The Beck Diet Solution - support group?
 

Hello fellow 3FCers!

I'm a longtime (well, not LONG, but long enough!) member, and have gotten so much wonderful support from everyone here. So, thank you all for continuing to share your experiences with the world. You are probably helping more people than you realize.

The reason I'm here in this subforum today is because I have just recently started The Beck Diet Solution by Judith S. Beck, Ph.D. It's been getting some media attention lately and, because I'm in the process of losing weight, it has gotten my attention as well.

What appeals to me about this book is that it's not really a diet at all. Of course, you have to choose a healthy eating plan for it to work, but the focus of the book is on changing the way we think about eating, our behaviors surrounding eating. In other words, the idea is to learn how to think and eat like a thin person. And - this is the best part - it teaches how to keep it up FOR LIFE, which means no more yo-yo numbers on the scale, no more quick losses and quick gains. To me, that sounds so good.

Anyway, I'm only on Day 3, but already I can feel my outlook changing. I like the gradual, stepwise method of learning new behaviors and ways to combat sabotaging thoughts.

Which brings me to why I'm here. I'd like to start a support group here, for anyone who wants to do TBDS with me. I have already heard from some folks who are trying it with varying degrees of success, and I think that if we all do it together and create a weekly discussion group, we can increase our chances of fully reaping the benefits of this program.

So... anyone out there want to give this a shot with me? Of course, we can all progress at different rates - some are already on Day 15, and I wouldn't want them to start all over again! - but I think a place where we can all come and share our ideas every week would really help us.

Who's with me on this? Want to give it a try?

As always, thanks for listening... stay happy and healthy, everyone. :hug:

I just finished TBDS a few days ago and I am so motivated. Yesterday was my official first day with the plan. I am trying to incorporate as many daily tasks as I can for right now and I woud love to have someone to share progress with. There are a few tasks that I don't really care for such as putting extra food on my plate and then pushing it aside. I've been trying to watch portion sizes as it is. Of course, the extra food on the plate idea will work great at restaurants and I did practice this just the other night and felt great when I left the restaurant because I weren't stuffed. I've started my journal with weight and measurements along with other info that may be helpful. I use My Food Diary website for logging food and exercising and it also helps me with the food planning aspect. I think TBDS is a great tool and will help me as I tend to procrastinate and give up easily when the wrong foods are around.

Kathy

Hi, Kathy - cute doggy, BTW! I have a black lab (mix), too. Sweethearts!

So - just so I understand this - you read the entire book all the way through at once and then started the plan? Or did you go day-by-day and yesterday was your first day after completing? I'm literally reading the book one day at at time, doing one skill at a time and building from there.

I read the whole book and since I was already trying to lose a few pounds, I decided to just jump in full force. I use My Food Diary for logging food and exercise and would do great until time to prepare dinner.............I would nibble and while at the table I might would take seconds at times. This was clearly my downfall so I know the areas that I need to work on and decided that I couldn't wait for Day 15 to get started with the diet part. I was already doing several of the tasks and Week 1 (for me) was just a reminder of what I needed to be doing such as eating while seated, eating slowly, picking a diet, and just being more mindful of what I was doing. So basically, I read the book and will be applying the daily tasks where needed. Yesterday, after my afternoon snack, I was still hungry but I reminded myself that hunger wasn't an emergency and that I'd be having dinner soon - so drink some more water and forget about the hungries.

In a nutshell, I'm going to follow TBDS but not concentrating on a specific task for a specific day.

OH, okay, I get it. :D

I've been dieting, too, since Septemer - but I'm still going to do the plan one day at a time, right from Day 1, and follow the the instructions to the letter. Honestly, I'm scared it won't work and so I want to be absolutely certain that I'm doing it right; I'm doing everything exactly as prescribed in the book. Even though I could probably "work ahead," I'm probably not going to. I'm just not real confident and maybe not entirely sold on the promises of the book, I guess, and I want to see if the plan and the cognitive therapy works "as-is."

I hope some others join us..!

