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Welcome. Yesterday I too was welcomed to the board. My name is Uleta and I am 25 with 2 kids (4 years and 20 months) I am sickened by my weight and aim to fix thatproblem asap. WElcome and good luck in your journey I am here for you just like many others will be on the board. I have found lots of help so far.

welcome

Uleta- Thanks for the welcome. I can imagine your kids keep you pretty busy. Mine sure seem to keep me busy and Dalton is still a newborn. I hope your journey goes smoothly as well.

Morgan- I totally understand your issues. I am a CNA and I worked until March. I was taken off work due to pregnancy complications. I too think that had alot to do with my wieght gain. After I had my son I decided not to go back to work for a while. If I was working Im sure I would drop the lbs pretty quickly because I had to do tons of walking, lifting, etc at the nursing home. My Dh eats healthy but it doesnt help me. I still want my junk. I too eat alot for comfort and alot because I am bored. I hope we can help to motivate each other. I am definately looking for accountability.

born2star- Thanks for the welcome!

Hi. Just try not to do too much at the beginning because then you will burnout. try changing small things and when you are ok with that, try changing some more small things. The most important thing is support, and you will get a ton here. Welcome.

Thanks so much for the advice. I really appreciate it. Ive dont pretty good for the last 3 days. Im really proud of myself. I have such a long way to go. I just dont want to deprive myself of anything. Thats why I like weight watchers.

Alana, hi

one thing we have in common is the husband! mine weight lifts, runs, does everything, and has never in his life had a problem with weight, and since it really got to me i ended up very big (280 pounds)
I would feel so down and embarrassed, we have all the gym gear, but i would not use it at all! just couldn't stand it!
Now i train, ( i do it while Dh is at work) and i am starting to feel a lot better about myself, though Dh still asks sometimes about how i am going, i still will not talk to him about excercise? isn't it strange!
the fitter he was the fatter i was!
There is a lot of embarrassement and emotion involved, in which i am not comfortable discussing my weight problems with my DH! as he has no idea how i feel! he often offers me chocolate or icecream, and gets offended if i get annoyed! he knows i am trying to make healthier choices! he just doesn't know what it feels like to have a weight problem, he has never had to deal with it!!!!!!!!

icedraggon- OMG we sound so much like. Its like reading my own message. It is so strange to feel that way isnt it? What program do you follow? I would appreciate any advice you can give me.

Rayne

Its just like Men do not understand how hard it is for us. It seems most of them have no trouble with weight. I wonder why that is? Thanks so much for routing for me. Im here to do the same for you if you need me. :)

Bumping up because I really need a buddy who is interested in chatting via emails, private messages, journals, messenger or something.

Hi Alana

It still really gets to me! but now i might actually be fitter than him! LOL!
I do nearly anything (when he is not around!)
i actually bought a treadmill in May this year! DH thinks i do not use it! but i won't use it when he is home. And now i have bought the playstation 2 Kinetic for my christmas present.
I just journal my food, keep it under 1800 (though most days are under 1500)
I cook from the cook books "symply too good" which i don't know if they are available o/s , she uses normal recipes and turns them low fat/low cal! like stroganoff, curries, pies, hamburgers! really good food!
and also now i try to go for a walk 5 times a week. (no DH) and lately I am trying to turn that walk into a jog.
I feel secretive journalling and watching what i eat! Dh just wouldn't have a clue, but since i am the chef of the house, he has no idea that some of the things he eats are low fat. I made a low fat curry (instead of coconut milk, use light evaporated milk, and a few drops of coconut essense, and add your curry paste or powder) and he just laughed when i said it was low fat!
Over the years I have come to really like food, not just junk food, but anything! and since he has never had to watch his diet, there tends to be anything in my cupboards! last week he bought a 1 pound block of chocolate! and 3 times already he has asked if i wanted any. I could strangle him! Of course i want some, or realistically ALL of it, but no i will not allow myself to do that.
I love him to pieces! he is the sweetest man who would do anything for me! but he just does not understand my obession with food and lack of control.
I cannot envision any day in the future when i can talk to him about weight loss and excercise! Maybe I dread him saying "I told you so"? Its just like a cloud hanging over my head.
Dh bought a kayak for his birthday, and i do use it, but if he asked me if i wanted to go out , I would say "no" just because he asked? I told him, when i want to go i will, i don't need him bothering me about it.
Maybe it is jealousy or spite on my part, that he never has a problem with food or weight, and he has always found it so easy to get up and say "going for a 5 km run, see ya"

