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Senior Member
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Wausau, WI
Posts: 13,383
S/C/G: SW:394/310/180
Height: 5'6"
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I also have fibromyalgia and insulin resistance/diabetes, low thyroid (but not low enough to treat, autoimmine disease and a whole laundry list of assorted ailments that when listed make me sound like a hypochondriac.
About nine, ten years ago, I was a complete mess. I had to quit driving, quit working, and my husband had to work, assume all the household responsibilities, and take care of me. I even needed his help to get dressed in the mornings, and sometimes needed his help to get in and out of the shower (and needed a shower chair to shower).
Over the last nine years, I've gotten healthier as his health has declined and we're now both on disability, but that's another story.
Back to my getting thinner (about 100 lbs thinner) and healthier, the last ten years of health struggles has been like digging myself out of a deep well with a plastic teaspoon, then a metal teaspoon, and (occasionally) a tablespoon, and along the way, I keep dropping my spoon.
Losing 100 lbs over the course of 10 years doesn't seem very impressive. It comes to about 3 ounces per month. More accurately it was many weeks of gaining and losing the same pounds and going months and even years without losses. Mant times, one step forward and two steps back, and many more of standing still and occasionally taking ten steps forward and nine steps back.
By nearly all common definitions of weight loss success, I'm failing miserably, but I've failed off more than 100 lbs (or thousands, depending on how you look at it).
I choose to see the success rather than the failure. I've never kept my weight so stable ever in my like. Before ten years ago, I had spent my entire life yoyo dieting. Lose, gain more, lose (not quite as much), gain even more. In a very real sense, I dieted my way up to nearly 400 lbs, and I would have kept gaining if I hadn't decided to break the yoyo, initially vowing only to "stop gaining."
I then started making healthy changes I vowed to keep at, even if no weight loss resulted, and for the first two years, no weight loss resulted, but I did make many other amazing accomplishments (like being able to shower standing up and tie my own shoes and be awake more than four hours a day.
My advice is to keep that teaspoon with you. Keep making changes you know are good for you even if the weight doesn't come off. Let weight loss become just one of many rewards, rather than the goal. The goal is doing more this week than last, more today, than yesterday.
Give yourself other rewards, because the weight loss may come too slow for you to enjoy the journey otherwise.
I've found that a higher veggie, lower grain diet helps my fibro and autoimmine symptoms tremendously. Wheat is my worst symptom trigger (and giving it up has been a very difficult process).
Reducing carbs on a vegetarian diet can be challenging, but it is possible, especially if you eat soy, eggs, and dairy, and there are several recipe books available on the topic.
I have found that tapioca, oays, rice and potato cause fewer symptoms than quinoa, corn and beans, but even quinoa, corn and beans cause FAR fewer symptoms than sugar and far, far fewer than wheat (wheat has become my worst frenemy. I love the flavor and texture of wheat, but it is pretty much poison to me).
You may not have problems with wheat and sugar, but you might, or there may be other food triggers. Experiment, and write EVERYTHING down. Keep track of food, sleep, pain levels, emotion, weight and look for patterns.
When I complained (early in my weight loss, after only 30 pounds or so) to my doctor that I couldn't lose weight like a normal person, he reminded me that losing nothing or even gaining was normal, so that losing and maintaining a loss of even one pound actually made me extraordinary.
That's been the hardest lesson to learn. Most of my life I was actually succeeding at losing or at least at "not gaining" but I saw my successes as failures, because I thought everyone else was doing better than I was. Truth was, we don't usually hear from the majority of strugglers, only from those in the top 1% and we define pretty much the rest (all 99%) as failures.
You are not failing. You will find your path just by not giving up, and through experimentation. Reward yourself daily for not giving up.
Btw, as a specific suggestion, Iwould recommend that you consider getting your thyroid levels checked. It may be time to add or up the dosage of thyroid meds.
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