Hi and welcome.
Hmm....yeah...I have been in the exact same place you just described. In fact, that's one of the things that makes message boards like this so great....that here, you don't have to hide your awful secret....PLUS you learn that not only are you not the only person who does these behaviors and feels this way...but that most of us all do/did the exact same thing. It's the nature of the condition, basically.
OK...for starters, since you said you loved the eating plan you utilized to lose weight, I'd like to know: Were there ANY challenges with your eating plan? And what were they?
Because different eating plans work for different people and not for others. And I truly believe that in most instances of giving up (or of endlessly postponing doing it again/starting) are due to being on the wrong eating plan for that person....NOT some major personal fault or lack of will-power.....which is what most of us assume....leading to blaming ourselves and feeling even more bummed-out. Which doesn't help at all.
For instance for me...certain plans would spell doom right from the get-go and I'm not even a picky eater. It has to do with what types of foods work for me (metabolically) and for ME...one type spells doom and the other one spells success....and it's EASY success...literally a breeze. On the one I would give up easily and endlessly postpone doing it again. With the other, no problem. In fact, it's my diet of choice.
And on this board there is just tons of info on all the various diets and eating plans under the sun....that you can investigate and read about. So that you can discover which one works the best for you.
And one other thing...which I just got done posting about to someone else new here.....when I lose the weight...and am SO happy and feel so great about it....I'll get this lightbulb over the head moment...regarding TIME. And basically......it's that it doesn't matter how long it is going to take you....it's all about where you are gonna be when that time span passes. Because it IS going to pass, regardless of whether you stay fat or lose the weight. And it's your choice if year after year, you want to dread others seeing you at family events and holidays....yet again and again and again. Or whether this time, you are going to get there and look forward to them.
The thing is...most of us gain our wisdom after the fact. The "I wish I'd known this when I started" factor. BUT, I realized this the first time I lost a significant amount of weight...all my pregnancy weight back in the early 90's....and I made it a point to remember it and utilize it this time around. Because it made the time factor, which can be so over-whelming and self-defeating...seem almost inconsequential. Because really, it IS inconsequential. That period of time IS going to pass...again and again and again. And it doesn't matter how long it is......it's where are you going to be when it passes? Putting it off for yet another year? Or getting where you want to be? How MANY of those time spans, which are literally opportunities, are you going to let pass you by?
Hope this made some sense.
deena
Tired Of Being Fat