I cannot honestly say how to get around it! i still struggle, i usually do all my excercise while he is at work, or out. I will use the treadmill, with the kids around, and the neighbours, but not with DH! maybe I need a shrink!
When i cook something low fat, i freeze the rest in meal size containers, then the next day i will cook him and the kids whatever (chips, steak, ..) and i will eat the leftovers. That way he is still getting his normal food, and i can eat low fat without making any excuses.

Does your Dh work? do you have time to yourself, I would start to do something then. get a couple of small barbells with only light weights and while watching tv, do some lifts, curls, general upper things, try adding some situps, maybe get an excercise video or DVD ? do a little 3-4 times a week, and increase it slowly until you feel ready to move on to something a little harder. If you have a bike or treadmill, do that for 1/2 hour. you will start feeling more energy and a little better just by starting! I can guarentee it! but don't give up!

Aww thanks so much for your encouragement! I really appreciate it. You have motivated me to go in there and get on the exercise bike. Im usually worn out by the time 10 minutes is up. Im gonna try to push it a little further each day. Maybe I am trying to use too much resistance too fast? You can set how hard it is for you to pedal. Maybe if I set it to the lowest resistance I could do 30 minutes. Ill certainly give it a try. Ive never really thought about counting calories instead of points. I find WW pretty easy because I can eat whatever I want but jut have to make sure its within my limits for the day. You are doing so well on your WL journey. I hope in 6 months I have came as far as you have.

Another point Alana, which got me thinking...
I am 30 - 2 kids ages 9 and 6!
you are 24 - 2 kids 4 and baby! (you are me 6 years ago)

I hope you can motivate yourself now! you will gain 6 years on me!
I wish i could go back, and not have wasted the last 6 years! it has taken me until now to really get on with doing something! in the last six years i went from overweight (sitting around 220 pounds) to OBESE!(280) the pain i could have saved myself. I have been an angry, unhappy mother to my children, i have been depressed, obsessed (with my weight), and have probably hurt a lot of people because i have been plain miserable. Today I feel great! i wish i had found that self importance and strength (mentally) years ago, the kids love it when i take them out swimming, or to the beach and I actually join in to their games of chase's.

Even 10 minutes is something girl!!!!!!! I wouldn't do it every day (you will get bored very very easily) do it for 4-5 days a week. and increase slowly! Making it easier is more cardio and will burn calories, turning it harder will more strengthen your legs and you will gain a little muscle to start with, so start easier. And start looking after yourself, if you only look after your family you will burn yourself out! if the mother is happy so is the family (according to Dr Phil!!)
Start small, and do it for yourself! be a bit selfish!
WW is brilliant! stick with it, it is a very common sense way of eating!
And don't beat yourself up, you are wanting to help yourself to better health! Go for it!

You are so right when you say I need to do it for me. I too feel bad when I am in a bad mood about my weight. I feel like I am not as happy a mother as I should be. Thats not always just when I get down over being overweight. Im still trucking along and am doing pretty good. I guess thats whats most important. Thanks so much for all your help. You wouldnt believe how much it means.

I love having more people to talk to. The more the merrier!!! I agree I want to be around positive people. Its easier for me if I am talking to someone who is encouraging me instead of telling me that I cant do it.

As for my kids you are so right about getting them to eat healthy. My oldest son is such a picky eater that I pretty much let him eat anything that he wants. But I am lucky that he likes healthy foods for the most part. My youngest son is 4 months old.. well almost 5 months. I have started him on solids. I gave him cereal for about a month and then on to veggies. I try to give him more veggies than fruits. I know from experience if you give them more fruits eventually they wont eat the veggies.