Hi! I am using the book also. I have found making response cards to be a great tool. It really makes me think about how I handled a situation and how to find a better solution.

I just figured out what diet I am going to use. After seeing Consumer Reports ranked Volumetrics and then asking a question here I got the book last night and I feel it is do-able.

I go back and forth between wanting a plan with a lot of structure to wanting a plan that is less restrictive. There are a lot of great diets out there but I need to find what works for me (and my family).

Gina

PS: I just read the blog suzonadiet.livejournal.com and I think it is great! Could we use this thread for all of us to post daily and share how the day is going and what we have done to be BDS compliant?? Just a thought. I really find reading blogs helpful and also believe doing the blog is helpful.

That's great, Gina - I'm glad you have found a diet that will work for you! :hug: I agree, it's tough to find a diet that will fit an entire family's lifestyle and is structured/free-form enough. It's especially overwhelming because there are SO MANY diets, and all of them promise the world, don't they? I hope Volumetrics works for you!

And yes, we could absolutely use this thread to talk about how we're doing... we can set up a weekly thread right here in this forum on 3FC if you want - or, if you really find the blogging thing helpful, you can set up a free journal at the same place where I did (livejournal.com) and we can link up our journals and read up on each other's progress..?

Now that I have to volumetrics diet I can see that it is doable. I haven't really been able to read it as well as I need to.

Diets do promise a lot! It is interesting that a lot of diets that I have tried or read about appear to be the same with just a different focus. But Volumetrics does seem different.

I love the idea of linking our blogs---I will go see if I get one started. Should we still come here to make comments?? I know I can post a comment on your blog but I would prefer to talk to you here.

I will go see if I can start a blog. I will come back and give you a link once I have it started.

PS. I am really glad I have found you (Suz and Kathy). I feel like you are in this for the long haul and will be consistent. I really am looking for someone to do this with.
Gina

Hi everyone! I recognize Gina from Volumetrics board; I'm on that plan too.

I bought the Beck book several days ago and haven't read it yet. I see the workbook will be published in October.

I bought the book because I am familiar with the type of therapy that it uses, and I feel this book will really help me. Now I just have to start reading it!

So count me in ladies.

I ordered my book yesterday....so it wont be here until this coming thurs. or friday. But Im glad I poked around to see if anyone started something for book.

I havent decided my diet yet....Ive been low carbing for years, and yes it works great, but its getting into the summer, and I really dont want to skip the watermelons and fresh peaches and stuff. So I have time to look around and see what might suit me.

If you have your blog set up, pls post a link in your siggy....that way everyone can find you.

Oh, good! Lots of people starting from the very beginning! Awesome! I think we can definitely start a little group here.

RobinW - you'll see when you get the book that you don't need to actually choose a diet until Day 2 of the plan... so don't sweat finding a diet before you start the book. Maybe you can use this time while you're waiting for your book to arrive to gather some information about diets you're curious about and narrow it down to a few you really like.

So far, I have been doing everything the book says, right down to the letter, and I can really feel my outlook changing. I'm starting to feel good about resisting unplanned eating, snacking and grazing rather than feeling deprived or somehow cheated out of something I "deserve." That's really empowering! Of course, DH thinks I've lost my mind because I've put sticky notes all over the kitchen, but he knows this is important to me.

Actually, that's something that I'm having trouble with... because I'm changing my eating habits and I am the sole food-preparer in the house, DH is starting to rebel a bit. I felt kind of bad about it, but I asserted myself and told him that eating healthy is now a priority for me and that I'm not cooking two different meals at the end of each day. In other words, he's welcome to eat what I make, but if he wants something else he's going to have to fix it himself. Was that nasty of me? I just feel like in this situation I really had to assert myself...

Anyway - thanks for listening to me ramble, girls.

Hope you all have a terrific day!

Hi! I have started a livejournal.

Here it is let me know what you think. Do you think it is ok to post my planned menu??

Gina
http://schaug.livejournal.com/

Gina, you can post in your journal whatever you think will help you - it's your journal, after all! :D I hope it'll be a good tool for you. I'm pretty sure it will be for me.

