Goooooooooooood morning! I just wanted to shock all of you by being the first to post! Actually I am not first awake, I just haven't gone to bed yet. I wish I had the energy to pull an all-nighter. So much to do and so little time! I vow that Tuesday will be a perfect food day! That shouldn't be hard. At the rate I am going, I will sleep through most of it!

Somebody make me some coffee, please! All I have is decaf!

What in the world are doing up at that hour? Coffee's brewing and will nice and hot when you get up!

I'll be back!

Boy, I'm impressed, Jennifer. Too bad you have no real coffee - I need a cup right now!

I've not been really "up" the past week. I somehow think it's a let-down after the Fair although I still have tons of work to do. Even having Gail here to spiff up the house did not give me the usual thrill. My hands are really bothering me with numbness and that is bugging me. OK - enough whining!

It's a gorgeous day again and fall is definitely in the air. The Girls are starting to sleep in until 6 these mornings. Now I need to learn to sleep in. I guerss I spent too many years getting up at 5 to get ready for work - and at 4 if I had to drive to Ottawa.

This morning I am making salsa and some SF peach jam! Nummy! My neighbour's 18 year old is going to pick our crabapples so jelly is in the future too. We have bushels of apples so I will be sharing with the neighbours.

Lucy is hollering for breakfast. I'll check in later.

Jennifer, my goodness your up late! I would be a zombie the next day if I was up that late. Hope you can sleep in.

Ruth hope your hands feel better, when is your surgery?

Hey MamaJ!! Did you read where I have loaned my chicken purse to a friend. Thank you!!!!

Sil, our weather finally broke!! Band practice was actually pleasant yesterday.

Never did clean my house yesterday, who's shocked I seem to always post I need to clean my house, but it never seems to get done. Oh well, the dust bunnies will be there today. Yesterday a friend called, she needed me to go to lunch with her, so I did. I'm serious, she needed to talk, she is the friend that has temporary custody of my chicken purse.

Talked to Mom yesterday, she is hoping to get Dad home on Friday. Friday is their 44th wedding anniversary, she told the doctors it would be a great anniversary present to take him home that day. Cross your fingers for them!!

Well, guess I need to go clean

A good day to all!

Debbie (she of the dirty house)

OK - coffee's coming ladies.......

It looks to be kind of foggy out this a.m. - unless it's just that the windows are dirty cause Ruth hasn't been willing to share Gail This is going to be an "interesting" week: I have work every day, the grandkids are coming back on Thursday afternoon for the long weekend, AND, the reconstruction of the side of my house FINALLY begins this morning! In deciding on contractors, etc, DH came up with a (surprisingly good!! ) idea: we are going to add on a pantry - it will be a 7ft by 18ft extension along that wall! I will FINALLY have some storage and pantry space for my kitchen so that we don't have to go to the basement for a roll of papertowels or to the front closet for the vacuum cleaner!.... But it involves moving a gas line, so this is gonna be a loooooong 6 or 7 days!!!

Jennifer, I think it was a good try, but hmmmm... is 2:15 a.m. REALLY Tuesday?????

Ruth, so sorry your hands are bothering you - isn't the surgery soon? Well, at least it will give you an ENFORCED rest - after all, you don't seem to ever slow down voluntarily!!

Debkay - you slipped in on me here...... great news about your dad! About that cleaning... you sound like me! I always NEED to do it, but don't quite get around to actually DOING it!!! Hope you and all other chickies to come have a great day!

Good Mornign friends!

OK, I need a serious talking too--if not kick in the a$$. I've mentioned the problems I've been having with my so called friends and how things have just gotten worse over time. Well, I can't let go of my pain and anger and instead I am eating. And eating. And eating. I am honestly trying my best--I ate an OP dinner last night but them I screwed up with some cheezies I'm trying really hard to let my feelings go, but damn if I don't have this strong, stubborn streak in me. I am really needing some advice--how do I deal with my outrage first off and secondly, how do I get back in control of my eating? I swear this is the worse it's ever been. And please don't say 'put down the donut':donut: I tried that, I tried doing extra housework, I tried everything to keep my head and hands busy but I'm telling you, I keep going back to this same headspace--how my friends betrayed me. I know what you all must be thinking, just to get over it, but I'm the kind of person that doesn't have many friends because I'm very selective. So for this to happen is a HUGE slap in my ego. (and whoever said men were the only ones with egos?) And since I respect and care for each and every one of you, you guys would be the ones who could give the best answers, I'm sure of it!

Sorry about my whiney post, just feeling miserable and I really want to get over it!:

Good Morning,

Just plopped in to say YO !

I'll sneak back in later to catch up on the posts.....

Love, Leenie

Ruthie, you sound like you have the most fun. I wish I could can and plant veggies and play with dogs. I bet you will live a long time, because you are able to do therapeutic things in your life!

Ok SG, you got me. Sniff...I'll never be the first to post. That's ok, I am used to being last. I was always the last to be picked on sport teams as a kid, so thanks for the reminder!!! Haha, just kidding. I'm in an evil yet happy mood today. Maybe Rob will get lucky later on! BTW, I'm just being this way because I am jealous of your pantry! Wowwwww, storage space....

