I started to get fat at age 8. The class bully noticed before I did and sang a song about me rolling myself to the fridge as a way of welcoming me to my newly minted "fat" status. By the time I was a teenager I was officially obese, crisscrossed with stretch marks, and thoroughly confused. I have never believed, not to this day, that prior to college I ate more or moved less then my thin friends!
When I started college I decided "this is MY time," no more having my food choices dictated by my, also obese, mother, no more living in a town so small that we don't even have a gym within 30 minutes of my home, now I was gonna take charge and prove I could do this... instead I gained 15 pounds. I can not stress enough how much this hurt me, I chose the dorm that was closest to the gym and went twice a day, I ate perfectly- low calorie and very balanced- until cooking so much became a chore and I only ate oatmeal 3 times a day for a month (not healthy but nonetheless should have resulted in weight loss). I went to the doctor to ask how this gain was possible, the calories in/ calories out just did not line up, and he CALLED ME A LIAR! said I must be eating and drinking more then I realized and that the freshman 15 was normal.
I cried so freaking hard, then went to a different doctor who ordered a thyroid test... the results were I had literally the lowest possible thyroid function before they medicate you, literally .01 away from pills. I started crying in the office, which Ive never done in my life before or since, how could such a slim margin keep me from magic pills to speed my metabolism? the doc recommended exercise, explaining exercise can raise your resting metabolism, since Id ALREADY TOLD HIM i was working out twice a f@#king day all this accomplished was making me feel like a worthless liar all over again, and I started binge eating. I figured if I was gonna be fat anyway why deprive myself? I reached 240 within 2 months.
I feel like being fat has made me miss my own life, there are so many things I stop myself from doing due to my weight. Its funny, my friends think Im so confident, never just "the fat girl" but instead "the pretty & funny fat girl." I get applauded for never insulting myself for a laugh, because I go to waterparks and the beach and (amazing!) even let pictures be taken of me in my bathingsuit.... its so dumb that this is something Im applauded for! "Wow, you let people see you, you're SO brave." What an insult! and doubly painful because I am NOT brave, I wont move to new york because I think the city is too cool for someone like me. I won't let people set me up on dates cause I dont want the poor sucker to walk in and see a fat chick waiting for him. Ive stopped myself from being anything because I feel like I'll always be fat first.... not an author but a fat author, not a grad student but a fat grad student and on and on...
Im here looking for support. For advice on controlling binge eating, staying motivated, and most importantly to help me believe that not being fat is even possible. I have never been an average weight adult, so sometimes it's hard to believe I ever will be one. Its hard to work for a better body while knowing this body will never be perfect and "hot" in my own eyes, (due to stretch marks and the probability of lose skin) not even if I do lose every single extra pound.
I feel like this is a pretty bleak introduction, and I hope no one feels upset reading it... Im hoping anyone here who feels a bit of the same can know theyre not alone, and when we finally do tackle this monster it'll be nice to have done it together
current weight: 224 pounds/ size 20
ultimate goal: to comfortably wear a size 12/13 -since that is the largest size all the stores Id love to shop in carry, and since I personally consider a size 13 girl to be "curvy" and not "fat"... Any girls on here who wear a size 13 and want to lose weight, please take a moment to realize that the body you currently have is someones ULTIMATE GOAL! You can still improve yourself if you want, but just take a moment to let that sink in and appreciate your body