So, I am pregnant. I think. I WAS pregnant, but I think I'm threatening miscarriage. I went in for my first appointment and the vaginal u/s couldn't find a heartbeat, but the doctor said it could be too early. But I think he was worried, cause he ordered two blood tests 48 hours apart to check my Hcg levels. And they went up, but nowhere near doubled. A week ago I had some spotting (from my period I should be 6.5 wks along) So he wants me to come back in Thursday and they're going to check for a heartbeat again, and if there isn't one, he said I'll probably miscarry. But from what I've read, the not-so-exponential Hcg numbers already spell disaster. I spent much of Friday and Saturday crying, and have worked through most of the emotional trauma, but it's so hard still feeling so sick and knowing it's probably for nothing. I have had some light brownish pink discharge, but just a tiny bit Sat night and Sun morning. It's okay if I miscarry (though we really want this baby and it is our first), but it's hard waiting and not knowing - I can't imagine a positive outcome with those Hcg numbers (only went from 5000 something to 6000 something I think he said) and I'm not sure how to think or feel. I could really use some moral support.

I cannot even imagine the heartache you are going through. I think I may have had miscarriages over the years, as well. But, b/c I didn't know I was pregnant, I wasn't as emotionally involved. At any rate, don't give up. If you did miscarry, you know you can get pregnant (which was half the battle for me). You are so young. It will work out! Good luck!

Are you trying to conceive? (Was this try planned?) Is the issue that your weight-loss is interfering? (Or nutrition isn't what it needs to be?)

If you've never had kids before, I understand it's fairly common to have a miscarriage or more before one "sticks." I had one friend who's wife miscarried, and they were upset about it. But, they gave her a few months "off" to recover, and now they've got (count 'em) 4 kids.

Also, I think I've heard that if you're coming off of hormonal contraceptives, it may take a little while to get "back in the swing" so your body is in reproductive mode again.

Sorry I can't be more helpful or supportive - I never really looked into the biological process of having kids, because I decided that wasn't the route I want to go. (I decided to get my tubes tied 2 years ago). But I'm always happy to see other people have babies when they want them.

I think maybe I'll adopt some day, but I'm not really all that keen on passing my pathetic genes on to some poor unsuspecting baby. That, and I feel like I don't (personally) need to contribute to the population when there are many children out there who could use a loving home. Good luck with your biological-endeavors, but don't discount adoption as a possible alternative, either. You might decide it's a good idea whether you end up having bio-kids or not.

--Janis

{{{hugs}}}} Hope you have answers soon. Not knowing is the worst. I have had 2 pregnacies that started that way, one had a good ending, one didn't. Wish I had more positive answers for you.

Thank you for the kind comments. I actually just found an article/blog by an MD that gave me a little hope (everything else I have read has made it sound pretty bad if my numbers aren't doubling). Yes, we had been trying for several months and I had not been on hormal bc since July (didn't agree with my body). Nutrition is not the issue - I have been taking prenatals for months and am getting more food than I need right now (some of it healthy, but too often the healthy stuff is more nauseating...sigh) My weight loss is suffering greatly (as I have had to eat very often to keep from feeling really sick) but the pregnancy should not - I have been extremely conscientious! I know I am very grateful that I am able to get pregnant - it is a huge hurdle in the game! It is just hard not knowing and expecting the worst and just wanting it to all be over with if there is something wrong with the pregnancy. I am going to try to keep my spirits up until Thursday, when we see if there is a heartbeat or not. Any support is so appreciated. (especially hearing that one of your pregnancies like this DID work out flower)

It is my understanding that, very early on, an increase of any sort in the HCG level is good, even if it's not doubling. And I have a two-year-old in my lap right now and a four-year-old watching TV who are living proof that bleeding during pregnancy doesn't necessarily mean miscarriage.

Sorry... I just know this is a weight-loss support board, and figured perhaps nutrition might be an issue (especially if it was an unplanned pregnancy, since there was nothing to indicate that it wasn't).

I know I've been having my own share of nutrition issues lately, because I've been over-doing it on the diet-front -- it was a legitimate question, and I'm sorry if I was a bit naiive because I'm not part of the experienced-pregnancy-club. I know miscarriages are common, and I'm sorry it happens to so many people. But they happen for a variety of reasons.

You're not born knowing all about pregnancy and childbirth just because you're female, ya know. No ill will intended.

--Janis

Miscarrying for 6 weeks? I am so sorry for you. That sounds like a nightmare. It is okay, I did not take offense to or hurt at her questions, but I can see how some might. I have read enough to know exactly what I can and can't do, and have been very careful, so I know that this miscarriage (if it is) would not be my fault in any way. As I said, I read something that gave me a little hope, so I'm trying to feel "pregnant" again instead of just "waiting to miscarry." I might have to grieve all over again Thursday if there is no heartbeat, but I want to give this a chance. I'm definitely still very sick, so it's best to think of it that way so I don't freak out. I even got my bum off the couch last night and helped my husband pack some boxes (we are moving this weekend, just across town), then we went to my parents and I saw their new labrador puppy. I am feeling better and just hoping and praying. Thank you for all your encouraging words, (especially the living proof ;-) )I will definitely keep you posted on what I find in the next few days.

(hugs) I have never experienced what your going through, but I can say that I will be thinking of you this week and hope for a positive outcome.

We have a heartbeat! The doctor was surprised but excited, and he said now things look much better miscarriage-wise than he was thinking. I am just not as far along as he thought, and my levels obviously don't double "normally." I am right at 7 weeks, and though the baby gave us a scare by hiding in the corner of the egg sack, I got to see the tiny little patter that is its heartbeat. Marbear, as you said, even this scare has made me so much more grateful to be pregnant, and to deal with all its side effects. I am going to Disneyland in less than a week, but will not feel one iota of temptation to ride/do anything that might endanger this pregnancy. I know it's probably not that big of a deal, but I'm currently considering it my own little miracle.

P.S. On the downside, I was so sick I actually threw up yesterday but I gained 2 lbs just in the last week - the only thing that seems to ward off nausea most of the time is a full stomach. MEAL full, not just snacking. I am trying to eat small meals, but I am still eating a lot as I try to stay feeling well enough to be at work all day...

WOO HOOO!!!! Yeah! so, so excited for you!!! happy to hear the good news!!! Now go and be good to your self, try and realx!

Sara, I'm so happy for you. I remember my excitement seeing her HB for the first time - truely a miracle.

What great news! I am so happy for you.

I'm so happy to hear this!

that's such great news to hear.