Oh Pookypookypoo! I am sorry you are going through a difficult time. When I get angry and sad I feel like doing the same thing, and then it only makes it worse. Do you do this in front of your husband or family? I have a VERY hard time eating emotionally in front of Rob. If you are the same way, then LEAVE the house and go somewhere with others (not the food court at the mall) until he gets home. OR, try and do something therapeutic. Maybe cooking an elegant dinner? Then you will still have your food focus, but it will be leading up to a dinner you will need to eat anyway, so you can make it into a fancy amazing event that will wow your husband! Try something gourmet, something that takes a while to make. A work of art, not just food on a plate. I LOVE to cook, and when I am cooking and creating, I have time to myself and my thoughts all while I am making something that will make me and my family happy. We love dinner! I make something that raises eyebrows when it hits the table, and I am tired yet refreshed. Gets the endorphins moving!

OR, exercise! If you just make yourself walk briskly for 30 minutes and then take a refreshing shower, you can have your comfort food. Chances are when your legs are feeling a little tight and you are so clean and relaxed in your robe, hair wrapped up in a towel, you might not want anything, or at least not as much. I don't have many friends, either. Most of my best friends are online. I have a few old friends from high school but that is different. We kinda grew up and apart and that hurts. There were 5 of us that did everything together. I only heard from one of them on my birthday. That's ok though, I am getting used to it.
I don't know if it is a good idea or not, but when I have been hurt in the past, I wrote a long dramatic letter telling exactly how I felt!
This was usually to my ex-husband. Sometimes I gave them to him, sometimes not. Sometimes it made problems worse between us, but at least I told him how hurt I was and I felt better.

We need to have a slumber party! Big hugs to you Pooky!

Off to eat lunch, then hit the road. Got loads of boring errands to run.

Pooky, stop appologizing (gee did I spell that right ?) for expressing how you feel. You call it whining, I call it having a rough time, which we ALL have (me more than others ). Glad you can share your feeling with us and that you consider us close friends.

HUGGS, Love, Leenie

I only have a quick minute as I have four file cabinets emptied out all over the office! Need to speed this flylady stuff up before dh & possible crew come in anytime soon!

So, quick notes!

Deb~so glad you felt a "bond" with your purse to share what it represents with your friend. I pray it offers her encouragement. BTW, did you get her poor beaky put back on? A chick with no lips is definately not a reality! We love our hen talk!

Pooky~I adopted a saying by accident when my kids were young. They often came home with "bully" stories and plans of getting even. I taught them "Don't become what you despise." That quality in your "friends" that is hurting you so badly shouldn't be allowed to sabotage the person we know you to be. Reflect on yourself my friend, know that you did not deserve their hurtful treatment. Please don't let them hurt you twice by doing this to yourself.

Everyone to Pooky ~~ GROUP HUGGGGS !!

Ok-back to these nasty, dusty horribly outdated file cabinets! What a time to tackle this project! My allergies have been driving me crazy for a week ~ imagine this Barb Streisand nose sniffling and sneezing thru all this dust!

Sneak in later!

J

Okay, I've got to get serious now. No more excuses. I can't start the water aerobics until Thursday 'cause the pools closed for maintanence, but today is day #1 of RE-Induction. I went to Jason's Deli for lunch and ordered a Bird to the Wise (turkey pastrami, turkey breast, swiss cheese on an onion bun) Talk about a shocked look when the waitress told me the were out of onion buns, what kind of bread did I want. I told her it did n't matter, I wasn't oing to eat the bread anyway!!! She thought I was sick. I am sick, sick of this weight! Anyway, I'm at work for the first full day, so I need to sign out now. I'll be back tonight when I get home.

oh pooky
I wish i had checked in sooner! you and i are in the same boat my friend. I've been sabotoging my efforts with staying OP also. having a couple of friend issues, health issues, so many issues. I think that the only thing to do is really just let yourself feel awful and get it out of your system. give yourself a time limit, after which you will stop it, and pick up the pieces and do right for yourself. i have until tomorrow (depending on the doctor's appointment tomorrow morning) if that goes really terrible, i'll have until friday, at which point i just need to stop.
i'm sorry, i know that may not be the best way to go about things, but i think it just gets worse when you pretend you ARENT having issues.
so that's my advice. of which i myself am going to follow......
keep your head up Pook
jihan

just a quickie work break... but pooky,

i'll try to post more later, but for right now, please remember that you can't control what other people say or do, and if they don't act right, it's a reflection on THEM, and not on YOU.

you have more than enough stress in your life right now and there's no need to add to it. and people who don't support you don't deserve the attention and angst you're giving yourself!!!!

Pooky, I'm going to agree with PJ here..... allow yourself a set amount of time to wallow in your feelings, and then that's it!!!! I've done that a couple of times, and by giving yourself "permission" to just feel lousy, it can be possible to get rid of it and be able to move forward, albeit slowly. To me, one of the absolute worst things one can do (besides the "minor" (?? )deeds of rape, murder, incest, child abuse) is to betray a friend. There is no excuse for that. As others before me have said today, their actions reflect on THEM, not on you. You are a wonderful, caring and giving person.... the loss is all theirs! YOU ARE THE BEST!!! And I believe that your friendship is a to all of us here at 3FC - LC!!! xoxoxoxoxoxox