Why yes,I AM hot!
 

Hi everyone! I'm new here. I've been reading alot of posts of women who say they are uncomfortable with any attention they get after weight loss. I'm beginning to think I'm a freak of nature because I suck it up like a thirsty sponge! I'm 48 and have been married to a great guy for 30 years. He has ALWAYS lavished compliments on me no matter what my size, so it's not like I'm starved for attention. I have to say I think he enjoys too.When we are out together and other men check me out he has this look on his face that says" Yeah, she's hot and she's mine!" I was at a deli counter the other day and the clerk (a woman about my age whom I've never seen before) said " I was going to compliment you on your hair,but now I see you have it ALL going on!"
:dancer: Ok, I just re read what I wrote.I sound completely stuck on myself. I really am not,but I'm loving every bit of the attention! I do wonder if there is something wrong with me that I don't feel the least bit uncomfortable?

There is nothing wrong with feeling sexy after working hard to get the body you want. Soak it up and strut your stuff and swing your hips - what's the point of being a woman if you can't feel hot?!

This thread makes me so happy to read :)

I get that. Although I haven't gotten it forever, there are times when people see me now a lot of the time they are... almost shocked (i think?) about how "pretty" and "beautiful" I am now.. Like, was I not before? LOL. I haven't lost all that much in my face, but my cheekbones are more noticeable than before, and my collar bones are starting to show up.

And I don't think you should feel uncomfortable! It's confidence in the way you look and feel, so... soak it up! You deserve it! :D

I have never felt the slightest amount of discomfort over compliments on my weight loss and I don't know understand why other people do. I have worked very hard on it so I felt like I deserved every one of them. I actually found those comments very motivational.

Id love to hear some. Keeps ya on track and yes, hubby is proud. Way to go.

That's awesome!! You should never feel bad about feeling happy, confident, sexy, and beautiful! Positive body image is infectious so keep spreading it :D

I'm another one who has trouble understanding others' discomfort with attention. I get it intellectually, but like you, it's not how I feel. It's fantastic to appreciate your own hard work and to like it when others see it too.

Compliments are wonderful things. So is self-confidence. If loving these things is wrong, I don't want to be right. :D

I flippin' love compliments-I mean, I give plenty of them because I am just that kind of a person, but I love getting them too, especially after losing weight. I've only lost 12 pounds and I have my guy friends saying that I look really great and look like I am really working hard. I'm pretty happy with it.

Theres nothing wrong with body confidence - go you! Well done & long may it continue!

Another one who is not uncomfortable with the extra attention at all. First I was getting it due to the loss, now that it's been from folks which never knew me fat, which feels even nicer.

Its not conceit it's confidence. Nothing wrong with it. My guy is similiar to your hubby! He has always loved and given me compliments no matter my shape or size. And he too gets a boost of confidence when guys are checking his girl out. It's just means he picked the right one and has impeccable taste.;)

If you're feeling great, it rubs off on people. The world needs to be a little bit more happy.

I wrote this recently elsewhere on the forum - what better place to pat yourself on the back than in an anonymous forum?! There's a bit of modesty in us all that would not share with everyone in person what awesome compliment you got for fear of not being modest. Here, though, let it rip!

OOoo! New Thread idea!!

I confess I eat it up like candy too. I love the compliments, and usually just smile and say thank you. I work in a very large office with 100's of employees who don't see me every day or even every week/month, so I get compliments pretty much every day from someone. Plus, when your entire wardrobe changes, people are bound to notice. Smaller body = much cuter clothes. And I think I must be carrying myself differently too because I have gotten the "you got taller" comment many times. Could be the shoes. I never used to be a shoe person, but now I love love love looking at the high healed shoes. They don't hurt like they used to, and they make you look so long and lean. Love it!

I am completely eating it up...let me tell you! I get flirted with all of the time now...by the jeweler, the pharmacist, you name it. I am LOVING it. I have worked my butt off to lose 79 pounds now and get a toned body...and I am going to savor every compliment I get.

What makes it more fun, is that I am a Middle Eastern dancer, and my weight loss has made it so I had to get all new dance costumes. Here is one of my new ones...I just debuted this costume about 2 weeks ago:

I had dancers who hadn't seen me in a while tell me how fabulous I looked...and I loved every minute of it. Like an earlier poster said, I worked hard, and am working hard every day to maintain my weight loss...so I feel like I deserve it! :p

aphil- i love the outfit, and you look great!

and don't worry, I love when people give me attention. I don't feel uncomfortable about it, and I know I look good. I don't think it's conceited for me to think this way, im just confident on how i look! and I don't think there is anything wrong with that!

