Jennifer what in the worls happened to you with no water??? Did I miss some thing???

Oh by the way coffee is on and ready MMMMMM

Janice in the 100 club we had a thread regarding externalvalidation and it all had to do with other people validating our hard work with weight loss especially the SHs well it is a universal problem. men just do not get it. Like said before they can run only one thing with their blood the brain or the penis and some times neither!! (like mine, but that is another story). I can understand how hard it is to relate a story like yours. Look at the story with DD1. that was one of the hardest thngs i have done. To me it demonstrated my failures of being a parent andhow to get out of situations like that. But to know that many others have been in situations similar, and the show of support that i have here. let me tellyou there is no place better. I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face of the wonderful feeling i have with the out pouring of support that i recieved. In a circle of friends you will not get this much love and support. so this is the best place to do that. I talk to the people at work regarding my friends. I mean alll those here. I have closer realtinshi[ps with you guys here than i do in real life. (many very dumb people out there in cortland.) And to me this is the best place!!

So honey go and our your heart out. You will not be judged nor does it mean you are a failure in your marrage. men are at the bottom of it with their dense heads and lack of vision. and believe me when i say you are a very strong person to stand up to him and stick to your beliefs. many will just bite their tongue and kiss up to him (me) untill it gets to the point that we explode and then he is absolutly clueless that he has done any thing wrong.

Mine is that way i try to not provoke his anger (flies when some thing does not go his way) but that means whenhe is doing some thing that he MAY need help i need to almost be at his side to help him, and leave my stuff alone, and have to do that when he is done and watching TV. almost likehe want me to see what he is doing and god forbid should i miss anything and many times i tell him to move so i can do it. i think that is his ultimate reason.

well enough about me. lets just hope that he comes to his senses and realise that he needs to put you two first. that if you two don't then nobody will. you need to care for your slef first then with the extra take care of others (unless it is urgent) if you know what i mean.

well i have just used all my computer time and it is time to run to the gym and to work. tonight is a busy night for me so i many not get back on for must time. see you all later!!

I actually slept in, a little, and decided to take a day off from the gym today although I'll probably do some yoga at home in a little bit before getting to work. Lots to do. Yesterday was a tough day. I really crashed from my hypoglycemia after the gym. Hopefully today will be better.

I've been gone for almost a week and need to catch up on all the posts, but Janice I did read your post from last night. Hang in there my friend, sometimes you need to put something in their face for them to see it, and maybe your taking the packed bags and going back out the door will be the wake up call he needs. Thinking about you.

I've been in Florida since Saturday before last, it was a spur of the moment trip, didn't even have time to let anyone know I was going. My Dad has been sick, my sister called and said they moved him to ICU and he was getting worse, I packed my bag and hubby and daughter and I were on the road in less than 15 minutes. Hubby and daughter came back home on Sunday and back down to get me this past Saturday. My Dad has a diminished immune system, and anytime he gets an infection it can lead to major problems. He is better physically, but he is still out of it mentally. The doctors seem to think the mental confusion is from the infection(s) and high fevers. My husband said Dad is acting a lot like I did when I was in ICU. My Mom is worn out, I need to go back to Florida, but I also need to be at home right now, so I am really torn. If you believe in prayer, please add my Dad to your prayer list.

Boy is it hot here!! Yesterday at band camp we had kids hitting the deck from the heat, one of which was my daughter and my dear friends daughter. Both are fine now, they just needed to get out of the heat. A cold front is on it's way for tomorrow, but we do have band practice again today.

Well I need to go start my day, errands to run and up to the high school for band picture day. Have a good one all!

Debbie

Wow! A great cool morning - finally! I plan to do two hours in the garden and then soak in the tub for an hour. Today is our post-Fair luncheon in Gananoque so I will be sitting on a sunny terrace overlooking the mighty St Lawrence and sipping an adult beverage at noon.

Re men - they are usually insensitive idiots! I really think women are the superior species. As I've said before, if it weren't for sex, I would have been a Lesbian!

Gotta run - need to throw in a laundry before I tackle the weed forest out there.

Morning everyone........

<sigh>.. I had a terrific (if I do say so myself!) post all written, lots of hugs and stuff for you Janice, and my take on why men are so stupid (it's the testosterone between their ears - takes up all the room that women use for brains!!! ) yadayadayada.
Well, it went away...... I swear, this puter hates me!!!

Anyhow, today will be an interesting day.... I finally finished those @#$%& taxes yesterday; today will be spent at the IRS trying to straighten out a client's payroll tax problem that has been hanging over our heads since 1995!!!!! If I don't get it settled today, I might just have to dive headfirst into a vat of chocolate mousse!!!!!

Well, coffee is smelling great - I think the weather finally broke - oh yes, of course it did - today is Tuesday, otherwise known as fix Ruth's A/C day!!! - (sorry, I couldn't resist!! )

Have a great day everyone, will catch up with you later........

It's so nice to drop in here in the morning! It is cooler today and should stay under 80 for the first time since I don't know when!

I am taking a "sick" day, to get the home fires shored up- I had a little episode of "poor me" with DH this morning; more about work than home, but I am really feeling overwhelmed on both fronts.

