Sending kind thoughts and hugs x

More than enough going on here, don't worry about us at all...

Coop, I worry about the thread dying. You all mean so much to me.


Jennifer and I had an argument on Christmas. We talked on the phone last night and made some positive process but she texted me today and said she wasn't coming home until tomorrow night. I am feeling all kinds of feelings about the whole thing. I feel like she loves and respects everyone but me.

anyway, that is what is going on here. I am just down and disappointed.

Holly, I once read that a person should never be judged by how they act at a funeral service. We all mourn differently. And, I can tell you from personal experience. unless someone acts really bizarre, the immediate family will never remember what you said, whether you cried, what you wore - they will only remember that you came to pay your respects.

When my father passed away, a thin young man with a long scraggly beard came through the receiving line, grabbed each of our hands, bowed, never said a word, and walked out. Later we checked the names, and none of us knew who this guy was. When my mother passed less than three years later, and we were all sitting making plans, one of my brothers said, "I hope (the guy) shows up!" Well, it cracked us all up, gave us a good moment of fun in a tough time. Bottom line, do not worry whether you cried or not.

Lisa, I am sorry things are so tough for you. Take care.

Lisa, we are thinking of you!! and hoping it works out and that you feel that your daughter is giving you the respect you deserve...that she loves and respects you is a certainty but she needs to let you see it!

EasySpirit, thanks and I love the unknown stranger story

I didn't describe however, the 2 hour car ride with my sister down there she might be 6 years sober but she is still bat-crap crazy!! Really on-edge and gets irrationally, quickly upset about really trivial things. And totally selfish about the conversation, turned every topic back to herself. Well I will know to continue to keep my distance from her.

Now that we have received some snow, work is crazy busy again, it will be a long busy day tomorrow.

Hey even though I still eat like a horse, like a sugar-crazed horse, I've been keeping up with working out (about 3 to 4 times a week) and after shoveling for TWO HOURS yesterday, I am not sore today!!

have a good night and we really are pulling for you Lisa

oh and here is a perfect example of why I don't want to be around my sister...you know how when you worry about what you think you look like, and people say 'other people are never as critical or interested in what you look like, as you might be worried about" ? Like about going to the gym and being embarrassed about not being in-shape, or whatever...well one of my cousins has put on some weight, but so what?? So we are leaving the service and we are not even off the front porch when my jerk sister says 'wow "Jane" has really gotten huge!" Jerk.

(this is not to disrespect what you said, EasySpirit, about me wondering if it was bad not to cry and wondering if it was noticed...this is just a concrete example of what a mean spirit my sister is)

I am up in the middle of the night because my dog decided he had to go outside - raw and rainy out, and now I cannot get back to sleep.

Holly, you and I could play, "Can You Top This?" with our sisters. One of mine is fine, the other is a total nut - odd, socially inept, self-centered, paranoid - and, here is the best - she is a PSYCHO-ANALYST with a thriving practice.

On the diet front, I have started to eliminate all sugar by following the I QUIT SUGAR eight week detox. I started Sunday; thank goodness the first week is cutting back, etc., as I just this minute realized the almond butter I have been using has sugar. AGH! I can't believe it. I usually buy Trader Joe's all natural, nothing added, but this jar was on sale elsewhere and I bought it. It is going to get tossed!

Lisa, let us know how you are doing. We are worried.

and

congrats on your determination to kick the sugar!! I know every day is a fresh opportunity, maybe today will be the day.

Takes one to know one?

Just popping by to wish you all a happy new year hope the year ahead treats you kindly.

Feeling down again. I jogged for 45 minutes yesterday and walked another 20. I've been eating well. And yet here I am. Haven't lost a single ounce. I think I'm panicking.

Hi librarian! We started a new thread - here's the link:
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/depression-weight-issues/308079-ups-downs-support-group-feb-2016-a.html

(Sorry, it didn't hyperlink, but you can copy and paste)

Sorry you're having a tough time, we have lots of warm hugs in the new thread. It typically takes around 3 days for weight loss to show up on the scales, so don't be disheartened that it isn't there today. Your muscles are still recovering from yesterday!