Happy International Women's Day !
This is the day all the men and children of the world should shower us with respect and gifts! However, we all know that is not likely to happen. So hug another woman today instead.
Had a lovely visit with Tayler and Granny #1. Tayler was a bit muiffed that I had not brought Hershey but it was a snowy and mushy morning and Granny#1 does not appreciate dogs or wet paws. G#1 and I had a good time discussing kid-raising and how we did it in "our day"! I'm sure out mothers did the same thing when we were raising our kids.
On the way home, I picked up a freezer meat order - just a small one. I asked that it NOT be frozen so I have a day ahead of me wrapping and freezing stuff in two person packages. I do a little pre-cooking or prep before I freeze and make up meatloaf and burger patties. We also have chicken breasts and pork chops so y'all come for dinner. Low carb heaven!
The coffee is on so grab a cup while I take the girls to the muddy meadow for a run.
Wow what a great night, Darren made himself chicken nuggets (the only meat he eats), Don ate at a friends and dh had a can of soup. So I did not cook, just cleaned a pile of school paper and stuff that was long overdue. We all stayed home. Dh read the paper by the fire, the boys were playing games on the computer. What a peaceful quiet evening at home. Even Kudo enjoyed himself as he slept by the fire.
I cherish evenings like that, they are now the exception and not the norm now a days.
Pooky, hope that you are not overextending yourself with the new job.
Peachie, glad you have such wonderful teachers for you boys, I have always been blessed with very caring teachers, just what my boys need.
Tippy hope the home transformation is going well.
leens, how is the little one?
Scooby, so sorry we both have to work.
Ruthie, my friend in town, who I expect to soon be breeding her pwd, mentioned her name. It is Lucy! Her Lucy is also black with white markings. She expected to breed her this spring, but the lady she bought her from wants to show her first.
I also missed the deal with your dh and ice cubes?!
Susan, miss your posting!
Hi Kel are you learking.
MamaJ you are the greatest, hugs to you.
Goomba, I agree with MamaJ, it may be easier to ween yourself off of coffee by mixing decaf and leaded.
Jenny, can't overextend myself when I didn't get any hours this week! Things will change soon enough, lots of people are going on holidays so I will be filling in for them.
Happy meat eating Ruth and Scooby!
Miree and I were at the doctor yet again--this time because there's something wrong with her arm. I discovered a small bite on her wrist, probably from a spider. She's not moving it too much and it hurts when I pick it up. The doctor thought that either it's the bite that's hurting her or since it happened at daycare she might have fallen and broken her wrist! Went to the hospital last night and her wrist is fine but she's still so sore and can barely move it. If it doesn't improve by tomorrow I'm taking her back in and getting her reexamined. Oh the joys of parenthood....
Morning Ruth, Scooby, Jenny, Pooky and all to come (AND those who post while I'm writing this!)
Thunderstorms and 60 degrees today in America's Heartland -- in the 30's tomorrow. I won't bore you w/that old "if you don't like the weather cliche..." -- but this winter has been weird, even for Iowa!
Been thinking about a few things lately -- like forgiveness and acceptance of things as they are instead of things the way I want them to be. A wise friend told me once that acceptance is the key to my serenity. When I protested that to accept something evil (or unpleasant or that I didn't agree with ) is to tacitly approve it, she corrected me and said, "No, to accept something implies no approval, it is just admitting that something is the way it is. And once we accept it, really accept it, we can get about the business of changing it."
I'm thinking about this because I'm starting to see things a little differently after 3 1/2 months of staying the same weight. What I've been slowly coming to realize over this time is that this weight thing is not going to magically disappear -- like it does in the "magic" of a 30 second diet commercial where some dame tells us she's lost 240 pounds in 18 months. That is wonderful for her (and especially for the company she is advertising), but it ain't gonna be my story. And, now, finally 90% of me is thinking that's ok (darn that 10%!) -- it HAS to be ok because that's the way it is. But until I could forgive myself for not being the diet queen and accept that it's going to take longer for me -- maybe even years longer -- I couldn't be happy w/myself or my progress.
