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Dinky,
So many things are going through my mind as I read your post - I wish I could be there with you, give you a hug and share my feelings on what you've expressed here today. First of all, as so many have said, we all have failed at something whether it is weight loss or something else, often many times - it is what happened - it is not who or what we are. Also the past does not determine or predict our future - it's what we do now, today, that will determine tomorrow - will we make a change? - will we look forward or continue to look back? That's the only thing in our control - everything else is over and done. I think you are probably a very lovely, caring person - I'm sure if any of us shared our stories, complete with the many times we have tried to lose weight or actually have, only to gain it all back (and more), you would never, never call us a failure or a disaster and would find us very deserving of a kind word or a shoulder to cry on along with a loving hug. If you would willingly offer this support to us, people you don't know yet, could you not give just a little of the same to yourself?- that's how we all feel about you! Do I know how you feel? ABSOLUTELY! Have I felt the same way about myself, calling myself the same names, feeling unworthy of others' help and support, undeserving of good things to happen? ABSOLUTELY! But no more - I can't if I want to be healthy and be the person I need and want to be. The fact is everyone has their own issues - some have more to lose. some less - some have health complications or situations that make everything that much more difficult, some don't - where ever we are in the pile, there's always someone better off or worse. But we are all in this together or can be - please be with us - let us be a part of your journey to cheer you on - you just need to do the same thing for us, and more importantly, for yourself - if we all deserve it, so do you - I promise! Please read the stories here - you will see people of all different sizes, ages, situations - they have done it or are doing it - that's where I get my strength from, that's what keeps me going and coming back for more - I draw inspiration and hope that their success can be mine, with lots of work and determination over many months & months, but it can be mine. It also can be yours - you've taken the right steps to get going and you've found the right place - YOU CAN DO THIS! |
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You are NOT a failure. A failure is someone who falls and doesn't get back up. Look at you! You recognized the issue, went to the doctor, and are already making huge strides by eating healthy and walking. I'm doing the slow and steady thing too - so we can do this together and take it one pound at a time! Please try not to be so hard on yourself! We're all here for you and rooting for you! |
Thank you all so much. I feel better already. My husband , we will have been married 34 years at the begining of December, told me that I would get help on here when we were looking for a good forum.
He's a smashing man. We lost 3 babies at the begining of our marriage and then had a beautiful baby girl, who looked like a little angel. She is still beautiful at age 30 but sadly so deeply autistic & epileptic she will never be able to live a so called normal life. We adore her to bits. Its 8.45 am here in the UK and I must go and have my cereal and fruit for breakfast. I'm not a breakfast eater normally but have to say I feel better with having it this week. . |
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I'm sorry to hear about the 3 children you lost :(. I can't imagine how hard that must be. Your daughter sounds like a blessing & you seem like you must be a wonderful mom! So glad you're feeling better!! |
So glad to hear that today was better - you had been in my thoughts all day.
How wonderful that you and your husband found each other - I can only imagine how much you both treasure your precious daughter - it sounds like there's a lot of love in your family. Keep up the good work - just take it a day at a time - that's all any of us can do - and know that we are all pulling for you! |
You are all such lovely people.
I've just got in from walking the dog (daft labrador) It is so nice doing this diet with my doctor and a dietician. They are so different to what I expected, have given me nothing but encouragement and support. And with a goal of 2-3 lbs a week and telling me to throw my scales away! I feel the pressure is off. They've even told me not to be discouraged if I only lose a pound this first week because, eating badly last week means the weight will still keep going on up to about yesterday. So to look on next week as the start |
Welcome to 3fc's Dinky! Please don't ever think of yourself as a failure. I was shorter than you and heavier when I started to lose weight and if I can do this anyone can. I was morbidly obese for twenty years, but have struggled with weight my whole life.
Stick around and post often so we can support you! I wish you all the best. |
Hi Dinky,
You are so not a failure! Just because the diets you've tried have failed doesn't mean you failed. There are so many "diets" out there, it's hard to decide which one you can follow. I'm over 50 too, and post on the 50+ site. Great bunch of people, and so much support. Come on over and join us. I post there because I have more in common with someone who is closer to my age. Face it, we just don't lose as quickly as someone younger. Doesn't me we can't lose, just a little slower. Come on over and check us out. |
You're in good company, honey - we're all in your boat! We can do this, if we stick together.
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So glad to hear that it all went well with the doctor and dietician - it sounds like you have the right people on your team! How wonderful that they are giving you realistic and attainable goals - that is so important so that you can stick with it and be successful. You are off to great start - just take it a day at a time - remember: you can do this - you have your husband, doctor, dietician and all of us rooting for you! |
Oh girls you are such an inspiration! There's folk on here exactly the same as me! I can't believe it. I've felt so alone for such a long time, and that there was no hope for me, I would just have to settle for fat. The stories on here are inspirational, really. I'll certainly try the over 50's forum slimme. Leeway you would give anyone confidence
I don't know if this is wishful thinking, because I'm not hoping to start a 2lb loss until next week, but my knees haven't been so creaky for the last couple of days. My mum has demenia and I try to go and see her as often as I can, she's in a wonderful care home but I still feel guilty about it. She lived with us for as long as we could hold on to her, but our daughter started to feel frightened of her weird behaviour. Anyway! when I got out of the car in the carpark of the home (its only a couple of miles from our house) I didn't have any pain in my knees at all! |
Hi Dinkey,
I'll look for you over on the +50 Golden Girls site. You are not alone, and there is help. Getting out of the car and your knees not hurting is a none-scale-victory. You'll start getting a lot of them, the longer you stay on your diet. Sorry to hear that your mom has dementia. Horrible disease. My mom is getting symptoms too. |
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Just checking in - I'm happy to hear you are doing well. That's good news about your knees - small changes can lead to noticeable results! I can relate to your experience with your mother - I took care of mine for almost 20 years (11 of them, she was completely bedridden) - there are so many mixed emotions - unless someone has gone through it, it's hard to understand. Keep reading the goal and mini goal stories - they are what help keep me on track - I'm glad you were inspired by them as well. Take care - hope you and your family have a nice weekend! :hug: |
Hi Dinky, I rejoined sw last week and one of the members recommended this forum. I'm nearly 46 and have lost and regained more times than I care to mention.
My starting weight is 258.5lbs. I'm going to take one step at a time. Wish I'd found this forum sooner - everyone is so friendly and there is loads of helpful advice. Good luck on your journey. |
Hello veggie patch. We are roughly the same weight. I'm 59. I can't tell you how this forum has helped me. They are fantastic people. It doesn't matter what diet you are on, you get support and not preached at. I'm going across not to start a little thread on the 50+ one. Keep in touch
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