hello all, im new to this site and am really hoping it helps me! im 26 and was diagnosed with pcos 2 years ago when i wasnt getting pregnant and went to the gyno for answers.. my weight has always been on the high side but not until about 3 years ago when i ballooned to 270 is when it got out of hand.. ive been told to loose weight and i might be able to conceive.. it seems so easy right? my main problem is this annoying voice in the back of my mind that keeps saying 'what if you loose the weight and still cant get pregnant, then it makes it real that i wont be able to have a baby' . my dr put me on phentermine and was helping but i lack motivation or should i say im scared.. has anyone gone through this feeling i need some kind of support just not sure what yet, thank you so much for listening <3

I have been there... time and time again! Truthfully this site is helping me more than I ever thought it would. I come here when I'm feeling iffy and read all the success stories or people who stuck with it! It is very possible.. and I can't say how many times I have thought "Well, if I can't have kids anyways, why try getting healthier"..
but I assure you, the more weight you lose and healthier you become, the better off you will be.
All things improve with time, and work!! and a Positve attitude really does make the difference!

You're going to have the face the fear of not having kids at some point or another otherwise it will continue to sabotage your weightloss efforts....

And honestly, PCOS is not only about infertility... even as you get older and you already have your kids, you'll have to take care of yourself because you don't want to get worse, get a heart attack or develop diabetes (all of which are progressions of PCOS). The last thing you need is to have your kids and then die young because you didn't take care of yourself!

It is hard to lose weight because it means a whole lot of changes, emotionally and to our diets. But you have you believe in yourself and have you to want it enough.

What about if you do lose the weight and you get pregnant very quickly? Wouldn't that be a wonderful thing?

Concentrate on losing weight. If you lose weight and still can't get pregnant, you can always try clomid (an oral drug) to start. We conceived our first two via clomid, though had no trouble conceiving without much trying the next two.

hey guys, thanks so much.. your ALL 100% correct.. i know what i have to do and just need to do it.. ive looked for a site with support and think i have found it, thanks again.

ive heard taking a b vitamin can help with stress and other things for pcos? i picked up a 'super b complex' vitamin and am hoping that works for me.. im also taking hair skin and nails for some of the hair im noticing is lost.. anyone also taking these? thanks again ladies!

If it makes you feel better...

I cried at the dx -- and dealing with the fact I may never have bio kids.

After I calmed down, DH and I talked and agreed to try for bio to a certain point and only up to Clomid. I wasn't up for IVF or anything like that. We also talked about adoption and were ok with that too.

I had started at 240 and was trying to get to 200. I conceived at 220. Topped out at 262 and 3 weeks after birth I was at 223. I was so swollen!

I conceived her on 60 day cycles on Metformin. I gave that a year to normalize my cycles before adding Clomid and the day I got the Clomid prescription I was told to wait for my period and then start and I never bothered to fill it because I never got my period. I'd conceived on day 51 or thereabouts.

I did have gestational diabetes/preeclampsia and I ended having her by emergency C-sect. But I had her.

I wouldn't want another bio kid... I see her little elbows starting to go dark and I asked her doc about it and she agreed it might be the start of IR. I hope I haven't passed the PCOS thing along to her. I had hoped she'd take after Dad's side of the family and not Mom's... but time will tell if she got the PCOS bug from me or what.

Don't lose hope if parenthood is what you want. But don't think parenting is only about making bio kids. The parenting is in the raising of the child not who birthed the child.

GL!
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I have PCOS and I have conceived 4 times, one tubal pregnancy and I have 3 kids.

I fuss all the time about how many times I have put myself up and down this road, gaining and losing LARGE amounts of weight. But the fact is, EVERY time I conceived was after losing alot of weight and getting into a normal range for my body (between 120-140). No trying, no clomid, nothing...I was never skinny for very long at a time lol, because once I got there I'd quickly get pregnant and gain 80 pounds back in 9 months.

The closer you are to a healthy weight, the less severe your PCOS will be. Insulin resistance, excess facial hair and acne, hair loss, infertility....all of it gets worse exponentially the heavier you are. Which is totally unfair - if I'm fat already shouldn't I be able to get away with more calories and maintain? Nope. Excess weight for someone with PCOS starts a vicious cycle that is hard to break, but it can definitely be done.

I have never taken metformin, I tried BC and other hormonal therapies. All of it was too much trouble for the reward for me. Taking on a whole new set of unpleasant side effects to get rid of an unpleasant symptom was not what I wanted to do. I take a cinnamon supplement, but the only other treatment I use is weight loss. It is the most effective for me. Some people cannot lose weight without metformin. It's a crapshoot.

There are so many different symptoms each case of PCOS is individual from another, and some people absolutely do better on meds of some kind.

It isn't hopeless by any means. You just have to find what works for you and make it happen, and cut yourself a little slack on the rest. Any of it can be overcome.