Hey, I know this sounds really odd.. but i have a question. My Wonderful man has been wanting a child for a while now. He loves me and I love him, and he is ready to start a family. Well, my gyno told me that i needed to loose weight before we started to concive or i would have problems, during the prego. Well i have been working my butt of to loose weight, im at 146 pounds, so can any of yall ladies tell me, how much weight you usually gain? at 146 pounds, what do you think my highest weight will be while prego. and how hard is it to loose weight after pregnancy?
Also, can anyone tell me how much more weight i need to loose to have a healthy pregnancy, and only gain maybe 30 pounds?
Thanks Ladies,
Tru

Each pregnancy is different for each woman. WIth my daughter Layla I gained 80 lbs & with my son Aidan I lost 20 (constant morning sickness).
Doctors usually tell you to lower your bmi because with weight gain comes a host of other issues such as diabetes, hypertension, etc. All of these problems do make it a lot harder on your body, & with diabetes, you stand the chance of prenatal diabetes becoming type 2 (as it did with me).
The only thing you can really do is promise to yourself that you will be the healthiest you can, don't worry about that horrid scale, this is going to be the best time of your life.

I agree that there is no magic number that you will gain. You just need to try and make the healthiest food choices possible while pregnant (yeah I know easier said than done ) and not worry about your weight.

Thank you girls.. Helped me a bunch.. Yeah my gyno told me that i needed to loose a lot of weight before trying for a child. i have managed to loose 58 pounds in 3 months. i feel a lot healthier and i am actually beginning to feel ready for a baby. the only probem is i dont ovulate. So, my doctor is putting me on a pill to make me ovulate when i decided i am at the right weigth to concive. the only problem is imhaving trouble deciding what weight will be the healthiest to bare a child. All these doctors have me soo confused right now...
tru luvin

I say pfffftt on the doctors, when you are ready to start trying I say go for it. I wasn't planning on becoming pregnant at 300 pounds but I did and so far I've had a very easy pregnancy. No morning sickness, no swelling, no gestational diabetes, etc. My OB/GYN recommended that I not gain more than 10-15 pounds but she was never demanding about it, she just said it would make the pregnancy easier on me. If you feel ready to have a child tell your doctor to give you the meds!

Well said Kimberly! My thoughts exactly. I am fortunate to have very supportive family dr and OB. My OB told me 10-15 lbs too. I know it's early, but I haven't had any problems yet.

How tall are you? Unless you're under 5 feet tall, 148 pounds isn't that overweight! I was 100lbs overweight with my first pregnancy, and while I did have preeclampsia at the end I learned later on that it's incredibly typical of first pregnancies, and doesn't have a whole heck of a lot to do with weight.

What you need to do is find an understanding GYN or RE to help you get pregnant, and look for an OB who isn't going to harp on your weight issues to take care of you during the pregnancy, or better yet a midwife. (Free advice: the second the OB starts talking about anything like being overweight increasing your chances of CPD or shoulder dystocia, run like heck, because he's full of something other than medical knowledge.)

Hey Chicks, Thanks Again for the advice. i agree, when i feel the time is ready then i should go for it.. actually i am 5'7. Well, i hope that when i get prego, i only gain 10-15 pounds. What a relif that would be..lol... You girls are to kind..
Tru Luvin

I was at about 170 when I got pregnant. My doc told me not to gain more than 35 lbs. I am right at about 30lbs now with 3 months to go. I lost 76 lbs before I got preg, but then gained 20 right before I conceived so I was a little overweight but still ok. I am sad I gained so much but it just gives me more incentive to lose it after Carson is born. I think you are probably safe to go for it. Every Pregnancy is totally different. I for one feel like an alien.. This hasn't been the best experience for me. Medically, I am ok and have had no problems, however, physically and emotionally I am a wreck. I am tired, craby, had morning sickness from **** and overall just feel blah. I think I felt really ok for about 3 weeks in my second trimester and that was it. It's all worth it to me. I'm HAVING A BABY!!! You'll also find some women who never have felt better being pregnant. It can vary from pregnancy to pregnancy. All I know is, having a baby and being pregnant is the best experience I've ever had-- regardless of how I feel... Good luck!

If you are 5'7" & 146 pounds, you are not overweight by any stretch of the imagination. Your BMI is 22.9, which is well within the normal range of 18.5 to 24.9. If your GYN is telling you to lose weight still, you need to find a new one. If he is implying that you are not able to ovulate because you're overweight, he's definitely full of it.

I'll reiterate...I dislike women worrying about how much weight they gain during pregnancy. The thing is, a very large amount of what you gain during pregnancy is phantom weight that will disappear right after you give birth. The average baby weighs 7 pounds, and amniotic fluid isn't light-weight either. If you only "gain" ten pounds during your pregnancy, then chances are you'll actually have lost weight in regards to what is actually you. If you make certain to eat a healthy diet during pregnancy, and you only gain ten pounds, then that's fine. But if you're obsessively counting every calorie and fat gram and obsessing over how much weight you gain, then that's stress that you do not need, and is likely to result in you being undernourished and tired at a time when you most need your energy.

I know you said you don't ovulate on your own. Do you know if you have PCOS? There is a very good board on this site that handles PCOS. I also encourage you to check out The InterNational Council on Infertility Information Dissemination. This is the best resource I know of online for infertility information. The lady who started the site overcame infertility to have two children, and is incredibly knowledgeable (I have no affiliation with the site aside from an acquaintance with the founder and having leared more about my own PCOS from that site than all other resources--including doctors--put together).

I'll get off my soapbox now. But please, if you find your doctor continuing to be less than helpful, look for another one or try to obtain a referral to a Reproductive Endocrinologist. The sad truth is that very few doctors, even gynecologists, seem to be at all knowledgeable about reproductive disorders. I have been told variously that there is no treatment for PCOS, that birth control pills are the only treatment, and that I have that disorder because I am overweight, all of which are complete falsehoods that could be easily dissipated with about ten minutes of research. When you're dealing with infertility, it's not just your physical health at stake but also your mental/emotional health and the health of your relationship.

Thanks AgIN gUYS, Yeah i undestand where yall are coming from.. i only lisened to my doctor because i felt as if he only knew what was best for me, and be/cuz i didnt wanna put my un-born baby into danger.. he explained to me all the complications that i can have being over -weight. Well, the more i think about it the more i think he was filling my head with bull ****...lol.. One thing he did say to me that really hurt me was.. Healthy mothers, have healthy babies. And i cannot have a baby without being on a expencive perscription drug.
Tru Luvin4us

Bleh, screw him. If you're eating well and exercising, you're healthy. You have done a great job; you've lost nearly sixty pounds. That's like two three-year-olds. And you know what? Lots of women need help getting pregnant. That doesn't make you a bad person. But if you've got a doctor who is getting down on you because of it, that does make him a bad person.