. And as to how I'm able to write personals--I tend to be on the computer when all the kids are otherwise occupied or asleep.

again hun! Feel free to PM me anytime if you want to chat!

HI dear ladies, your all amazing! you really are!

Jodi, the girls pretty much said all I would say. I so agree regarding hubby. A long close talk sounds in order, it will most likely do you both IONs of good as long as it goes well. He may be very touchy right now and sensitive about the issue as men often place their value on being a provider etc. but I hope you are able to go to each other. Hang in there my lady and I wish you the best of luck. Also, very important right now, please try and surround yourself with as much support as possible. We sometimes, or many of us, may feel ashamed at needing help sometimes or may even have difficulty reaching out but we are all human and all of us at one time or another in ourlives need help. Go to your sources of support (good support of course) family members, good freinds, and your girls here too of course . Good for you for going for that bike ride! : ) Regarding posting, areyou kidding? l ol your absolutely not letting us down...we love having you here and well...the girls said it all. Ohhhhhhh, congratulations to you and breawna on the lossess

Delphi, crazymama, Jacqui, and Jacquee..........as well as to all of you...hi girls I will see you all over in our June thread.

Hi Jodi:
First of all . I second what everyone else has said here.
Things like exercise and spiritual support are a big help when dealing with depression, but just like what CMo4 said, sometimes you can't just will yourself out of it. Sometimes you need some extra help, don't be embarrassed to ask for it, you'd be surprised at how many people have had to ask for it, and there is nothing wrong with it.

Hang in there beautiful, we are here for you!

To everyone else: Happy June! Going to the new thread now!

THE LAST DAY, LADIES!!! LET ME KNOW IF YOU HAVE MET GOAL, SO I CAN CHANGE IT TO RED!!!

FullSteamAhead: Lose 8-10 lbs
Jacqui_D: Lose 10 lbs to reach 187 lbs
SuzyQ: Lose 5-10 lbs; get "rear in gear"
CakeBatter: Wear any size 10; lose 7 lbs; keep working Flylady plan
Tammyjo: Lose 10 lbs
Jacque9999: Lose 1.5 - 2 lbs a week--MET GOAL!!
Shrinkingleah: Lose 7 pounds by June 1st
Rowenna: Reach 105 lbs; feel great about self!
Hattie: Lose at least 5 lbs; reach at least 192 lbs; keep eating OP
BellaEllaEllAaa: Eat more fruits and veggies; drink 8 or more glasses of water throughout the day; stay positive, be supportive, and ask for support when needed
Mikayla: Lose 10lbs
Getlost: Strive to lose 3 lbs/week and not less than 8-10 lbs/month
Brown_Eyed_Staccie: By May 15th, reach 216 lbs; by May 31st, reach 210 lbs; be able to wear jeans done up and looking HOT
Lene1974: Lose 10 lbs; drink 64 oz of water a day--MET GOAL!!
Neesy_20: Lose 10 lbs; be able to wear goal capris
SupaChix: Breawna: Lose 10 lbs Jodi: Lose 8 lbs
Econ_Nerd: Lose 10 or more lbs to reach 237.6 lbs or below
Wifey: Lose 8 lbs
StarryNights110: Lose 8-10 lbs to reach the 170s: stay within calorie limit; no sugar
Ms_Perception: Reach 165 lbs; eat more fruits and veggies (5/day)
Saramommy: Lose 8 lbs to reach 155 lbs--MET GOAL!!
Fressca: Lose 7 lbs to reach 155 lbs
Michelle0630: Lose 5 lbs
Musiclover: Lose 6.5 lbs to reach 147 lbs--MET GOAL!!
Newshinyme: Lose 1-2 lbs a week to break through the 30 lb loss mark
Lewisempire: Lose 5 lbs to reach 195 lbs
JasonsLea: Stay POP 85% of the month (26 out of 31 days); try to incorporate the Abs Power Diet into my eating plan; lose 10 lbs
Westtexaschick: Reach 140-138 lbs
Smallification: Lose 6 lbs to reach "normal weight" BMI--MET GOAL!!
Skinnygurlinside: Lose 10 lbs
Mcrunner: Lose 5 lbs; eat more fruits and veggies; get back to using FitDay regularly
MrsHomeStretch: Lose 19.5 lbs; burn 40,300 calories this month; eat 1300 calories or less a day
Delphi: Lose 3 lbs--MET GOAL!!; lose 3 more lbs--MET GOAL!!; lose another 3 lbs--MET GOAL!!; stay within daily calorie intake allowance
Canadianangel: Lose 16 lbs
Crazymamaof4: Lose 10 lbs to reach 176 lbs--MET GOAL!!; lose inches--MET GOAL!!; get out of "obese" BMI category--MET GOAL!!; eat more fruits and veggies--MET GOAL!!
Scaleskl: Lose 8 lbs; drink at least 64 oz of water per day
Fenderella: Reach 299 lbs
Terapet: Lose 3 lbs
E.mccoy: Lose 10 lbs to reach 202 lbs; no late night snacking
FABlynne: Lose 10 lbs
Urockmom: Lose vacation weight; lose 3 additional lbs
Wantstoloseweight: Lose 10-12 lbs
CheeCheen: Lose 10 lbs
Dvdrumls: Lose 10 kg

I didn't quite make the ten pounds but I did get about half way so that is good I'll try again for June