Kylie

I am sorry you have had to be confronted with that news. Don't try keeping this to yourself, that would be very unhealthy. Talk it through with your family if you can, friends, or even a professional if you have too. And don't neglect your own feelings and needs while supporting your family. Know we are here to listen to if you are comfortable with that, although I know on an open messageboard, that could leave you feeling somewhat exposed. There is always the PM system here too.

I hope you can find peace with this soon

Vonni has plenty of wise words there too, listen to her advice.

Kylie I really feel for you. I can only echo the words of Vonni, Lindor and Barb - all wise, compassionate women. Are you close to your sister? Will she talk to you about what happened?

There's so much anger, pain and grief - and rightly so. Please don't turn it inside and 'punish' yourself - Vonni is so right, it's important to talk and to let it out. It's especially difficult when your whole family is hurting, because under every other circumstance they are the ones who would support you through horrible times. In situations like this you have to support each other - but you also need to be supported by other people. Is your BF understanding and helpful? Please feel free to PM me, or any of the women here, if you want to have a chat about things.

I've got to run - a couple of friends are giving some of their time to help me pack today… three more sleeps and I'll be in my new house. Whew - lots to do before I get there though.


Ani

Morning!

Just a quickie to report in as I have decided I need to get some housework done this weekend and I neeeeeeed to wash my dogs!!!

I managed a good day yesterday, despite a morning tea AND a lunch thing at work!!! All things counted (including the doughnut and slice of pizza) I think I still managed to stay near (maybe slightly over) my 1400cals for the day. I drank 2.5L water and I did my step ups. And I am still feeling really motivated and in control of this weight loss attempt!

15kgs to go...I know I can do this!

How's everyone else going?

Hi girls -

First, thankyou Vonni, Ani and Lindor. You are all wonderful women, and it is so comforting to have your support.

I wish it were simple, I wish there were ways to make everything change. However, I know that it cant happent that way. My sister (she's 12) and I are quite close, but I think we could be closer. The slight age difference and the actual distance between us has made it difficult.

I also wish it were easier on my mum. She is the king of person that is well known in the community, because she contributes to so many things. I am constantly amazed by her strength, but it makes me feel so helpless when she cries to me on the phone. I can't make the hurt go away for her. She, of all people, doesn't deserve this kind of pain.

Anyway, I will keep you posted about her efforts to move out (along with 3 kids, 4 cats and a dog). But I wont keep on about this, because I don't really think it's the place.

I had AIESEC people over tonight for a bonding session (read: pizza and planning). I did eat pizza, but I take solace in the following:
~It was homemade base and sauce
~There was a lot of vegies
~the mozzerella was 'light'

Ok, so maybe it wasn't that great. And the coke and 3 Strongbows probably didn't help either. But, I honestly thought "to **** with it", after my poor efforts this week. I have decided to come down HARD starting tomorrow, ie totally strict on my diet, gym whenever possible, amp up the water etc.

I will lose weight. I will not make excuses. I MUST keep going. It wont work if I let myself have 'treats' every now and again, because they become every day.

Thankyou again, everyone, I really really appreciate it.
See you at the weigh in tomorrow...(OMG it's Monday already???)

Kylie

Morning all!

Kylie, good to hear from you. You sound like you are holding up as best you can given your recent news, but I am concerned that while being there for your Mum and sister, your emotional needs and support are being pushed aside. And I am not suggesting that is deliberate or anyones fault. I'm just suggesting you look out for yourself too, and make sure you have someone there you are comfortable talking your feelings through with too.

I won't go on with it anymore here either, but know you can always drop a PM to any of us too.


Ani, how's the move going?


I had a good weekend diet wise. Stuck to all my daily goals - although (surprisingly) I considerably under ate yesterday!!! Not sure what brought that on, but I only managed just over 1000cals!!

And despite saying I'll make Sundays my day off of step ups, I opted to do them. I decided that if I am to take a day off step ups it should be Monday - weigh-in day - because if I have a not so good weigh-in result, you can bet your bottom dollar, I'd blame it on not doing my step ups the night before

Anyway, weigh-in this morning showed a 0.8kg drop. I am happy with that. Calorie King tells me with my current intake and exercise, I should be averaging 0.45kg drop a week.

So, how was everyone elses weekend, and how goes the weigh ins??

Hi everyone, this is just a quickie as I am on my final day of packing etc. I weighed in at 89.7kg this morning, a loss of 0.8.

Kylie, I am thinking of you and hope things begin to resolve for your family. Your mum sounds like a brave woman to me - and I hope your family can heal from this.

Lindor how did you go with your weigh in today? Sorry I'm not being very chatty or supportive… 24 hours until the moving truck comes, and hopefully I'll soon be back to normal.

Good luck with the weigh-ins everyone. Gotta fly!


Ani

Looks like we posted at the same time Lindor. YAY for your weight loss this week… woo hoo

Morning!