I added you to my "friends" list. :)

Hi Born Again! I will be visiting the volumetrics board soon with questions. It really like it that we are doing both the volumetrics diet and beck solution together!! How fun! Have you started working through the Beck Solution book yet??

Robin I agree with Suz. Really take some time to think about what it is that you like to eat. Do you need something super structured or something that allows more individual interpretation? I have done some low carb diets and they just didn't work for me. Lower carb is great but low carb just doesn't satisfy me. I don't really like to measure and journal everything I eat. While I think that is a good tool I don't really see myself doing it forever. Just give it some real thought and try to be practical.

Suz! You go girl! It is so easy to be the caretaker and put ourselves last. It is great that you stood up for yourself and you shouldn't feel guilty! I am happy for you. I always ramble so we should get along really well.

I am excited about the journal! Thank you Suz for letting me know about it.

Hey guys,
I was just wondering you all could tell some information about the book. The basics, the specifics any info at all, if its worth buying. I have bought diet book after diet book and if I could lose weight as fast as I lose money, I would have a glorious figure.
What really attracted me to what you guys are talkin about the book isn't mostly the weight loss but the way you look at food. I currently battling/pulling myself out of an ed and I realized it is not at all about my weight or size, I have some issues with food and how I react to it and all feelings I have when I eat and especially after I eat.
Ok iim goin on and on, but any info would be helpful! Thanx so much!!!

Bean: I am not sure yet. I will say that The Beck Diet Solution is so different from any diet book I have ever used. I have read them all too and really did hesitate to get this book. If you decide to buy it make sure that your really do the exercises. I think this is one book we need to follow to the "t".

Suz: I read your journal. I think you are doing great. Do you have a timer on your ipod?? I probably have a timer also but I don't know how to use it. Do you just reset it after every bite?? I know it is tedious right now but eventually you will know what speed you should be eating. You are so right you do deserve to take that time for yourself!!

I am Beck "compliant" for the day! I have read my motivation a couple of times and I have stuck with my menu. I know the menu isn't really part of the Beck Solution for the day but it is something I need to work on. Especially because I am trying to make volumetrics work!

Gina

Bean!! :hug: I remember you from some of the W.O.W. threads! Good to see you!

And I know how you feel because, as you know, I had trouble with E.D.'s, too. Like you, my problems were far less about image and far more about the control/lack of control I had over food and the way I reacted to it. This book has been GREAT because it is finally teaching me how to view food in a healthy way, which I realized was something I was never really taught. I totally recommend it - especially since you are in recovery. The whole premise of the book is cognitive therapy, which attacks the root of overeating/undereating at its psychological source. It's very stepwise, very gradual (no shocking changes overnight to throw us into a downward spiral!), and I think it really is working!

I'd love it if you joined us. :)

Gina - you and I posted at the same time. :dizzy: Awesome that you were "Beck compliant" today... it really does become habit, reading all those cards and stuff, but I, too, think that if we follow it closely and do our homework (and the emphasis is on the "work" part of that!), we're going to drop these pounds and keep them off for good - finally.

As for the timing of the eating, there's a stopwatch feature under "extras" on the main menu of my iPod nano. The routine went like this: I take a bite of food, chew it really well, swallow it, start the timer, wait 30 secs, stop the timer, take another bite of food, etc. etc. etc. I started feeling full 2/3 of the way into my Lean Cuisine... finished it, though... and I'm still not feeling any hunger. Usually by this time in the workday, I am so hungry that I'm ready to eat my stapler! I actually feel like I ate so much more than I did. I am frankly amazed at that. I didn't believe it would work, but it really does!

Day 6 - easy!
 

Well, today's assignment in the Beck book has already been done... finding a diet coach/support group. Looks like we've got one, plus I've got futher accountability in my blog, too.

How's everyone else doing?

Hi-ho, hi-ho, it's off to blog I go...