Does this sound like defeatism or excuses? It's not. What this is is the reality that keeps me from quitting. I have a fundamental belief that I am going to lose the weight I need to lose and that I will keep it off. This is new for me. Over the course of these past few months when I've been in the throes of overeating and underexercising somehow, some way I've come to BELIEVE that I'm going to lose weight and keep it off, if I just hang in and not give up completely. That kind of faith comes from God, I think. Another good friend told me awhile back to have faith in myself...which sounded like Greek to me. I didn't realize that fundamentally I believed that I would never take off the weight I need to and keep it off. I really haven't had faith in myself (and I couldn't seem to talk myself into it -- and that's saying something, because if nothing else -- I can talk!). So, I had to pray for it, "God, please help me to have faith in myself." It didn't come immediately, but a few weeks later it sneaked in into my consciousness -- I really can't take credit for it. And, amazingly, for the past couple of weeks, I've been back on track.
My weight watcher leader said Wednesday that there is no failure! She said that! And she didn't even qualify it w/ "if we don't give up." She said that once she accepted the 1/4 - 1/2 pounds a week that she lost and stopped seeing it as failure, she was able to go all the way to losing 45 pounds. And she's kept it off for 20+ years.
I've pretty much stayed the same weight since last November, which is a miracle, really -- but it could have been a lot less painful if I would have lost the guilt and self-recrimination (which only make me hungry!)...and, instead, allowed myself to hope and believe. This is exactly the same lesson I learned when we were parenting a "difficult" teenager, it was only after I accepted him right where he was and for who he was that I began to change and THEN he began to change.
Anyway, even though these comparisons may seem a little strange, what I'm learning about weight loss is such a metaphor for almost all of life's problems and complexities. I'm thinking about you, Janice, and what you're facing with your family. And so many other families (mine included) who have gone or are going through times that seem inconceivably difficult. Acceptance and forgiveness...of ourselves and others...frees us to move on to change the evil into something good. And then the bad guys don't win...and they don't get our hearts or our minds or our bodies.
Love,
Cherie
"Acceptance is the blissful state from which all things can change." Melanie Beatty
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Good morning all.....dragging my butt out of bed....day seven and I am tired....
Pooky I hope Miree's arm is ok .
Don Dar I love evenings like that...we all live our lives at such a quick pace, nice when things slow down a notch or two.
Scooby I hope you are feeling better soon.
Ruth sounds like you had a nice visit with grandbaby! Enjoy all that protein!
Hope all is well with those to come....they were threathening -30 when I went to bed last night, guess I will find out when I drive 10 yr old dd to school....gonna drive her so she doesn't have to rush this morning...speaking of slowing things down a bit.
Other (4 yr old dd) ran a temp yesterday for just over 24 hours, but seems to be better today except she is white as a ghost.
Well I think I will try to have a nap today and maybe do a little cleaning..otherwise it will be a very quiet day!
Take care all...Liz
Morning Cherie....you were posting right along side me and I didn't even see you..such wise words...thanks
Today is finally Friday and although I have no job outside the home, I still enjoy Fridays like I did when I was a fulltime corporate type! Everything just seems more positive with the end of one week and the anticipation of the week to come.
Cherie, your thoughts have come straight from my head. Dh and I just had a conversation almost exactly like this (although not weight related). He asked me why I have no fear of the future and I say because faith in God always taking care of me and my family is very deep. The fundamentals of faith are often misstook and overlooked, but I truly believe there is something to be said for that little saying, "you are what you say you are". I could elaborate for hours on this, but I will spare you all. Just continue to have faith and everything else will fall in to place.
I am sort of peeved at dd's swimming teacher. He said that she isn't ready for the next level of classes because on the first day she was nervous and apprehensive. WELL, she's passed all the requirements for moving ahead, and he is basing this on the first day of class! Who isn't nervous on the first day of anything? First, she doesn't like men (smart girl) and second, she has taken swim lessons for 2 years already (she's 5) and I can't see where repeating this class is going to benefit her. Oy vey!
Ok. I hope you all are having a great morning and end up having a super groovy day! I will see you manana!
Afternoon All,
Well it has been a few days since my last post. Life here has been crazy. The tile man found a leak in the shower in my master bath when I asked him to re grout the floor. As it turns out there is some MAJOR damage. I have just done 2 baths that took 9 weeks and now I will have to do it again. The good news is that almost the whole job is covered by insurance. They will gut and redo. I will have to buy a new toilet. Otherwise I think everything else will be paid for.
