[beby32]

Hello everyone,
I am new to this site. I have been roaming around for the last week or so, looking for a way to just get started. Today I was happy to find this site and I am hoping to get some motivation, guidance and ideas from it.

I am a single mom of 2, I have been down this road before. I have lost and gained, lost and gained and lost and gained again. I have gained about 70 lbs in the last year and a few months. I am the biggest I have ever been. I am tired and just tired of being tired and out of breath. Funny thing is that I love to go to the gym but I have not been there in a while because I am embarrassed, and I just don't want anyone to say hi to me or ask me where I have been. I purposely changed gyms but I am still bumping into people.

I have not gone out in probably a year, and I don’t want to go out, I hate shopping and its just not fair to have this attitude. My girls want to do things and I am always coming up with a reason as to why I can't or that I am busy.

I don't want to live my life like this. I am only 32, yet I feel so old.

I am at my heaviest not 250 and I want to start with small goals and go from there.

I do pretty good once I can plan my meals and know what I am doing, so please share any ideas or tips that have help you succeed.

[Gamerlady]

Welcome beby32. What do you think makes you go back to gaining? For me it was distraction. If I was stressed, bored, depressed even happy, I would eat. I noticed that when I did that my problems would go away while eating then come back stronger when I was done.

I started off little by taking vitamins and fish oil, after 2 weeks of that I started walking more. Following through with those small things lifted my mood up and motivated me to talk with my doctor to set up a plan that benefited me. I love to eat so we came up with the eat every 2 hour plan Its pretty awesome and I have stuck with it for 3 months now and can see myself sticking with it forever! You just need to find the plan you are most comfty with. I know you can do it

[beby32]

Originally Posted by Gamerlady

Welcome beby32. What do you think makes you go back to gaining? For me it was distraction. If I was stressed, bored, depressed even happy, I would eat. I noticed that when I did that my problems would go away while eating then come back stronger when I was done.

I started off little by taking vitamins and fish oil, after 2 weeks of that I started walking more. Following through with those small things lifted my mood up and motivated me to talk with my doctor to set up a plan that benefited me. I love to eat so we came up with the eat every 2 hour plan Its pretty awesome and I have stuck with it for 3 months now and can see myself sticking with it forever! You just need to find the plan you are most comfty with. I know you can do it

RELATIONSHIPS....DEPRESSION... that is it, becuase every single time I get into a relationship and things start happening I stop doing the things I did for me and I just get stuck and depress and I eat, I love to eat, but when I am depressed is like I punish myself by eating more.
It may sound stupid but that seems to be what happens. I am still trying to figure out my triggers. Needless to say I am now leaving a 2 and half year relationship and I just need to focus on me, me, me...because when I am good and happy so are my girls.

[Gamerlady]

It doesnt sound stupid at all. I have been there 3 times myself and finally met someone I can trust. I saw myself starting to not focus on myself and talked to my boyfriend about it and he asked me how he can be supportive lol any of my previous bf's would have replied well do something about it and stop bothering me with it. So I truly do understand where you are coming from.

[beby32]

Originally Posted by Gamerlady

It doesnt sound stupid at all. I have been there 3 times myself and finally met someone I can trust. I saw myself starting to not focus on myself and talked to my boyfriend about it and he asked me how he can be supportive lol any of my previous bf's would have replied well do something about it and stop bothering me with it. So I truly do understand where you are coming from.

Thank you....
I want to start with small goals, 5lbs at a time

[Onederchic]

Hi and welcome to 3FC.

My main tip is to figure out a healthy plan and stick to it 150%.

Good luck with your goals.

Hugs
Michelle

[beby32]

Originally Posted by Onederchic

Hi and welcome to 3FC.

My main tip is to figure out a healthy plan and stick to it 150%.

Good luck with your goals.

Hugs
Michelle

That is the plan

[Liliann]

Welcome! Good luck with your efforts!