Catch you later, ladies...

hey rowdy i remember you too!!
this book seems to be what i need.just to teach me about food and i guess to let me in on why i have problems with it
gina - just a question, do u have to do volumetrics with the book or is it just any diet u feel comfortable with?
well im off to work, but im gonna stop at Borders to see if i can find the book.
thanx ladies and i hope ya'll have a great day!!

Bean: on day two you pick 2 diets. The first one is the one you plan to use and the second one is the one you use if you need a backup. She gives a few guidelines:
Hey Suz day 6 is an easy one for you!!

I am not sure what to do about day 2. I know I am going to follow the volumetrics diet but I am not sure what I am going to do for a backup. Maybe weight watchers core?? They are a lot a like.

Gina

Gina, I was in the same boat as you were - I had NO idea what to choose for my second diet. I'm a calorie-counter because I have had great success with that (my problem is AFTER I lose the weight, I fall off the wagon and gain it all back!), so choosing a second one seemed pointless to me. I chose South Beach, but that's before I even heard of Volumetrics... maybe I'll use that for my fall-back, instead.

Hello All. I'm about done reading the book and plan to start actually doing the steps on Saturday. I just had to read it through first because that's the way I am :-). CBT is really successful with all sorts of problems, so I am confident it will work on eating issues, too.

Bean - the book is based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy which is a wellk-established, proven technique. Basically the philosophy is that how we think affects how we behave and if we can change the way we think, we can change how we behave. Hope that makes sense.

This looks like a good group. I too am starting the Beck Diet book and also have been doing volumetrics. I have found so far this is a good combination for me. I am 49 and turning 50 and having my only child get married in the same month later this summer. I hope to get here to post from time to time.

Yay! I am so glad I found others who are just starting out. I am on day 6 of the Beck Diet Solution. At first, I was using the "Investigate the Internet support" as a delaying tactic to finishing my reading for the day, but so far I have signed up for 3FC, found this thread and re-introduced myself to FitDay. I would say it's been a great use of my time. I have used CBT for other issues and it helped me, so I am confident this will help too but only if I work the book.

Response Card Revelation
 

Hi Mylifenow, Walkthelab (cute name!) and Luja! Welcome to the group! So far, this has been very free-form and unformatted - so just jump right in with whatever you have to say!

Mylifenow, I am actually fulfilling my Day 6 requirement by coming here, too - I've been a 3FC member since September (I think?), and I've gotten to know so many good folks here who have all become my coaches, as well as I have become THEIR coaches. I hope you find these forums as helpful as I have! There is definitely strength in numbers.

I'm on Day 7 today, and it's going to be a challenge; I'm supposed to change my environment to help me avoid unplanned eating. At home, this is not too hard because I have already taken steps to this end. I buy very little junk food, and the little I do buy I have DH put out of my reach, which really does help. My real challenge is going to be work... how do I get them on board with keeping the junk out of sight? I'd like to think that they'd be supportive, and I think most are, but I know of at least one person who would just LOVE to see me fail and so will probably resist on purpose.

Anyway, I've blogged about it with some strategies; hopefully I'll remember them when the time comes! I also did a response card - which, now that I look at it, has so many more applications than to just dieting. It goes like this:

Sabotaging thought: I shouldn't put my needs before others.'

RESPONSE: That's a lot of crap. I am entitled to take the best possible care of myself. My well-being cannot be compromised. In this case, meetng my need to live healthy will require changes in my surroundings that may effect others. If they cannot be supportive, perhaps part of the changes I need to make to my environment means seeking out more supportive people.

And really, I could replace that underlined part with just about any need I have been denying myself, couldn't I? I tend to be a bit spartan and deny myself a lot of things, some of which I really do need, and I need to stop doing that.

Do any of you feel guilty for putting yourself first? How do you deal with that?

Good morning everyone. I too am using this board as a diet coach. Years ago I participated in a program with my health care company where someone called me once a week as a diet coach. It worked for awhile as many things did. It is just staying with something and continuing to work a program. I have found volumetrics to really be quite easy. I am glad I found it a few weeks ago and then was shocked that consumer reports rated it number one. Who would have thought weight watchers would be dethroned. Actually their core diet will be my second choice. I was wondering what plans others are picking.