Today my second grader had Dr. Seuss day. He went as the ham from green eggs and ham. DH said to him “you are the kind of ham that would stay on the self because you have no meat on you” we all laughed and he went to school is a great mood. (love when that happens). They had a performance this am of Dr Seess songs, it was so cute. I love to see them all pull together.
We start spring break today. Off to HN for skiing for the weekend then I am taking big kid to MN to visit friends and little man and DH are going to see his parents in NC.
Mama J, my thoughts are with you. You are a strong person to be able to step up to the plate and be a good roll model for the kids. Hind site is 20/20. I know that you will pull through this together.
Jenni, on the swim lessons: my little one is 5 too. I think if she likes the instructor and feels comfortable, the level doesn’t make a big difference. It really is about them having fun at this age and enjoying being in the water and learning water saftey. If she does not like the instructor than maybe a different day or another group would be a good idea. Little man was in one level on Wed and a different level on Friday. His swimming was the same, just different teacher testing.
Tippy, you should be done by now with all that wood work! Take a break and go sew. A little pleasure in life goes a long way.
Liz, DON”T DRINK THE WATER OR ANY VEGGIES, FRUIT, ICE OR ANYTHING THAT HAS TO BE WASHED IN WATER BEFORE YOU EAT IT! You may never get out of your hotel room!
Pooky,
I hope Mire is feeling better. Sounds like a little TLC might be good. Did you have it x-rayed?
Well have to run..
Be well,
-L
Hi, Sooner Have I told you how wonderful you are lately? You are an amazingly smart woman, although I do wish you'd get out of my head! I swear you and I live mirrored existances.
L144S I obvously haven't had enough coffee today, because I read that you found a man in your shower and I was getting all excited for you (or scared, depends on the man I guess)!
Pooks I hope Miree is okay. It's so hard diagnosing something with such a little one. I'm glad you're taking her in because I had a friend whose three year old fell off a bar stool and broke his wrist, but nobody realized it for about four days.
Peach Go ahead and be a mama bear. I've always felt bad for kids who don't have a parent there advocating for them, because if the parent doesn't do it, the kid loses. Been there, done that, glad I did!
MamaJ Your family has been in my thoughts a lot. I hope things are starting to look up a bit.
Barbara Welcome to our group. Low-carb is definitely the way for me to eat too. I feel much healthier and more energetic when I eat this way. Keep posting and let us get to know you!
As for me, things are looking a little brighter now. The funeral on Tuesday was pretty hard, but I'm glad I went. It broke my heart when my friend told me that she is an orphan now. I saw people at the funeral I hadn't seen in 25 years. It amazed me how these people still mean so much to me, even though I rarely see them. I saw old friends who are now middle-aged, responsible adults, but in my mind, they will always be the wild, goofy teenagers who went through all kinds of good and bad experiences with me.
My Father-in-Law is home from the hospital again. He seems to be doing okay, but I know DH and I are worried. Hopefully he will recover from his bypass with no more complications. He had his surgery the same day as my friend's father (the one who died) had his.
I'm really feeling kind of silly and smart mouthie today, so I think that I'm getting back to normal after a hellish two months! God help anyone who bugs me now!
My daughter-in-law from **** answered the phone last night when I called to talk to my son. I was so polite that I got a sharp pain where I sit. I had a mad urge to tell her to "blank" off, but restrained myself. For the sake of the children, I'll really-really try to behave. Those of you who know me from the chatroom know how difficult that is for me! I have come to the conclusion that the woman has been mad at me for thirteen years! She has tried to control me by using the children. I think she is a very weak person along with being downright ugly and she has no personality or friends. Gee whiz, why would she not like me! Jealous, maybe??
I've gained a bit of insight about her and, with that, I can handle whatever she throws at me in the future. God help her!
My son won't try anything with me because he knows that he will have to deal with my DH if he does! God help him!
I am looking forward to sleeping in tomorrow, let me tell you.
Don't have a lot of time to talk today, celebrating a friend's birthday with videos and chicken wings (and maybe a teensy bite of cake!) so gotta run. Just wanna tell you all that you are terrific, smart, beautiful women, inside and out! Love you!!
The Daily Friday March 8
Things will change soon enough, lots of people are going on holidays so I will be filling in for them.
) is to tacitly approve it, she corrected me and said, "No, to accept something implies no approval, it is just admitting that something is the way it is. And once we accept it, really accept it, we can get about the business of changing it." 
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