I managed to make it 12 minutes on the exercise bike today. WOO HOO!!! But it was on a medium resistance rather than a light one.

How are you girls doing?

Hola Ladies! Congrats on the 12 minutes on the bike!!!! WHOOT WHOOT! A little at a time = a lot over time!

Alana Jo, how did you know it was time for cereal? Or did you just do it at 4 months like the Dr. says? My daughter is a supported sitter and is currently doing 7 ounces every 3 hours during the day and then sleeping from 8pm when I put her down for bed and wakes at 5am for another bottle. I questioned the Dr. about possibly starting her on cereal because I feel like some cereal in the AM will help her to feel more full during the day. My Dr. said absolutly not but I am seeing that other people are giving their babies cereal at like 2 months to help them sleep through the night. What are your thoughts, there is nothing like the opinion of a Mom who has been there done that!!

You are so correct about starting with veggies....once they taste the sweetness of the fruit, its unlikely that they will choose the veggies unless they have grown a taste for them. Sounds like you know your stuff!

So do you gals do food diaries? How do you support each other other then kind words of encouragement? Do you have reward systems for yourself once you meet a goal? Alana Jo is doing WW, what is icedragon (do you have a real name or do you prefer using an alias?) doing? I'm doing calorie counting, I found a GREAT website to help me count and keep track of all my calories and activities for the day.....it makes graphs comparing input vs. output its a very helpful tool for me! www.fitday.com if you are interested, its completely free.

Hope you did well today! I look forward to hearing back!:hug:

Well the way I knew Dalton needed more than just breast milk was when he would nurse and nurse and nurse about constantly. He just didnt seem satisfied at all. I talked to my lactation consultant and she seemed to think I had been doing everything fine. She suggested either giving him some formula after he had finished nursing or giving him a little cereal. My mom also said she thought I should start him on cereal. Just a little at a time. He was right at 3 months old. I bought one of those feeder bottles and mixed just a little cereal in with some formula and water at first. Then after he nursed I would give it to him. It took him a couple times to get use to the feeder but not long at all. He was a pro at it before long. Once he got use to sucking out of the feeder I gave him a little more to thicken it up. Eventually he got up to about half cereal and half formula. After a couple weeks of him being on cereal I decided to try him on some baby foods. You need to give the step 1 jars first. Give the same kind about 4 times before giving a different kind so you will know if they are allergic to it or something. At about 4 1/2 months old he has anywhere from 1 to 2 jars a day. They suggest some cereal or fruit of the morning. Then veggies at lunch. Then cereal or fruit of the evening. But I would give cereal, veggie, and then fruit. It totally depends on how hungry he acts. I hope that helps.

I started a food journal on the first day I started my diet but I have only wrote in it a couple times. I keep track of mine on the WW book that I have here at the house. My journal name is alanajo if you wanna check out what I do have there. I also have a livejournal but I dont have that set to the public. If you are interested in that I could PM you my name. I havent really found a 'set' buddy that I talk to everyday other than on here in this thread. I do have msn messenger and would be willing to chat on there or through email if you wanted.

Also I talked to Dh earlier and he said he was gonna go work out. I told him I may come in there with him. He was like "Really?". I went in there and he showed me how to do the exercises that he does. We worked out together. It was nice. I did 4 sets of 10 tricep extensions, then 4 sets of 15 leg extensions, and then 2 sets of 15 standing calve raises. Then tonight Ill do my regular 50 crunches and 50 leg lifts. I dont plan on doing that much everyday. But I will do something small everyday.

Alana...were you a member of the August 2001 baby playgroup way back when? I saw the name baileysmomma and had that feeling.