I'd like to join you all, too. I have the book and have read it through once. I bought 3x5 cards and a nice book to keep track. I used to hang out on LWL, lost 60 pounds, regained 20 when I was diagnosed with MS in Feb 06, regained 20 and have lost 10 of those. So, I think I am on the right track and this book is the tools I need. CBT and "reframing" have done wonders in other areas of my life, so this all makes lots and lots of sense. I am planning on making Tues my official start date. No Mon, because how many have we started on Mon in the past? Clean slate and all.

I am currently eating an anti-inflammatory, whole, unprocessed diet that is closest to Andrew Weill's Healthy Aging (without a lot of the supplements). I'll probably pick Volumetrics or You! on a Diet as my second choice. Already I love the idea that there is no one, final, perfect choice and we all need to keep assessing and keep what works and change what doesn't. How smart is Dr. B?:D

I am currently working on a certification in Holistic Health and Nutrition and I have started a running and walking club with 3 other women, all of us former "couch potatoes". Check us out: http://www.train4dc.com. Does anyone have any problems if I post about this on our club forum?

I have an account on LiveJournal that I have not updatd in years - might check that out. Anyway, glad to be here. I'll keep you updated. Who knows, I might even start earlier!

LUJA: what did you think of the book?? I am like you and wanted to read it all first but a couple of things happened. 1. I didn't have time and 2. I wanted to get started (I read day 1 and thought to myself I have to do that now).

Walkthelab and mylifenow: welcome! Post often!

Walkthelab: I was using volumetrics but I remembered hearing that the core diet is based on volumetrics. I have decided to get WW online just to learn a little more about allowed foods (volumetric staples) and get a few more recipes. I have also used the boards to ask questions about what is allowed as core and what isn't. It has helped me a lot. So, I am still using volumetrics but using core's resources.

Suz: that sounds great! I love your response card!! I am going to go take a look at your journal for day 7. I always think it is so hard. I have a husband and kids and can't just throw everything away. I believe she justs wants it to be out of our way, right? I really struggle with this!

Putting myself first: I rarely put myself first. I have been taught well. My dear Mom never says no and puts EVERYONE else before her. It breaks my heart. Because of that I am a little more assertive at times but it is just so natural to make sure everyone else is happy. Suz, I don't really know how to change it. My fear is that my husband and sons, who have had me do everything domestically for them and put their needs first, would go into shock and revolution if I suddenly said you do it I am going to go for a walk. But I think I need to make some changes. I did get a house cleaner and that has helped me a lot with my stress. But I still have to do ALL of the picking up and laundry and put it away. They literally throw their clothes on the floor, leave everything out like food or pans and plates and I clean up. It is stupid and I have created it but how do I change it now??

Gina

http://schaug.livejournal.com/2007/05/16/

Ellen! Hi and welcome! That website is great. I bet you have a lot of fun on Saturdays getting to know each other and feeling so darn good about what you are doing!!

How are you doing with your MS?? My cousin has MS. She was diagnosed at age 17. We just did a MS walk in Des Moines. It felt good. My cousin is so independent and that is about all she will allow us to do "for" her. She is having a pretty tough time right now. She is on something that is suppose to keep her from getting worse. My Aunt said it is working so I feel really good about that.

I think livejournal has been really good for me. I am not sure if anyone ever reads it but it is nice to have my thoughts together in one place. I lost my cards---I have been carrying them in my Beck book and they must have slipped out. I wonder who read them and what they thought. Anyway, I have been going back to day one and reading my motivation list online.

Gina

Hi, Ellen! Glad to have you join us! I started on a Tuesday, too, and for the same reason you did - Monday as a start day is awful!

