[charlene1970]

Hello...
I am a former OH member who decided that wls was not for me after 5 months of jumping thru hoops. So I embracing my self for excercing and eating healthy not for what the scale says.
Still Fat But still got all my guts in tact.
South Jersey...the burbs of PHILLY
Char

[Indiacatz]

Hi and welcome aboard....WLS is not for everyone... I belong to Tops, sometimes a good support system helps....We are all in this together.....India

[POOKIE88]

Hi Char,

Just posting here to wish you luck. I saw your post on the 3FC WLS Weight Loss Surgery forum.

I agree 100% that surgery would not be a good choice for someone who only has 70 lbs to lose. Especially if that person is in good health. Also I do not know how many times you have tried to lose in the past.

I also agree that if you do not have ANY HEALTH issues you should have 2nd thoughts before doing the surgery.

I can't speak for other forums or other websites, but I know that the 3FC WLS forum NEVER EVER tries to talk anyone into getting the surgery. If anything the folks who frequent the 3FC WLS forum always encourage newbies to do a lot of research before making any decisions. I think the WLS forum is also very good at giving a BALANCED picture. We point out both the CONS as well as the PROS of the various surgeries.

Some other forums (other than 3FC) give such a rosy picture and only talk about the PROS of WLS and never the cons. That always irks me. I would never try to influence anyone to get the surgery, I would not want to have that responsibility if they were not happy in the end.

If anything I go too far the OTHER way and I keep asking if they honestly tried dieting and tried it MANY times.

Having said all that I am still glad I had the WLS. I had a heck of a lot more than 70 lbs to lose. I had many HEALTH problems and I had tried dieting & exercising COUNTLESS times and OVER 20 years. So no regrets here. If anything I wish I had done it many years earlier.

The one thing I feel a bit bad about is that I sometimes sense some "anger" from the people who are against WLS towards the folks who had it. I only agree with the anger when I see the folks who had the surgery and then do NOTHING healthy afterwards. They do not exercise or eat healthy. Yes that gets me angry, especially since they seem to be the ones that always wind up on TV But I am here to tell you that there are MANY folks who had WLS who do exercise and who do watch what they eat carefully. Folks like Jiffy and Chickadee and Janet and My4Monkeys and many others here are always trying our best to find a HEALTHY path after WLS.

Char, I wish you lots of luck in your new dieting & exercise program. I hope your husband gives you lots of support and walks the walk.. --Pookie