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I am new to this board - reading some of these posts - gets me so motivated.
My name is Julie and I started Weight Watchers in mid July. To date I have lost 31 and per WW scale I need to lose 31 more.
My Christmas. New years goal is to lose another 9 pounds (to make an even 40 lost)
I have 3 children and a wonderful husband that is supporting me losing the weight. It is so nice at work that people are actually noticing my weight loss and make comments to me - that makes me feel great.
With winter in full swing in Ohio - I dont walk nightly outside like I was - so the weight is much slower. I need to find something I can do in the winter

Brandi- Yep I was and I still am :)

Osborn- WTG on loosing 31lbs that is AWESOME!!! Do you have an exercise bike or some kind of video that you could do instead of walking? Im doing a little of everything. I guess eventually I will get into a set routine. I havent seen a scale that tells you how much you should weigh from WW. Id like to see where I should be at. Do you have a link for it?

I was a little embarrassed working out with him because obviously I had no clue what I was doing and he had to help me with everything and show me how to do everything. But I think it boosted his ego that he knew so much and could teach it to me. Who knows we may end up working out together everday!

I have some Tae Bo videos but the are all VHS tapes and I dont have a VCR in the livingroom. I have a DVD player in here so I will have to buy them on DVD or move the VCR in here or something. I use to really enjoy using them. Cardio to me is majorly important to me. However I have yet to do much of it.

I still dont really report to anyone everyday except myself.

Hi Alana. I just joined today, and can definetly relate. .I have 3 girls, 7, 1 and 4 months. My husband is a personal trainer, and is in great shape, but I cannot seem to ask for his help. I gained so much in my pregnancies, and just never took it off in between children.

My husband offers his help, and I think he is hurt that I will not take it, but I also think he does not understand that I want to separate this from my life with him. I also would be too embarassed to admit my weight or how much I need to to lose. Other people pay him to help, but I don't even want to talk to him about it.

I ordered the Tae Bo Boot Camp from the Billy Blanks website, as a christmas gift to myself. I have not received it yet, but am planning on waking up early in the morning when everyone is alseep to do it.

Thanks Morgan. I am sure he knows more then I tell him, but I think I need to try this by myself for a while before I enlist his help. I think for a few reasons:

1. I am doing this for myself, not him.
2. I would rather have the push to do this come from me, not him.
3. I really need to gain some confidence on my own before I go to him.

My husband and I love eachother more then anything in the world, and hopefully I will be able to use him soon, but as of now, I just cannot bring myself to do this with anyone.

Momof3girls- Welcome. Im thrilled you jumped right in. We are here to support each other. You so welcome to stick around and join in on our conversations at any time. I too understand what your saying about your Dh. Im sure he knows how much you weigh without you telling him. I know my Dh surely knows how much I weigh without me telling him. I had never really come right out and weighed myself around him until after I had my youngest. The nurse asked me right in front of him how much I weighed. I had no choice. I had to say it. I reluctantly said 280 (before giving birth). Then the day I was to leave the hospital I weighed on the scales they had in the room. He was there and asked me how much I had lost. I was 275 but I gave birth to an 7lb 8oz baby. I guess it was from all the IVs and fluid I had. At my 6 week check up I was down to about 270. Ive ballooned back up there since I have had him. During my pregnancy I was sick as a dog. I lost down to 250 at about 6 months pregnant due to morning sickness. I figured I would tilt in around 300 lbs by the end of my pregnancy but I didnt. Then after I had my son I wasnt sick anymore and felt like I could eat a horse. I ate my way back up the lbs ladder. My Dh is no fool. I know that he knows I am overweight and that I need to loose LOTS of lbs. However he still LOVES me. He treats me just as he did when we met. I think thats one reason I put off loosing the lbs until now. He never really said anything about my weight. Yesterday was a major milestone for us. I actually worked out with him. He knows his stuff (even though he isnt a personal trainer). He has worked out almost every day since he was in high school. He will be 29 on the 10th. He showed me alot and even though I felt like an idiot he didnt mind my stupidity. I think that once you get on your way you could ask your Dh what exercises he suggests or something. You dont have to do them in front of him. Wait til he is at work or in bed like I do. Even though I may work out with dh tonight with the weights I will wait til he is in bed to do my crunches, leg lifts and things. I ride the exercise bike while he is at work during the day. Oh and I saw those Tae Bo Boot Camp collections at Walmart last week. I wanted one but couldnt afford it at the time. Id love to have it though. Once again. Welcome.