And good morning to all of you, girls! :wave:

Gina - I read your LJ. :D Also, I just want to reassure you that on Day 8 (which is where I am now), you will get some ideas and strategies to help you be able to make time for fulfilling your needs during this process of learning to live healthier. Over the past year or so that I've been married (second marriage), my husband and I have worked out a system of who does what around the house. I have had several meltdowns as a direct result of having to do everything and not having enough "me time" while he sat around on his butt watching me clean up after him, etc. After sitting him down and explaining to him that I was resentful for being the workhorse, we talked it out and came up with some good solutions so that the workload of the house is distributed fairly and more efficiently.

One of the most valuable lessons I took with me after a Cinderella-like childhood, a horrible first marriage and the years of independent singledom thereafter is that I am nobody's slave - and I am much better at recognizing when people do take me for granted. I'm sure you are appreciated in your household, very much so - but for your own sanity, it may be worth it to delegate some responsibilities so you can make the time you're going to need. You'll see what I'm talking about when you get to Day 8.

Woo, boy, that was rambly, wasn't it? :dizzy: Sorry about that.

Anyway - today's a good day. I feel terrific, like for the first time in my life I'm really and truly finding control when it comes to my attitudes toward food. Food's no longer the enemy now. :D

How's everyone else doing? What days are you on? Bean, did you have any luck finding the book?

Walkthelab - as to the diet plans I've chosen, my first choice is old-fashioned calorie-counting, and although my second choice WAS South Beach, I'm giving consideration to Weight Watchers, mostly because Weight Watchers also focuses much more on calories and much less on good foods/bad foods. I don't think there's such a thing as a "bad food," but rather we need to learn the skill of making smart choices.

OK, girls, lots to do today, so I'd better get to it - have a terrific day, everyone! I will try to check back in later.

I am getting more and more and more excited. I keep looking at my notecards and book - blank and brand new. This reminds me of the "First Day of School" feeling Actually having a start date in the future was one of the things that helped me quit smoking. That was super successful (4 years ago), so this makes a lot of sense to me.

So, here is what I did: I started a new community on Live Journal: Beck_Chicks. I have sent Suz and Gina an invitation to join. If you are interested, sign up for a LJ account and then join the community. I figured this way we could post what we wanted each other to see, and not broadcast to the whole world or other "friends". I know I do this with my MS communities as most of my friends (real and virtual) are not interested in hearing about detailed disease issues and I am not totally comfortable sharing my diet and weight loss issues with the world. Hey, I know we will bring up a lot of emotion and life changing patterns will develop. I can chose to share the results with my friends, but may not want them to see the process - warts and all. We need to be free to post only to our "Coaches" and not the guy who you met at a conference who wants to share writing ideas, right?

Suz, it is great that you are finding control!! The Beck Diet Solution has really opened my eyes. You have to read my journal for today. I found something at the core and never knew that it has to do with self praise, or more importantly, lack of self praise.

Suz, you are so right!! I am glad you have things worked out with your husband. It is so easy for me to be resentful. I think this has brought up some suppressed feelings for me that I am not sure of how to handle. My husband and I own a successful business. He is very dedicated to the degree that he could be a work-a-holic. He appears to feel that because I work 30 hours doing our accounting and secretarial work that it is only fair that I am the one who should pick up the slack. I really am not sure if he is wrong, he probably isn't. The thing is that no one likes doing housework and if given the choice I would put in more hours at work too. But I know that no one else is going to do it so I just buck up and get it done. That doesn't mean that I don't feel resentful. If given the chance I would prefer owning a business and having him do all the mundane yukky stuff. Another feeling that is burbling at the surface is that my job is pretty boring. It can be ok and I can leave when I need to but, in general, it is thankless and doesn't really do anything that makes me feel worthwhile. I know that I am a piece of the puzzle and I also know that he appreciates what I do. I just silently feel resentful at times. I feel selfish for feeling like this because we have a really good life and it is because he works so hard. Anyway, I often suppress this but here it is today at the surface.

Ellen, I sent you a message on livejournal. So, does this mean that everything we say is private now?? I would like that!!

http://schaug.livejournal.com/1635.html

Suz, great solution on the cookies!!

Gina

Ellen - fantastic idea! I have signed up for the community. The addition of a Beck Diet Solution community may also attract others who are in the same boat we are... which is terrific! And I am very excited for you to start the program... can't wait to hear what you think of it!