Im becoming more like this every day. I've been getting a lot of compliments lately and instead of feeling almost awkward my first thoughts are "Yeah thats right . . . I got curves, I rock them, I know it"
I think a good chunk of that comes not so much from an egocentric stance but more the pride of realizing what I've accomplished for myself and that I am happy other people have noticed that hard work too

You go girl! Be proud :)

Aphil, love your outfit, you go girl!

Oh I love all the attention!!!! My hubby doesn't mind when a fella gives me a double take as long as he doesn't talk to me. I think it's so funny!

I also don't mind the attention either. More please. :-)

Aphil, you are HOT!

Aaawww....thank you! The people at the grocery store don't know it when I show up makeupless, hair clipped up, and in yoga pants, though! ;)

I don't think its a bad thing at all! I love getting compliments!!!

You've earned the right to feel that way :D

I didn't feel discomfort with compliments when I was smaller, but I don't like comments on my weight, period. It feels very judgmental to me -- as though there is an implication that there was something wrong with me before. I feel angry on behalf of my "pre" self because when I weighed 182 I was the same worthwhile, smart, wonderful person I was when I weighed 134.

I will never forget how belittled I felt when, at a party I threw for my husband, I caught his cousin's husband eyeing me. He smiled and put his thumb and forefinger a tiny bit apart and said, "About five more pounds. I think there's room there for about five more pounds." The conceit! He thought he was complimenting me. To this day, I wish I'd lit into him.

You know, I was just going to put in my status update on facebook something about how I'm going to be very dangerous to the pocketbook when I get to goal, because I'm going to buy a full wardrobe of form fitting/flattering clothes. I'm already buy form fitting/flattering clothes as I go down in size and I will continue with that.

I am LOVING feeling like a sexier woman again. I am loving that I'm seeing my figure re-emerge. In my youth (teens and early twenties, the last time I was thinner), I was poor and couldn't afford more clothes and I was so self conscious. I didn't want people looking at my body or my boobs. Now? I want EVERYONE to see me (in a good way) and I want to flaunt the figure I'm working on.

Maybe it's maturity or maybe it's finally getting comfortable with my body or maybe it's from wearing the fat suit for so long that even with my body's imperfections (as it is NOT perfect or ever will be), I can see how much better it looks. Or maybe it's that America is getting so fat, that my 'biggness' in my big frame doesn't seem so out of place now.

I don't know what it is, but I am loving the compliments of, "You look fabulous!" WHo doesn't want to hear that over and over again? And I still have at least 25 pounds to go!

I didn't post anything on my FB page because I don't think most people will get it or will think I'm conceited or something.

But you guys can get it. I've worked hard to lose these pounds and to get fit and I love having that effort recognized!

agreed i lost 40 pounds (goin for the last 25) and i soak it up to :P its just being a girl hon. I MEAN yea we have boyfriends or husbands and we love them to death but if htey stop you form getting compliments then well its not fair your not doing anything wrong. Your just feeling sexy :) Unless your flirting and hitting on them then theres a problem but if not its fine :P

First off, I must say that was a great complement!

But I must say, I do like compliments, but I don't like random guys honking at me when I'm on my power walk, guys just stopping and staring (creepy), or guys constantly making sexual innuendos to me anywhere from gas stations, grocery stores, and to my gym.

But sincere, pleasant compliments are always welcome.

I like compliments. I love them.

But there are rude people out there just like, kept staring at me for 15 minutes straight, even after my dh and I gave him warning looks. Now that's what make me feel very very very uncomfortable.
The result was my dh and I had to leave the restaurant. It was really annoying. (well no fight :D we love peace after all).

I basically agree 100% with the comment above by AshleyLaurent

I'm not a big fan of the "oh, you've lost weight!" comments- I guess to me weight loss is personal, though it is there for everyone to see. I just don't want people to think I lost weight to appease them, I did it just for me!

I can also see people uncomfortable with general compliments- for a lot of women, we hide behind our weight and use it as a shield, and it takes a lot of adjustment to realize that compliments are a GOOD thing! It's a psychological issue.

Myself, I'm *just* starting to take compliments at face value. I can be a cynical person, so while compliments could give me an initial boost, I would later analyze and think "oh, they were just saying that to be nice..." or "oh, they just want to get laid" (hahahah). It feels really good when you can start to accept the compliments though! So good. We have a right to feel wonderful in our skin!

Isn't that why we lose weight in the first place? To feel more beautiful and sexy? And then it's proved (by the compliments, looks and attention) we should feel good!