I look forward to fixing my hair and putting on make-up and dressing nice when we go out. Heck, I do my hair and make-up and put on nice clothes just to go to Walmart. LOL. (DD is the same way, it takes her 2 hrs. to get ready to go shopping, LOL). You are totally right, feeling good about yourself and how you look is great incentive to keep the wt. off.

Lily, sorry you and your DH had to deal with that creep. Makes my skin crawl just to read the story. It almost sounds to me like he was trying to get a rise out of your DH, and DH probably did the right thing, especially given his line of work. I think you look great and you should keep looking great! Obviously this creep had no chance with you because 1) you are with DH, and 2) well, with that kind of personality who'd want that creep? It'd be pretty obvious to him after about 3 seconds, and he probably thought it would be entertaining to be obnoxious, rather than act like a real man. None of this is your fault, no matter great how you look!

Anne

Anne, thanks for the support. I actually started questioning myself and then realized that I wasn't giving off any type of signals. The guy was just a jerk. I am (happily for the moment, LOL) married and plan to stay that way.

Girl, you're never too old to be a hottie! Robert's a loser and a number of impolite words, but I'd take a moment of pleasure in the fact that a twentysomething year old guy thinks you're hot! ;)

As I mentioned in the Maintainers Chat, my son took over first place last night in the Karoke contest. He will be singing Saturday night for a chance to go to the State competition. (I'm so proud of him, I didn't know he could sing like that). Anyway, Robert will be in that semi-final round of the competition. I want to go to cheer on my son. (DH will be at work since he previously had volunteered to work a 16 hr. shift that night). Here lies the problem. As we were leaving the club last night, DH asked his friend (Royce) to keep Robert away from me Saturday night. Royce said "I got you covered, I've noticed too how Robert tries to hit on your wife". DH told me of the whole conversation and it makes me feel bad and as if he doesn't trust me to handle dealing with the creep. I don't want to miss seeing my son sing and DS begged me to be there with him. I offered to DH for me to stay home and he said "NO, I want you there, but stear clear of Robert". I don't know what to do. I explained to DH that we are married and that I love him and would never dream of jeopardizing our relationship for that creep. I think part of the problem is that Robert is younger, owns his own company, has lots of money and is Easy on the eyes. (DH mentioned all that, not me). But, I'm totally not interested and have told DH this.

I can understand that DH is a bit jealous. After we left last night, DH told me that a woman at the club came up to him and asked "are you here alone?" He said "No, I'm with my wife" and pointed me out to the other lady. This is not an isolated incident, he gets "hit on" quite often. He is great looking and I did not feel jealous. (When I was obese, this type of thing drove me crazy, but I'm now much more secure with myself and our relationship). We're coming up on our 10th anniversary, so obviously wer'e together because we want to be. Definitely not because either of us couldn't get anyone else. LOL.

You said your DH wants you to go. You said that your DH asked another friend to "keep an eye on you". I'm assuming this will function two ways: 1--DH's friend will make sure the creep leaves you alone and 2--DH's friend will tell DH everything that goes on (basically he's a spy).

Since your DS wants you to go, you want to go and your DH wants you to go, you should go. If it were me, I'd go and sit as far away from creep as possible and ignore him (you don't want DH's friend to have fodder). If creep doesn't leave you along, enlist DH's friend to intervene.

Just my 2 cents worth.

Good luck to your son!!!

You should go. Don't let the bad behavior of one jerk stop you from doing what you want to do.

You might, however, want to practice your zingers lest Robert say something innappropriate. An icy glare wouldn't go amiss, either.

I'm not a maintainer, but I've been following this thread and I say GO :)!

Your DH has set you up with a wingman! If creep-o starts to bother you, pawn him off on Royce, so you can do what you came there to do, which is cheer on your son!

Thanks ladies, I am definitely going to go. I know too that my son will definitely stand up for me and put Robert in his place (if the need arises).

Funny thing is that DH's friend (Royce) that is supposed to watch after me flirts with me more than Robert does. DH knows this too, but says "I can handle it when Royce flirts cause he's my friend and I know he doesn't mean anything by it, but with Robert I don't think that's the case". LOL, I guess only certain guys that he approves of are allowed to flirt.

It's this guy's problem, not yours.

Don't give in to a bully.

I'm feeling a little jealous or mifted today. DH went up to his North Jersey apartment on Thursday for a job interview in NYC on Friday. I'm pretty sure he went into the city Thursday night and went swing dancing. I had no problem with that and was down at the beach baby sitting my 5 year old niece.

He had told me that he had planned to have a drink or dinner with our guy friend/landlord Friday night and then he'd be home around 10 pm. (It's a 2 hours drive without traffic) But he called me a 8:30 pm and said that one of our girl friend's had called and told him she and her nephew were going swing dancing and DH decided to join them.

So I'm sitting home alone all Friday and I had an expectation that I would see him at some point. And he's out dancing instead and spending another night up in the apartment.

Now, I have no reason to worry that he's there looking for someone else. He's totally committed to me and I am to him. We've always liked that we give each other a lot of leaway to do things apart.

However, I'm mifted that he's out having fun on a Friday night and I'm stuck at home watching reruns.

Carolyn, I'm sorry. I wouldn't be happy either if I was left home alone on a Friday night. It is good though that you and your DH trust each other and have that leeway.

DH and I have had a rule our entire marriage that we don't go out to clubs without each other. It has worked for us. The karoke thing tonite will be the very first time either of us has went to a club without the other. I am feeling a little guilty about going. After all, it was my rule to start with and will I be setting up the precedence for this to happen again and become acceptable. I've reallly thought about this and came to the realization that if his DD was the one singing and I had to work, I think I could accept that he wanted and needed to be there for her.

A lot of people just don't have common sense and respect for personal boundaries. There are a lot of perverts out there. When I was a kid, the young priest in our parish was a family friend. He was really hip, and modern and he'd go fishing with the family. My brother and I loved him (though I think we loved his yellow lab more), and suddenly he wasn't visiting any longer and we stopped seeing him. My parents never really explained why, and I didn't find out until I was an adult that he had propositioned my mother, inviting her to his home alone. My mother wasn't even a hottie, she was a short, round housewife. Ewwwww!

Last night went great and my son took second place in this contest. He will be moving on to the semi-final round now that will be held in OK CITY.

I didn't have any problem with unwanted advances by men, (more than just the usual flirting) but I took my sister with me and the 2 of us sat together. (I thought that sitting with her would work well so I didn't end up at a table with all the men). I am so happy for DS and just can't believe how well he sings and how totally confident he is. When DS goes to the state competition my whole family and group of friends will be there to cheer him on. Yipppeee.

That's great Lily! I'm very glad to hear it. Taking your sister with you was a stroke of genuis.