Gina - :hug: - sometimes it is so hard to strike a balance, and I know what you mean about feeling that resentment lurking in your mind. I wonder, have you talked to your DH about it? Would he be understanding of how you feel? Might he be willing to share some of the non-secretarial responsibilities of the job with you and pick up some of the mundanities so that you can feel more challenged, less bored and, more importantly, less resentful for sort of having the "workhorse" role dropped in your lap? It's not healthy to keep your hurt feelings repressed, and that kind of hurt can really build up over years and years and come to a head. Keep in mind that this advice is free (and worth exactly what you pay for it! ;)) but we all know now how important a role self-esteem plays in our journey towards a healthy weight. Just remember to love your husband - of course! - but don't let your love for your husband overshadow your own needs.

How's everyone else doing? Check in if you get a chance, please! I'd love to hear how everyone's making out with their tasks...

Hey! Now you all REALLY have to take a look at my journal from yesterday. I am really pleased with my breakthrough but that isn't the reason that I want you to take a look. I want you to take a look because of the comments. Make sure to take a look at the comments!!

Gina

http://schaug.livejournal.com/1635.html

Yes, I saw that! She commented on mine, too, last week, and I was so jazzed about that! It's nice to know that Dr. Beck's got her ear to the ground and is paying attention to the feedback on her plan. It's nice to see someone with a face and a name who will stand behind what they write.

How's everyone doing today? I am eating my lunch at the moment... sloooowwwwly, of course. :D I'm finding that it's becoming a habit. Yesterday, I didn't have my iPod with me for dinner, but I still ate WAY slower than DH did. By the time he was done with dinner, I had only eaten about half of mine. What a difference!

I think I've sold my Dad on TBDS, as well... I had a long chat with him last night, and he expressed so many of the same things that we have gone through... he was a South Beach guy, and he lost a lot only to gain back the weight, and he tends to give up when he gets derailed, etc. I think I'm going to buy him a copy of the book. I know that his lack of success isn't because of any lack of desire to lose weight; I think he just doesn't (yet!) have the skills that we are all learning from the program.

I'm so glad that we're all putting in the hard work on this and seeing it through... :grouphug: It's wonderful to know I'm in good company.

I agree Suz! I think it is great that your Dad is going to get the book!! I want to share it with anyone.

Before I started the journal I read all of your journals and comments and saw that Judith Beck commented on your journal. I thought that was so impressive and now I just feel so special.

I know that you are right about DH and I and that I need to make some changes. It is just really hard to ask him to do any more because his plate is really full. He really is a work-a-holic (or atleast I think so) and he is always adding more and more to our workload. He is swamped and so am I. I know that it is a strange comment from someone who says she is bored--I just sometimes don't like my job. If we don't have a lot of customers I get a little lonely in my office. So, now that you have that information what do you think? My hands are a bit tied. There are several things going through my head. One one hand I can see that he is so so busy. One the other hand he is making choices. He is constantly complicating things by adding more and more but I know he can't turn down a financial opportunity. So, I guess I know I have a good life and need to push a little extra hard to keep up. I don't know. It is just so hard sometimes.

Day 5 for me. Slowing down?? WOW. I haven't done my journal yet but I just couldn't eat a slow breakfast and did eat slow for lunch.

Gina

Gina and Suz - please go cross-post your journals to the beck_chicks community. I plan on only posting my Beck stuff there. Also, it would be nice to have everything in one place so we can review what those before us have learned and see the comments. I hope to learn from your lessons so I can make totally different mistakes (oops, I mean learning opportunities).

I'll post my specific comments to your journals there.

Gina - I am sorry about your cousin, but glad you walked in the MS Walk. 17 is tough. I was just dx last year at 46, but I knew about 6 months before, when I had my attack. I am doing really well now. My biggest issues are fatigue, balance and a buzzing in my right toes. Compared to others I know, I am more inconvieneced that disabled, and I do realize how lucky I am. Thanks for asking