Hi Guys

i have been sooo busy lately. sorry! christmas and the heat ! (we are in a heat wave!, i have put on the air con, to cool the house enough to run on the treadmill, after i get the kids from school!)

Momof3 i am with you on not asking help! yes it confuses some but it is personal! My Dh is into fitness though not a personal instructor, i can ask him little things, like i will ask.. for tricepts what can i do, and he will show me a couple of things, but to say to him.. hey wait i will join you for your run! that would be a HUGE day when i have the guts to do that! Althougth to have a partner would mean a lot! My best friend is overweight and we walk all the time, I have suggested taking it up to partly jogging and she laughes and says " like **** i will ever run" and that is the end of the conversation.

Alana congrates for the workout with DH! wow! that is a brilliant step to make, i don't think i could yet face that! You are a lot stronger than me! I am not embarrassed about the wiggly bits or things like that, i just feel Interupted if my DH becomes involved in my fitness? if i am working out! say running on the treadmill and he comes home, i will hop off and say, whew i am finished, even though i am not?? I just feel ... like i am being selfish doing something for me? or feel uncomfortable to be wanting to do it for me??

gotta go....
sonja

I totally understand that. I really do. I feel the same way. I am that way with everything. I feel bad for doing things for myself and taking time away from my family but sometimes we have to do things for ourselves. I think it is totally normal to feel that way. I believe all Moms have those feelings at some point.

So your having a heat wave at your house? I would love to be back in the summer here. Its like 20 degrees right now.

hi! have room for a newbie???? i need this support badly...

Sure. The more the merrier!!! :)

How is everyone doing today?

Ive done really good today and havent ate anything that I shouldnt have. I still havent exercised because I have been feeling a little under the weather today. Yesterday went really well. I came in with 3 banked points and done 14 minutes on the exercise bike. Im trying to up it a minute everday. I also had a full 6 8oz glasses of water.

I did my treadmill run! in the heat, I must be a fool, but it felt really good after i had a shower than sat down.. I thought "i did it!"
The food is getting easier the longer i stick to it, journelling is a HUGE help for me! now though i write out a menu the night before, if i don't i tend to eat too little, if i have a plan of attack i am fine, if i eat something different than planned, i just adjust the rest of the day to fit the cals in. Like today MIL and FIL are coming over, which means coffee and cake! so i will add that in and scratch dessert tonight.

Hi Mizz vicki, 3FC is brilliant for support, don't know how i would do without coming and checking in! makes me accountable!

It is going to be one hot christmas here, i would give almost anything to have a white christmas! instead of sweltering trying to cook, while all the chocies have melted and the kids are trying to kill each other, since they are all hot and crabby!!!

Hi I am Nikki. I am 27 years old and single with no kids. Currently living in Arizona in the Glendale area. Over the last year I have gained a tremendous amount of weight. I am at the heaviest point of my life. I recently joined weight watchers. On my third week and I have lost 4.8 lbs.

I can totally relate to the journal helping. I write everything I eat down on my WW book and it really makes you stop and think about how much food you are actually putting into your body.

WTG on the treadmill. I think I would have had to pass if it is that hot. Its cold here and I think that helps me along with the bike. Im feeling better finally but still have no been on the bike today. I confessed that to Dh and he said its good to take a break once in a while so you dont get burned out and so your muscles can breathe. I have been on the bike everyday except one in the last 2 weeks. I think I deserve a break from it tonight. But I will try to do something else tonight so I dont go the entire day without exercising at all.

Ive only had 4 glasses of water today. I havent felt well and really havent drank that much. I know its not an excuse though. I should have a glass before every meal but I havent today. :( Shame on me!!!

Foxcblak- Welcome!! WTG on the almost 5 lbs lost!! Thats great. Are you exercising as well as doing the WW?

let yourself have the day off alana without feeling guilty, muscles need time to rebuild after you do excercise, especially if you are only starting out.
i try to do 4-5 days a week, and then find something different to do another 9like a jog! (walk!LOL) or kayak, ....

keep up the motivation, you can do it!