OK a while back (many months back) we all got to talk about where you met your husband or BF, at that time I found out some of you used a dating online to meet them, anyways if you remember correctly I thought I would try one since I am a very young widow and I have been hiding behind that fact and my kids for awhile. Anywho I did back then and no such luck and kinda just left it alone.
Lynn, PMed me awhile back asking how my love life is, well at that time my love life was null and void, but this guy YIMED me from the site I used a few days before she PMed me, which I had totally forgotten about until he messaged me, so we have been chit chatting for awhile. Every day and he lives roughly 15-20 mins from me and I think we may end up meeting. Am I crazy or what?!? Anita, I know you met your husband on one of these site, so any advice? How long did you guys chit chat before meeting in person or talking on the phone? I have been kinda keeping this hush hush until I decided if I was going to meet him or not.
Laurie Good luck with your decision...I didn't know you are a widow I am sorry for your loss. That has to be rough with the little ones and all...Anyway, just be careful and meet in a public place for a few dates that would be my advice...take it slow!
OH trust me, I am as slow as slow can be without being completely nonmobile!!! That has been my problem! I hide behind my kids and have had no love life in forever and a day!
I was married when I was very young to my son's sperm donor, divorced him when my son was 2, remarried 7 years later and was 2 months pregnant when my husband took his own life, so now I am a single mom once again. I have big self esteen issues, that is why I don't go out much, if at all. This is actually a very big step for me and I am still not 100% sure I will meet him but we will see!
Laurie... I met my dh on-line. I met him in person three days after we first IM'd each other. But - that was just one of those weird freaky things - sometimes you just know. Before him I had gone on several internet dates with other guys. One thing that I always did was set up a "safe call". You choose a friend who you trust. Give them every scrap of information you have on this guy - including printing out an email header etc. When you go on your date, have a prearranged time (s) that you will call her to check in. I typically did every 3 hours. I always told my dates that I had done this - and they always understood. The deal was that if I didn't call within 15 minutes of the agreed up on time, my friend would call the police. Of course this never happened...
You know of course to meet only in a public place and not to go anywhere private with them - right? Lots of people meet each other on-line Laurie - there is nothing wrong with that. Just be safe and take precautions.
Cool Daisy! Can I ask which one you used??? This guy really seems nice, at first his personality kinda didn't turn me on much but he seems to be losing up too. He is 39, I am 35. He has raised his 2 kids since the youngest was 1 year old, the mom left. His kids at 13 and 15 now. He works as a engineer type guy with the phone company and he works part time as an EMT for the local fire dept. We will see where this goes. He hasn't pushed me to meet or anything, he seems to be letting me take it as slow as I want so we will see.
Well - I didn't actually use a dating service. This was in 1997 - they weren't everywhere back then... I just sort of ran into these people in my on-line adventures - chat rooms message boards etc... Funny thing about dh though is that at the time I had AOL. For entertainment, I would peruse those personal ads to make fun of some of those guys - you know the really ugly ones with the beer guts saying they wanted an athletic blond... LOL... yeah right Buddy! Anyway - I stumbled on dh's ad - and I answered it. I NEVER answered those ads. NEVER. But something just kept prodding me to do it - so I did. Good call. He is a really great guy.
Take your time Laurie - see how things go. Go only if you are 100% comfortable.
Laorie, have you exchanged photos???? How about talking on the phone as the next step?? I know that is what my son did with his now lovely wife...I see nothing wrong with it either....Be Safe and Good Luck.
yes we have exchanged pictures, matter of fact we talked this morning and I mentioned something about giving my daughter an apple and working on better eating habits etc..........then I said yeah I am working on losing weight. He came back with a comment that I am pretty just the way I am, so he knows up front I am over weight. Trust me I am taking my time!
Yes, I met my DH on line. I think we exchanged quite a few emails. Then we talked on the phone and then we met for drinks at a nice restaurant. We hit it off right away and the rest is history.
I agree with what everyone else has said. Go to a public place. Meet him there and don't let him know where you live until you totally trust him. Then go with your gut. If you just go for drinks or coffee then the date can be shorter if you don't like him...
Confession is good for the soul, right?!?!?