Well, yesterday when I jumped on the scales, I had an awesome reading. This morning, after the 'pizza and beer' episode, I'm not surprised that the reading changed!! So officially down only 0.7kg this week. But a loss is a loss, and I figure next week's efforts are gonna be much much better! (fingers crossed)

Well done Lindor! I like your thinking behind the step-ups! I have resolved to go to the gym whenever possible this week, and I have written those times in my diary. This makes them unmissable appointments. I really am aiming for a big drop. (Although I will be happy with whatever I get, I promise)

Well, I've also decided to find the coolest weekly animation. This week we can all go jump!

Kylie

Argh Ani! I missed your post too! Well done on the drop - and look after your back and your sanity over the next couple of days ok? I hope the move goes well for you.

Kylie

Ani, I know you are busy and all that, but I just wanted to bring to your attention, the following fact...

...in case you missed it ...




YOU HAVE MADE IT UNDER 90kg!!!




...well done mate!! Very, very proud of you!!!


Kylie well done to you too! Considering your week, that is an awesome achievement too

G'morning all! I've been busy reading everyones posts. Ani hope the move goes smoothly for you. And congrats everyone on their weight losses this week.

Well, despite my best intentions at the start of last week it did not go very well at all. I wasn't even going to hop on scales this morn but thought I had better - no loss for me this week - again

Having a bit of a depressed mood this week / weekend. Nearly split up with my DH. Probably over stupid things (I can get moody and am a bit of a perfectionist). He is sleeping on the sofa but at least he is still home. Part of our thing is he is so dependant on me for everything. His whole life revolves around me. I know a lot of people would give anything to have that, but it gets suffocating, and I have always been a very independent person and like to also do my own thing.

Then last night we had argument with DH ex wife. One of my family members had a stroke recently and my sis is organising a reunion for all the band members who have played together (we were a family of muzos, even the non related are like family) because she said u just never know whats around the corner. Well, it would have been our turn for the kids, but we can't drag them all,(2 cars and 2 motel rooms = expense) and its not really a place for little ones anyhow. So we asked the ex to have them The fri/sat and we take them sun/mon instead (easter) she cracked a wranger. All sorted now though. Will swap weekends totally.

I had the most ridiculous days at work over the weekend. We open at 8.30, and at 8.31 it started. If I didn't laugh I would have cried. It was busy busy with not a moment to breathe. I ate a packet of twisties at morning tea. Then when I finished work and shopping I had an aero bar. THEN I had an icecream after dinner. oh boy what a baaad day. That set the mood for Sunday. I think I may be a comfort eater. Oh one good thing for the weekend - I got $205 worth of clothes for kids at only $29. red light sales at work heehee.

I have kicked my own arse today and am determined to make this weight loss thing work. I am so close to getting under 70kg and it is so hard watching the scales needle not move. After 3 weeks of not walking I am thinking stuff everyone. I WILL walk and I am doing this not only for me but for the family as well. A fitter healthier me is a fitter healthier and happier wife and mother.

Anyhow, I won't go on anymore. Sorry to come in such a depressed state. I promise tomorrow I will be "much more betterer"

Kylie u go girl. And I agree with the others. DON'T NEGLECT YOURSELF. How far away does your mum live? Is there any way she can come stay with you for a while? That way you can be supportive of each other? Thinking of you and hope you are ok.

VONNI

Congrats on the losses everyone, and especially Ani, going under 90kg - woohoo!! Good for you, I can't wait to join you!

I lost 700g this week, which is exactly what I gained last week, so I'm back to 2 weeks ago. Exactly what I wanted to lose, so I'm happy with that. Also it's that TOM, so any loss is a victory. Plus, I'm still "hungry" since quitting smoking - don't think it's actual hunger, but a comfort as I do feel like something is missing. It's not that I "want" a smoke, but just so used to having them around, it's odd.

Anyhow, still losing, and upping my exercise again. I can tell I'm getting fitter because it's getting bloody hard to get my HR up on the treadmill now! I've added a (huge!) incline, and also pumping arms and punching the air (would look like SUCH a weirdo if anyone could see in the window...), and jogging - a lot.

Have done so-so with dropping intake to 1400 calories, but the first week of changing the cals is always hard, so this week will be easier!

Today was my last day at work... strange. So now I'm a lady of leisure for the next few weeks. Must make myself do lots of walking and not sit on my butt all day!

Morning all,

Just want to touch base before the removal truck comes. Vonnie I want to take the time to reply properly to you, and I don't have time this morning – are you OK? I understand what you mean about partners having such different needs about space and independence. It was the biggest issue for me in my last relationship, and it's really, really tricky to compromise with. I will write a longer reply later, but just know I'm thinking of you

Gen, how exciting - a new chapter in your life. I hope you come and join me in the 80s very soon… I still don't have my head around the fact that the 90s are gone for me - only because I haven't had time to think about it. But it's a great milestone, and I hope you're here soon.

Kylie sounds like you're keeping really busy too. Are you feeling OK?

Lindor you are inspiring me! Keep up the awesome work mate!

OK - it's very naughty of me to be on the computer when I should be doing moving things. My cats KNOW something very odd is happening today, and they're being uber-neurotic.

IF I get the office/computer set up today I will check in tonight and see how everyone is, and let you know how the move went. In the meantime, it's 5.30am and I really must shake something.

Hope you all have a good one!


Ani

looks like my gremlins are back again!