[bellini]

Well here I am devastated at my weight gain over the last few years. Hitting rock bottom hurts.

We moved to Italy from the UK last year with my husbands job, & wow being fat in this country is the worst. Every shop is skinny skinny skinny, & what they think is an XL is far from it.

But maybe that will help me as I can not live like this anymore & I can no longer hide from it. When I met my husband in 2005 I was a UK 12 & that was fine, but ow I am between a UK18 & UK20. How did this happen, I know my husband loves me no matter what but sometimes I think that because of that I get complacent, & don't need to try.

But we do have 2 kids an almost 6 year old & a 2 year old so I have to get healthy for them, & over the weekend I got dressed up to go out & I hated how I looked and felt, I looked massive & felt so uncomfortable.

Without delaying & yes after a massive temper tantrum I immediately started that day.

I have struggled today, my husband is a pilot so I find I eat more when he is not here in the evenings, & looking online for support I came across this site & I'm hoping this will take my mind off of food, which I seem to constantly think about.

So bring on the new me, I think I am now ready to reclaim my life

[aspen13]

Welcome to 3FC! Good for you on getting started! Take things day by day. Root yourself on and celebrate all your achievements. You know eating is an issue when your hubby is gone. During those times come here, keep a running dialog going in your head what you really want, think of your children, take that energy and place it elsewhere. I like to jump into house cleaning or a chore, go swimming, exercise, enjoy doing something with my son. Change your routine up to throw things off. You can do this! This is a wonderful forum. You will find much support and motivation here.

[Rintin]

Welcome!! I eat more when my husband is not around too. I make sure to plan things to do those times and plan all my meals really well that day. It takes work but it's worth it! God bless!

[JRP2689]

Welcome! My husband is in the military and it is so much easier to eat healthy and stick to a diet when he isn't here. I find it easier to deal with cravings if I have a routine in place for my day. So breakfast is 8, lunch is at 12, snack at 3, dinner at 6. It helps to have something to look forward to and any other time I start to feel hungry I just drink water. Good luck!

[bellini]

Originally Posted by JRP2689

Welcome! My husband is in the military and it is so much easier to eat healthy and stick to a diet when he isn't here. I find it easier to deal with cravings if I have a routine in place for my day. So breakfast is 8, lunch is at 12, snack at 3, dinner at 6. It helps to have something to look forward to and any other time I start to feel hungry I just drink water. Good luck!

Hi,

Thank you for your post, & I shall be doing that plan as of today, I think you are right set my meal times & its something to work to.

Yesterday I changed my way of using my treadmill, so instead of saying I am doing x amount of time I am using the calorie counter on it so am working out on the treadmill in blocks of 100 calories, & I found that drove me more than a time.

[NemesisClaws]

I have a trip to France in September and I dearly want to be able to try on clothes while I'm there. But I know at my current weight I probably won't be able to find anything. I'm trying to use the trip as a motivator to exercise.....that's a work in itself!

I've always heard that Italian women stay so skinny because they walk everywhere. Is that true? Have you asked any of them for tips? I'm curious to know how they do it.

[zoesmom]

May of the people here, both men and women, have been in your shoes. We feel your pain! Know you have support and know that we want to see your goals reached. Welcome...and good luck!!!

[Mozzy]

Welcome and good luck on your journey!!