Melanchony Post

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    Karen925's AvatarKaren925 , 08-20-2010 06:15 PM
    Howdy,
    DS is going to college on Sunday. He is everything a mom could want- character, athletic, excellent grades yada. We pulled the picture album out last night, family night last meal together before shipping off on Sunday and started looking at it.

    I looked so large. DS 21yrs not known for these remarks said I look different and better as the older pcitures showed me when I was heavier. Not 192 but maybe 185. I agreed with him. I have a taken 4 yrs ago 25th anniversary out with being heavy too. I know that was a part of my life but I wondered about what I missing out on the joy because of the weight. I certainly wasn't sad at the time but it isn't the same awareness of how being trim is a help in appreciating the moments.

    DH said I could replace the picture even though it is silver with 25 written on it from his mother. So I feel kind of weird and melachony. What to do with old photos, what to do with DS leaving, what to do with the regret I guess is the fundemental question?

    I am a matter of fact kind of girl and to be thinking of these things is a bit unnerving too. I mean what is done is done. Hope this made sense.
    Karen
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    paperclippy's Avatarpaperclippy , 08-20-2010 06:21 PM
    Karen, I sort of understand how you feel about the old photos. A few weeks ago a friend from college posted some photos on facebook of my sophomore year -- not my high weight, but close to it. While I am not hesitant to tell people that I used to be fat, I have never really gone around flashing a "before" picture. It weirded me out so much that I asked her to make the photos visible only to other people who were at college with me, because I was embarrassed for people who have only known me as thin to see them.

    On the one hand, I think it is good to keep old photos to remind you of where you were, and as a deterrent to ever go back there. On the other hand it's really depressing and embarrassing to see them.
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    Karen925's AvatarKaren925 , 08-21-2010 05:30 PM
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by paperclippy
    On the other hand it's really depressing and embarrassing to see them.
    It really is and I was a bit surprised, I mean I know my worth isn't determined by the scale, however, it is also true that being fat takes a toll on everyday living.
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    Bright Angel's AvatarBright Angel , 08-22-2010 12:53 PM
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by paperclippy
    While I am not hesitant to tell people that I used to be fat,
    I have never really gone around flashing a "before" picture.
    ...old photos .. it's really depressing and embarrassing to see them.
    If I liked the way I looked Fat, I wouldn't work so hard to be Thin.

    I have a distinct aversion to "BEFORE" pictures.
    People who knew me before, remember how I looked fat.
    People who know me now, can believe I used to be fat or not.
    I don't need to offer "Proof".
    Regarding "Inspiration", it is really only the "AFTER" pictures that are inspiring.

    There really aren't that many differences between the way fat people look.
    The only differences are really:
    Some people are fatter than others.
    Some fat people carry more fat in their top area,
    some in their middle area,
    and some in their bottom area.
    Some fat people take care with their appearance,
    and dress to look as attractive as possible,
    other fat people give up and look slopy and unattractive.
    Fat piled on the body's frame is simply ....FAT.

    Those fat people who need to see "Before" for inspiration
    don't need to see my fat picture.
    They can always look in the mirror to see a fat body.
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    Karen925's AvatarKaren925 , 08-22-2010 06:46 PM
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Bright Angel
    If I liked the way I looked Fat, I wouldn't work so hard to be Thin.

    Those fat people who need to see "Before" for inspiration
    don't need to see my fat picture.
    They can always look in the mirror to see a fat body.
    I am finding this to be true more and more. My FB pix is from 4 yrs ago, 25th anniv and that needs to be replaced is something that comes to mind. That is the pix coupled with DS heading off on his new phase of life which started my thinking. I feel different about pixs, I like them more, and that is a bit surprising as I would not have thought I disliked them when I was fat.
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