I've been blaming DH for a lot of my recent sliding into bad habits. That stops today.

It's much easier to diet and stay in control when both partners are working on it but it's not impossible to do it alone. I proved that by losing the 12 lbs. all alone.

If DH wants to drink alcohol or eat 3 bags of rice cakes that's his choice. It's my choice to not join or not join him in that activity.

I'm saying "no thanks" for the rest of May. I'll keep hoping that he starts to join me in the healthier activities but I can't make him do it. It's his choice.

Have a great Sunday all! I'm heading downstairs to the weights and then potting all of my herbs for summer and putting in a couple of planters full of flowers for cheerfulness!

Dagmar

Vacation! Woo hoo!

Just registered myself and DH for a local 5k - his first. I'm so excited.

It is a good day!

'See' you guys next week!

Dagmar, what you eat is what YOU eat, and what DH or anyone else eats is what THEY eat. These do not have to be the same, unless you decide they do.

My SO has no weight problem, and so we often eat separately--get our own meals. I had to do this to lose weight, because eating the same as my SO eats was helping me gain weight. Would that it were not so, but there it is. We've been together 20 years, and during that time SO's weight stayed the same and I gained 35 pounds.

I really hope that you can get a handle on your own food and exercise, and simply allow your DH to go his own path. Even when he says he wants help, it's clear he only wants it for about 10 minutes... you know what I mean. This issue has come up before.

What he puts in his mouth is not your business--stick with only what you put in yours. Cook/make the foods you need to eat and ignore everything else.

Good luck!

Jay

rabbit~I find that a glass of wine often leads to two, but it rarely causes snacking. Now that I'm trying to abstain for the most part, I find that I'm snacking INSTEAD of having the wine. I don't know which is worse! But I try to go for low fat, low cal snacks.

DH, DS and I went golfing this morning. We were almost the only ones on the course. The valley is really clearing out as "season" has ended. My in-laws left yesterday and left our really nice 80 degree weather for rain, snow and sleet in SLC where it is about 40. They were ruing their decision on Friday when we went to lunch. But they had plans and had doctors appointments so they had to go. We were done with 18 holes of golf in 1 hour 50 minutes. We were done before 10 AM. So why did I get my face sunburned? All the other weeks we went from 9 Am to noon and I never got sunburned. ugh