I have never been one to have trouble with getting things done, I am pretty organized and we have a pretty simple life- no kids, etc. But my hours at work are longer lately and it has really been effecting me. I can't get basics done; I have dry cleaning to pick up from 3 weeks ago and a big pile to go. I keep up with laundry just enough to have towels and underwear, but am getting behind. I said to DH this morning if I don't get this house vacuumed I am going to scream! I am too tired at night, and I get resentful having to squeeze everthing into my Saturdays. I really had a big rant and a good cry over it this morning, and decided to spend the day home getting caught up. YEAH!!! I have a list as long as my arm!

I feel better now, and think it will help me have a good food day, as I have alot of errands(library, dry cleaners, bank, Walmart, Trader Joes) to keep me away from the frig! I will deal with work tomorrow, but I knew if I went to work I would either be a bitc*h all day, or else cry in all my meetings!

Well, enough, time to get the list started. Wash is in, and I am going to clean up the patio and empty some pots and put them away. It's the first day that's comfortable enough to be outdoors!

Have a good one, and thinking of all of you-

dottie

Good Morning

my day is going to be better today, because I took time for you my friends this morning. I'm not sure what it is about cyberbuddies, but with you I feel like I can be myself and not have to worry about putting up a brave front, or pretneding like everythings okay. I can scream and holler and cry and complain, and you still love me.

That has always been the biggest problem in my life. My mother is the greatest person in the worrk and I can't think of what life would be without her, but... the number one priotity in her life has always been "what will people think". I don't know if this makes any sense at all, but from a child that was breed into me, and sometime, it just doesn't matter!!!

Janice, I feel for you. I know I'm quite a bit older than you, but about 20 years ago Alvin & I had a similar problem. (Although he didn't realize we had a problem, until I did something similar to you) It was the wake-up call we needed and the turnig point in our marriage. For 15 years, he had been on the "stairway to corporate success" and me and the kids were just "props". Well afer he found out I was miserable enought to chunck 15 years of marriage, he got serious, and we'v has a very great 20 more years!!! We've been married 36 years, and for about the firs 15 every anniversary I would sweat an say, "WOW we made another one. How did we do that" Now I am sitting here with him in intensive care trying to figure out what I will do if he doesn't make it.

Thanks to all of you for your support, I love everyone of you and want you to know it. Hope everyone has a great day!!!


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Jiff your neighbor story reminds me of when my boys were young. I loved going away for the weekend and leaving them home alone, because the cleaned up the house sooooo good after the parties (so I wouldn't know they'd had them ) that I didn't need to clean for weeks!!!

Morning! and a Lovely morning it is with sunshine and cool (relative) breezes!

so....on a day like today, we give the kidlets their meds timed to perfection and head to the beach!

have I told you how much I love the ocean beaches? I love school too...which is less than a month away. I am trying to contain my glee for Annie's sake!

My food....well, I am trying to low carb with portion control and I do reasonably well until 9pm when I seem to fall apart. I SHOULD get on the scale, but I think that just for today putting on my bathing suit is enough of a lesson in truth. (what a wuss) So, today the suit, tomorrow the scale with hopes of just hanging in food wise until September when I can focus a bit better.

Hugs to you all, enjoy your day and find a clearing and stay.

wish you all could come to the beach!

peach

Morning,
I have caught up on the posts. I had company since last wed. My brother and his wife leave today. We have been on a world wind tour with a dinner dance last Sat ( DH hated my cloths for the party so I had 2 hours in the am to find something, I found 6 outfits in that time, and will return 1 today. I have a sitter for a few hours later. Funny story from the party, my friend mike played one 9 hole round with one of the Boston Bruins (he is a member at our golf course, but for celeb purposes I won’t tell you his name) he hit his ball on the 6th hole into the water and instead of taking the penalty stroke he striped down to his titty whitties and hit the ball out! Good thing it was a men’s tourney because the ladies would have gawked! I would have been first in line!
Oh and he won the longest drive too, 322 yard. Not a chance for anyone else to have a chance. DH and FIL came in 3rd over all.

As for Men in general, I just chalk it up to what is missing on the y chromosome.

We went to the water park, it was so much fun. I could have stayed but my brother and his wife were worn out. The kids could have stayed too. We will go again when we get back from NC before school starts.

Have a good day ladies and enjoy the cool day, just in time for the AC Ruth!

Hi to all and I will be thinking of all of you today, thanks for being such good friends.
-L

DH had an early morning meeting and then doctor check up so I get some early (and uninterrupted) puter time! Yeah!!

Sue~How are things going with DD? I finally caught up reading most of the threads and had tears streaming for you. I so remember those feelings with Stephen. <hugs>

DebKay~Know that prayers are being sent from your Houston friend.

Ruth~Any word on the a/c repair? Enjoy your luncheon!

Barb~Prayers still being said for Alvin. How is he progressing?

Samsgrandma~Yucky IRS! I finally got tax problems fixed with them that went back to 1996!!! Ended up that I was right!

Dottie~Good for you to take the day off! I think sometimes we just need the time to regroup ourselves! Enjoy it and do something special for you too!

to anyone I've missed and those to come!

It's hot-hot-hot here in Houston! I have so much to do I'm not sure where to start. Of course paperwork is the priority but my house is driving me nuts! Imagine 3 males left unattended by a female presence for three weeks!

Thanks to everyone for the love and support you've all offered. I still think of starting a thread. When being completely honest with ourselves we know how domestic issues affect us. On the outside I tried to act as everything was wonderful and kept hoping to find the way to fix things. But I was also emotionally depressed and self sabotaging.

Today is a new day! I plan to enjoy it! I am woman!

Hi Guys! Here I am late again! Been working on a mountain of laundry and general clean up. My SHDH (sorry still) had a physical today. It has been a hundred years since he had a complete physical. They took blood did the front and back "checks" and all the other bells and whistles. I asked SHDH if the doctor at least told him he was pretty before he did the rectal. His BP was a little more than last time so they upped his medicine and also gave him some medicine to help him deal better with the stress at work and cream for his psoriasis--gee it might be like being married to a new man. My friends and I finished the faux finish on her basement yesterday--it is a deep kind of melon color--not what I would choose, but it really looks great and will be pretty with the new carpet she is putting down. It was good therapy for me. DS had a blast golfing with his friends, so a good day all along. Did well getting my exercise in and eating right--wish the stupid scale and tape measure would start being more friendly to me.

Janice, hope things are going MUCH better today for you.

L, would have LOVED to see that hockey guy in his BVD's golfing.

Peach, yeah, yeah, I know you are running around the house singing-"It's the most wonderful time of the year!!" I on the other hand have draped my house in black crepe and gone into mourning! School bells ringing in my sleep.

Barb, I think we all feel the same here. These friends on this board are the best that has happened to me in a long time. Hope you and Alvin are both doing better today. Take care of yourself.

dottie, those mental health days are VERY important. I start feeling VERY stressed when things are disorganized--I get to feeling overwhelmed all the way around. Hope you feel better after today.

Samsgram, do I need to bake a cake with a file??? Gosh, I hope that everything goes okay for you!

Ruth, of course the weather cooled off--isn't the AC man supposed to come today??? That figures! Glad it is a little more liveable there for you and the girls.

Deb, sorry to hear about your dad. My dad has been going through health problems lately too and it is so hard living far away from them. Hang in there. Hope your DD is feeling better too. My DS starts 2 a Day practices for football next week and I DREAD it!

Sue, you are doing so great lately with work, workouts and getting things under control at home. You should be giving yourself a big pat on the back.

Pooky, hope you have a good visit with your gram!

Sil, LOVED your Robin Williams quote--might have to do a crosstitch of that one! By the way, do you think I could take Flaxseed softgels instead of taking the oil by the spoon? I have softgels of both it and the Evening Primrose. I started doing the eggs and Lemon juice in hotwater yesterday.

Okay, I have written a book here---hope you all have a wonderful rest of the day!

I'm back! Grandma had a great day--picked her up, and she renewed her licence stickerforher car and then we went to an English pub and had a lovely lunch. Theit was rush home since her brother and SIL came from TO to visit her. She had a myriad of phonecalls and cards and was in her glory all day. Got to see my little cousin Joshua, who is but a mere 18 months. Sweetie pie, really.

Right now dh and I wrestling with cost cutting ventures in the household. I haven't mentioned it here before but we are in a HUGE fight with our cable internet provider as they are attempting to rip us off. I won't go into the nitty gritty of the story, but suffice it to say that it's truly disgusting when a large internet company nickel and dimes people out of thier money So, I told dh we are cutting off the cable internet. I want to convince him to get dial up for checking email and reading up on our newsgroups but not much more. I'm hoping he will go for it, but we have to buy a dial up modem first.

Anyhoo, hope you all had a great day and Barb I'm praying for you, and for your dad too Deb. And hope you're having a better day Janice! (((HUGS)))

well, ladies. here i was, reading all your posts, and getting more and more worried about everyone, and wishing i could do SOMETHING useful, and then there was sil's ditty about men being like grapes.

i ROARED with laughter. thank you thank you thank you!!! i have SOOO many people to share that with!!!

deb, barb... prayers continue for alvin and dad. i feel in my heart that everything will be ok, and i just hope i'm right.

and janice, well, the door's always open.

and everyone else, you're just so busy!! dottie's day off sounds great. wish i could have hung out with her. not that we would have actually accomplished much, but it would have been fun.

and i have wonderful news!!!! the divine MISS M is no longer my problem!!!! my boss came back from a week's vacation to find that i'm swamped. with little hope of recovery without major help. and i told her that MISS M was a major time sink in my life, with little hope of success, and that if i was going to be mentoring someone, i'd have better luck with another woman there.

so, assignments switched!!!!!! MISS M is all gone!!! unfortunately, no one else finds her at all useful either!!!

well, as much as i'd like to hang out, i have to take a shower. much love to you all. especially those i didn't write a note to. you're not forgotten, i'm just tired.